₦airaland Forum

BoldBrainz:
Person no fit just come read news for this una nairaland on Fridays and Sundays without all these una useless religious sermons.

Mtscheew!

Oga there are other sections on nairaland. Btw today is a Sunday. If you want to join so called atheist that are basically just angry with God because he didn’t answer a prayer of theirs feel free. But you can always skip.

happney65:
Without ni ooo.

Na me and Satan dey gidigba

What is funny about this?
Just Dey play.

paxx:
My parents want me to marry a girl that they hand picked for me from my community. Shes drop dead gorgeous and our families are perfectly coupled together.

My long term gf is from a different area, and I wanted to marry her. Yes we've only been together for 2 years but I know she LOVES ME.

Who should I pick?

The girl my parents picked is GORGEOUS and can bring our family alot of political connections and wealth. But my long term gf is obsessed with me, and I love her.

The girl my parents picked claims she loves me. but I dont know how since we dont know each other. My dad said I should give her a chance, and went as far as to say that if I marry the girl im dating he will cut me off.

I ended up marry the one from my community traditionally after my long term gf aborted my child. Since I live in a different country, when I went back home to where I stay with my gf. I married her in the court house. (Yes I'm crazy)

Now I have two wives and I have to divorce one.

If I divorce my long time gf, she will hate me. If I divorce the one from my community traditionally I'll be in trouble in my area, and it will affect my family.

What should I choose?

Your post is the reason why your parents even chose for you….because you as a man don’t even know what you want for yourself. Imagine coming online to ask this silly question. Do what pleases you.

Samantha125:
Then this means we'll have to reward anyone showing us kind gestures on a daily basis in order to encourage them to continue being nice towards us, which is impossible.

We'll be basically buying their kindness.

You already get the point of what I’m saying but you just feel like making a strawman argument.

Did I say you must do it to everyone? Doing so once in a while helps and encourages people to keep being good not like you’re trying to buy it.

Samantha125:
But still, such things are supposed to be free... A simple thank you should be enough.

There’s something called rewarding good behavior. Even if it’s supposed to be free, doing that still encourages people to continue to be better.

Well, he is even still reasonable to give you a 3 months quit notice, some wont….make sure you are refunded your remaining rent before leaving the place and just trust God for a bigger and better location. It’s time for you to expand

Forumites:
how much ?

Keke is 2.8m just Dey play. And this was around April that’s if t hasn’t increased again.

Morenikeji090:
Yes very necessary coz you people brought that shit to yourself your people wake us up to start bullying you..

Who is the you people? Who told you I am from the south east? Stop being foolish bigot and go and acquire sense. Luckily it’s free to get.

Morenikeji090:
Emeka it's not a must to live in south west region and second if your landlord increase your rent that much leave the house and go look for another one period...

Was this necessary?

Ibkay32:
Houses are expensive in that area, but I still don’t see anything remarkable that justifies the high cost of rent in Ogbomoso.

They are just wicked hiding under Tinubu economy to increase rent…how many people earn to much to pay such amount annually? It’s part of the innate wickedness of Nigerians.

MrGerald:
At least we need to know what is there that's heating us like this

True anyways. For me, I always protect my eyes with shades. Whether the dark one or transparent one as the occasion suits

livebullet:
Just imagine if this level of ignorance is allowed to comment on religion. He will bring same deficiency to play.
Who says the sun is a solid object where once can land or stay?

Well, maybe you have your own wealth of contrary knowledge.

What brought religion into this matter now while trying to pass your point?

sweetkev:
How do you know this. No one has been there before

The sun is a burning gaseous body. It does not have a landing surface unlike the moon

Oyibo people don chop belleful…let’s even say it was possible to reach the sun do you think you will survive there? Nawa oo

Curious345:
No you did not experience it

Nawa…mainly what I’m seeing on thread is unnecessary age group fight. Gen z are people born from 1997 to 2012……at least the older gen z still played games like biro game, paper football, rubber band chopping game…still watched films that were cassettes not dvds…still experienced actual life before we even bought dstv and met internertet phones in 2008….playing games on computers with ogo running on windows 95…I really don’t know what the fight is about telling someone “ you’ve not experienced it” like you gave birth to her

AmiableMosquito:


I had a female friend who was like a bestie to me at that time. She is so loving, caring and very funny. Troublesome too. But she was also super skinny then. So anytime we met, I'd playfully call her "my friendly mosquito"

She somehow liked it whenever I teased her like that cos I remember how she'd chase me around after calling her that. She enjoyed playing a lot. Unfortunately, we never dated cos I never found her physically attractive enough for an amorous relationship. But she was/is my padi forever.

So while trying to coin a name, I thought of her. I initially wanted to use "friendlymosquito" but nairaland said it was too long. So I settled for AmiableMosquito. 🤣🤣

Thank you for asking

Thanks for sharing

@amiablemosquito

I’ll like to hear yours

cococandy:
Women are busy too.

People make time for what’s important to them.

Busy doing what? Only a few percentage of ladies are doing legit work while the rest are trying to cover their hookup with so called selling of accessories or influencer page.

Johnholmes:
Women support women on nonsense until it affects their brother

This one sweet me no be small...
Women should continue supporting each others folly oooo .
but if e affect ur brother, no come cry give us ..
The other day , one woman dey para online say her brother gave 50k transport to invite a girl to their house and didn't show up after she had worked tirelessly that day to cook a delicious meal and clean the house and even lent her brother some of that transport money to give the girl...

Things like this dey sweet me diee....

Saidaboj and co , u know say you have brothers oooo...
May girls do to them as u dey do other men

Don’t mind them…also when you tell them that a dress is indecent they’ll pretend like they don’t know what you’re talking about until their housemaid or friend wears that same dress near their boyfriend/husband

Ibehchizzy:
Yea unboxed it since may

Wow…to unbox iPhone for naija rare oo

This just shows you that the ladies that have audacity to be prostitutes have the backings of their mothers. That’s why they don’t have shame.

Ibehchizzy:
New ios update Dey decrease battery like crazy
I’m still on the 17.7 and I prefer to leave it that way
Coz my battery health is still 100 percent

Omo I can’t risk updating again for now oo.

You said your iPhone battery is hundred…you unboxed it?

Goodlyhrt:
It's a lie because the vagina is self cleaning--the pH level of the vagina is slightly acidic so that unhealthy microorganisms are kept away.

My advice is, if it feels right, smells right, then do it.

Continue

Good evening. Please who else is noticing their battery reduce after updating to IOS 18?

Mynd44 nlfpmod

travelzcruix:
God allowed this Pharaoh for a reason. Bible scholars what number of Plague are we currently on?

God allowed tinubu to punish Nigerians because to be honest… Nigerians don’t have sense.

Nlfpmod

Fp please. Let’s say no to sexual sins

CyrusVI:
You guys should stop making the thread distasteful to all abeg. '
Must you drag your region into the discussion?

Its not about the East, just stay on topic....You seem to be more of a bigot that i earlier thought sef

lol 🤡

hassinho707:
You are the one who is clearly confused here.

Let me educate you.

No body is talking of a woman being or not being under the authority of a man here. You are the one who has come out with that one.

This is where I even support this matter. Take for example, a woman who got married before her NYSC and wants her husband's name on her NYSC certificate, and later, she's no longer with that her husband maybe do to divorce or death, and maybe she now happened to marry another man.

What name do you think should be on the NYSC certificate after marrying a another husband?

A woman can marry more than one husband in her life time, and do you think NYSC would have that time to be changing the names on her certificate? NO, but her father will always remain her father whether dead or alive.

Do you understand now?

Okay.

Mccullum:
These believers of other faiths won't succumb on intruding Islamic thread. How does this concern them?

they'll be the first to say Islam is not religion of peace but still in fore front on looking for who to insult uncouthly.

Very their hatred against Muslims are immeasurable. very pathetic.

Tell that to people like@antichristian
You people really can’t see your hypocrisy at times. You start what you can’t finish then cry genocide like Palestine.

gaskiyamagana:
Hope you are not saying NYSC took the decision to propagate Islam.
Meanwhile, to say "... rejecting practices that are inconsistent with justice, logic, and faith." is inappropriate, if not incorrect.
Its good for woman to retain her root, the root she now join is insignificant in her life or the struggle and the sufferness of the husband on her should remain unnoticed?

Like do you get? The write up really get comma.

Lukgaf:
The recent memo by the NYSC, which states that married women are no longer mandated to change their father’s name to their husband’s name, is a commendable step in the right direction.

This decision not only upholds individuality but also aligns with Islamic principles that have always emphasized the importance of maintaining one’s lineage and identity.

In Islam, a woman is identified by her father’s name, not by her husband’s. Allah says in the Qur'an:

"Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allah. [Al-Ahzab 33:5]

This verse underlines the significance of preserving one’s lineage, a principle that extends to naming conventions. The practice of women adopting their husband’s surname is rooted in cultural influences that are foreign to Islamic teachings and has no basis in Shari`ah.

A woman’s identity remains tied to her lineage, not her marital status. Taking a husband’s name as if she becomes part of his lineage creates confusion, disregards her connection to her family, and contradicts the principles of justice and clarity that Islam advocates. It also raises practical issues—what happens if she remarries after a divorce or the death of her husband? Should her identity keep shifting with each marriage? Such practices not only undermine the significance of her lineage but also complicate matters of inheritance, mahram relationships, and other rulings tied to her father’s name.

As Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd (may Allah have mercy on him) eloquently said, "Calling a person by his father’s name is more appropriate for knowing who is who and telling people apart."

This reflects both the wisdom and beauty of Islamic teachings, which safeguard lineage and personal identity.

The decision by NYSC is a move toward preserving the individuality of women and respecting their roots. It reminds us of the importance of maintaining our values and rejecting practices that are inconsistent with justice, logic, and faith.

May Allah guide us all to do what is right and protect our identities in this world and the Hereafter.

@bolded,

If it will create confusion why marry in the first place? If you’re not ready to be under the authority of your husband stay in your father’s house. Once you marry you are now under the authority of your husband. But who am I to advise a confused set of people.