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happywife:
I need advice on how to cope with a cheating husband.
Darling your husband seems to have extra cash in his pocket all the time, money make men cheat! They have enough to hang out, pay for hotels, take care of their new babes etc. Now he is able to do all that cos you have a good job and probably shoulder half of your family responsibilities, believe me if he were broke (I don't mean unemployed oh) and thinking of saving up money for children's school fees and rent and insurance, he won't have money left for extravagances.
Now solution... Change your kids schools, take them to a better and more expensive school, tell him their old school is now crap and it's a good investment to their future, be all nice and sweet while talking about this . Then, where do you live? A rented house? You need to get a land and start building, tell him how real estate is the new rave and a good investment too, look for a land and get him see the need to have his own house, by the time he starts building every kobo will go into it, be supportive too, show interest and always hang by him. If you already have a house, build more for rent and as an investment.
Again it may be hard but show him love, forgive him in your heart, be an active member in your church and get him to become one too, if you don't have a nanny please get one, hang out with him and those his friends and slowly get him to hang with you, be a buddy. Don't report him anymore to anyone, don't claim to be too tired to go to parties and clubs please go with him, listen to gospel teachings it will ease your pain.
DO NOT CHEAT BACK! It is your body, you won't like to desecrate yourself just cos he is doing so, you will feel worse. And it won't solve anything at all.
Stop cutting cost, get those things your family lack, don't wait anymore, get him to spend his money, start projects and don't stop... And moreover pray for him to change, don't underestimate the power of prayer and money

I have always suspected that my husband was cheating on me but confirmed it recently when i found some condoms were missing from our home n his bank statement showed payment for a hotel when i was away on a short trip .when i confronted him his stories ranged from his friend took it to i was mistaken in my counting n to i went to the room but changed my mind n left without doing anything. but his behaviour showed he was sorry for about 2 weeks then back to normal. problem now is i cant bring myself to trust him n my love for him is reducing daily.when he comes home late from work or doesn't take my calls all i can think about is that he is with another woman. To be honest it's killing me slowly cos i find myself calling him n quarrelling with him constantly.

I dont think i can leave him cos he cheated on me cos lets face it most men do i just need advice on how to cope with my emotions cos i m soo unhappy n its affecting every area of my life . Sometimes i feel like paying him in his own coin but i m a one man kind of babe.

I just want to concentrate on my kids now but how do i cope with being suspicious all d time n being jealous n bitter n a whole lot of emotions thats killing me.

spyder880:
I did not like the place, the roads and the laid back nature of the town, this place will need more than 7 years to come alive. And when I ran into an abandoned culvert project which made the road impassable, I was glad to turn and run back, wasting my drive for more than two kilometers into the bad roads and the bushes from Eke Nkwubor market.

spyder880:
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Kachisbarbie:
I am living with him bc I have done my whit wedding. Never knew the Okoyes are learned.
Anyway by learned here, I don't just mean going to school, bc I have seen people that went to sch and act like were made in stone age and vice-versa.
...the learned I mean here are people that are observing how times are evolving and flowing with it. Not people that say it isn't our culture, it isn't our culture yet my grandparents did it in the 1940s...and my great grand parents did it too

@blebleswag: you asking if sum1 wud prefer having court/white to having trad.
-lets leave white aside.
-how much is court marriage. The last time I checked it was about 10k, and there wasn't need for entertainment.
...so that's not a fair inference/reason.
Some people wud do big trad and no white, why not leave the big trad and use that money for white.

@100cents : you never ready o. When you are ready, I will know.

I love my parents though, time for traditional rites, my parents came into the country, did the needed. My dad said, I don't want u to do big trad and say ur money has finished, I don't want trad, pls when you guys fix a date, mail your IV to me.
My father in-law being a traditional man was fighting for the Big-trad, me I say I no want o. Bc wetin I wan use that money do, dey my mind already....mbok....lol.

suwailad: i dont get it, the girls at 18 and 10 were driving a HONDA CRV in Katsina? You can only find that in places like Port Harcourt. you mean almajiri girls riding honda crv, wonders

dhensity: lol see another confused person, honour to Mary, Glory to Jesus..smh, where in d bible was Mary said 2 be honoured..in d long run u stil worshiping her...

i knw my bible was explicit about it...about making any image with the likeness of things on heaven nd on earth!!! pls open ur eyes ok