That's a clean shot. I'll take up her offer if I was the one.

RedCreme21:
how about your friend?

He's way older

RedCreme21:
You just made it worse. Im 16years, so i seriously doubt your age.

I'm in my early twenties

Dimples0303:
Children should do their homework and not bother themselves with relationships

Lol I'm older than you. Hope you having a great day?

donbachi:
She will claim plausible deniability

Exactly

RedCreme21:
I was thirteen when i stopped visiting all those relationship analyzing websites for my crushes.
You must be way younger

I'm probably older than you. You can also check it out cos it seems authentic. My friend says they use horoscope for the analysis.

http://love.loudthoughts.com.ng

She's always picking calls in secluded places. She also prevents me from going through her phone meanwhile she checks mine every now and then. So my friend showed me to one website that analyses relationship. I decided to use it and here's what it told me about my relationship and new babe. It seems real to me because I had been suspecting her of cheating for a while now. My friend thinks its undiluted truth but I'm yet to catch her red handed.

Sometimes ago I used tura cream and tura soap to tone my skin color a little. This was like 6years ago. Now my skin is washed up and stinks badly. It doesn't smell like rotten fish associated with bleaching. It smells differently but very bad and offensive. This has plunged me into severe depression.

Please does anybody know if naijaboiy is safe? I just read his last diary entry and it leaves much to worry regarding his safety. I pray he's safe wherever he is. Used to be one of the brilliant minds here aroind 2013/2014.

Help

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For the longest time, I believed that there’s only purpose of life: And that is to be happy.
Right? Why else go through all the pain and hardship? It’s to achieve happiness in some way.
And I’m not the only person who believed that. In fact, if you look around you, most people are pursuing happiness in their lives.
That’s why we collectively buy shit we don’t need, go to bed with people we don’t love, and try to work hard to get approval of people we don’t like.
Why do we do these things? To be honest, I don’t care what the exact reason is. I’m not a scientist. All I know is that it has something to do with history, culture, media, economy, psychology, politics, the information era, and you name it. The list is endless.
We are who we are.
Let’s just accept that. Most people love to analyze why people are not happy or don’t live fulfilling lives. I don’t necessarily care about the why.
I care more about how we can change.
Just a few short years ago, I did everything to chase happiness.
You buy something, and you think that makes you happy.
You hook up with people, and think that makes you happy.
You get a well-paying job you don’t like, and think that makes you happy.
You go on holiday, and you think that makes you happy.
But at the end of the day, you’re lying in your bed (alone or next to your spouse), and you think: “What’s next in this endless pursuit of happiness?”
Well, I can tell you what’s next: You, chasing something random that you believe makes you happy.
It’s all a façade. A hoax. A story that’s been made up.
Did Aristotle lie to us when he said:
“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.”
I think we have to look at that quote from a different angle. Because when you read it, you think that happiness is the main goal. And that’s kind of what the quote says as well.
But here’s the thing: How do you achieve happiness?
Happiness can’t be a goal in itself. Therefore, it’s not something that’s achievable.
I believe that happiness is merely a byproduct of usefulness.
When I talk about this concept with friends, family, and colleagues, I always find it difficult to put this into words. But I’ll give it a try here.
Most things we do in life are just activities and experiences.
You go on holiday.
You go to work.
You go shopping.
You have drinks.
You have dinner.
You buy a car.
Those things should make you happy, right? But they are not useful. You’re not creating anything. You’re just consuming or doing something. And that’s great.
Don’t get me wrong. I love to go on holiday, or go shopping sometimes. But to be honest, it’s not what gives meaning to life.
What really makes me happy is when I’m useful. When I create something that others can use. Or even when I create something I can use.
For the longest time I found it difficult to explain the concept of usefulness and happiness. But when I recently ran into a quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, the dots finally connected.
Emerson says:
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
And I didn’t get that before I became more conscious of what I’m doing with my life. And that always sounds heavy and all. But it’s actually really simple.
It comes down to this: What are you DOING that’s making a difference?
Did you do useful things in your lifetime? You don’t have to change the world or anything. Just make it a little bit better than before you were born.
If you don’t know how, here are some ideas.
Help your boss with something that’s not your responsibility.
Take your mother to a spa.
Create a collage with pictures (not a digital one) for your spouse.
Write an article about the stuff you learned in life.
Help the pregnant lady who also has a 2-year old with her stroller.
Call your friend and ask if you can help with something.
Build a standing desk.
Start a business and hire an employee and treat them well.
That’s just some stuff I like to do. You can make up your own useful activities.
You see? It’s not anything big. But when you do little useful things every day, it adds up to a life that is well lived. A life that mattered.
The last thing I want is to be on my deathbed and realize there’s zero evidence that I ever existed.
Recently I read Not Fade Away by Laurence Shames and Peter Barton. It’s about Peter Barton, the founder of Liberty Media, who shares his thoughts about dying from cancer.
It’s a very powerful book and it will definitely bring tears to your eyes. In the book, he writes about how he lived his life and how he found his calling. He also went to business school, and this is what he thought of his fellow MBA candidates:
“Bottom line: they were extremely bright people who would never really do anything, would never add much to society, would leave no legacy behind. I found this terribly sad, in the way that wasted potential is always sad.”
You can say that about all of us. And after he realized that in his thirties, he founded a company that turned him into a multi-millionaire.
Another person who always makes himself useful is Casey Neistat. I’ve been following him for a year and a half now, and every time I watch his YouTube show, he’s doing something.
He also talks about how he always wants to do and create something. He even has a tattoo on his forearm that says “Do More.”
Most people would say, “why would you work more?” And then they turn on Netflix and watch back to back episodes of Daredevil.A different mindset.
Being useful is a mindset. And like with any mindset, it starts with a decision. One day I woke up and thought to myself: What am I doing for this world? The answer was nothing.
And that same day I started writing. For you it can be painting, creating a product, helping elderly, or anything you feel like doing.
Don’t take it too seriously. Don’t overthink it. Just DO something that’s useful. Anything.
Originally posted on dariusforoux.com.

Source:
http://loudthoughts.com.ng/showtopics.php?id=34

Nicely written. I thought I was the only one with this probz

Please now help me!

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Twitter users in series of tweets reprimanded the gullible followers of secessionists.

I just hope all this nairaland war Lords will adhere to the subliminal advice underneath.

sexybbstar:


Oh no! That is uncalled for. Y would u curse someone's father... Don't you have parents? This is very bad. I wonder what type of lady u are... This is too much. Someone's parents.... It clearly shows how you treat yours at home.

Maami! Is your DM slippery? I wanna slide in.

A peek at Recent spate of events in the kogi political sphere reveals heightened conundrum in the kogi chapter of the All Progressive Congress .

The two political bigwigs of the party, in persons of Governor Yahaya Bello and Senator Dino Melaye, are currently in a duel of who will first successfully sabotage the other person's political career. Senator Dino Melaye has over time expressed disgust at Yahaya Bello's appalling style of leadership, these comments which were mere criticisms which however did not augur well with Yahaya Bello leading him(Governor Yahaya Bello) to make several retorts albeit subliminal jabs.

The straw which broke the camels back was when it was revealed on national television that Governor Yahaya Bello tried to register for Inec voters card, twice, thus contravening the electoral act. Senator Dino requested the All Progressive Congress, kogi chapter, oblige the law and as such have Yahaya Bello impeached, but some loyalist of Yahaya Bello in the party refuted the the request, plunging the party into confusion, consequently bringing about its division into factions: The Yahaya Faction and the Dino Faction. The Yahaya faction is currently asking for a recall of Sen Dino Melaye. I have taken time to highlight why it would be injurious to Yahaya Bello's political career, should he proceed to actualize the conditions given to him by Inec to recall Senator Dino Melaye.



Yahaya Bello is an infant, politically. Yahaya ascension to the position of Governor was sheer luck . Yahaya Bello ,prior his new status, had no political experience whatsoever. Going by the way he presides over affairs of Kogi State, you cannot help but laugh hysterically at his political naivety. We cannot dispute that wealth of political knowledge comes with experience which gives you an edge over your foes in the political scene. Here's where mentoring comes into play but its rather sad Governor Bello has no political savy to guide each of his stride and Protect him. Going head to head with Hon Dino( a renown trouble maker), who has a flair for brewing pandemonium right from his days as a rep in will be, what I refer to as, political Suicide.

If Jonathan, with all the political and military might at His disposal, couldn't stop Dino in 2011, i don't see how Bello can. I'd implore him to take a cue from Tinubu, who ignored him totally in the early 2016 saga, when he beamed his trouble searchlight on Remi Tinubu.

Just like I stated earlier, the need for a protege while carrying out processes like this, cannot be over emphasized, just in case it backfires you'll have who to fall on to. Moreover, Yahaya Bello has failed collosally to secure his subject's mandate and goodwill thus giving Dino an added advantage.

This is just my humble submission.

I'm just wondering why this guy was relegated in history books. This guy's glory should be sung about everywhere in Africa. It sickens me when we laud [s]theives[/s people] like John Rockefeller and other exploiters of Africa as great people.