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Ibkay32:
Yeah it's a good suggestion for you to come and explore your culture, learn and understand how it's again cos 13years is really a long years, things have changed but while coming just stay low profile cos the security of the country is sucks rn
Atleast just stay around 6 months before going back and while going back please take me a long with you cos Nigeria is really happening to me in hard way rn..
Please 😭

Thank you so much, for your suggestion, i cant stay 6 months, i have got my house and job to look back at, max i can ever stay is 8 days.

26.06.2024

Thank you for all your contributions
@Namaster *i never knew anyone have such view with regards to our Nigerian women, thank you. On your statement Plus, consider the fact that BLACK women are the LEAST desirable people in the world in addition to Asian men. , i disagree, i have my collegue that is from here, he still talk to me everyday that i should connect him to a Nigerian lady if i have because he believe they have the family value of the conservative for marriage and he is also white.

For those who wants to know, we both live abroad, here the idological difference is pretty much was why she made the suggestion that me going to relate with Nigerians in Nigeria might bridge those gaps.

I love and respect Nigeria women especially family, i can give it all up for family because that is what family stands for.

Yes, i have been in relationship with someone from this part of the world. I must tell no matter where, we are always who we are.

I dated a Nigerian when we will have date to Mr. Biggs and the like, write as many love letters as possible, i never knew things has changed this much, a woman could be intrested in a married man, that part open my mouth so wide. And a man will be intrested in a married woman wow. Nigerians were never ever like that, after much search online, i saw people even bold enough to have group to meet men and women as such.

I will rethink further my plans and keep you all posted. But Wow! Relationship in Nigeria by Nigerians have changed.[/b][/b]


25.06.2024
Dear Family,

I'm reaching out for your advice, recommendations, and most importantly, suggestions. I've been absent from this forum for a while now, and I'm facing a difficult dilemma.

For context, I was born and raised in Nigeria but left over 13 years ago. I've become completely disconnected from the people, community, family, and the entire environment there.

While I do encounter other Nigerians here, I haven't spent more than 80 hours communicating with them in 13 years. My dilemma stems from my plan to marry a Nigerian woman. She has expressed that we have very different perspectives on life and relationships, particularly within an African context. She's advised me to return to Nigeria to understand how people truly think.

I'm confused by her suggestion. She's recommended specific actions like sitting in a bar, spending time with family, and even trying the food again to get a feel for the culture. She told me during my hangout i should observe both the men and women to understand how they think.

To be honest, I attempted to visit a country with a large Nigerian population. After just five days, I found myself voting for the right wing due to their stance on immigration.

For those that might ask, in out of the 13 years i have lived in a country whereby in my city i was the only black man, i have been only in relationship with the other race, i must tell you its different on how we think, i have seen the best of both worlds and choose the way to live my life. I once had a conversation with a friend's wife, she told me Mr.... No typical african woman can ever marry you. All this really got me concern.

Nevertheless, reading the news on the security issues, being arrassed by Police, people both male and female trying to take advantages how do i survive to visit Nigeria and fly acorss the countries to explore, different regions. All my old friends are no longer there.

I will really appriciate your support.