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@Everyone: Thanks for your posts. But in case you didn't notice, oh okay, it takes brains to understand. Im a virgin, that is WHY i did not know how to handle the circumstance when it got complex and I lied to escape the problems I am now trying to fix. So before you bring hell down from your hearts, understand that its the same picture you are looking at, from two angles. Go figure.

@finemocha / whitesturd: Thanks. I joined NL this morning but I had been warned about guys like you, after ALL my explanation? When people are trying to make a change, it's guys like you that make them return to a worse state.

@r231: I don't know how many times I need to repeat this: I DO NOT think its fun. If i thought it was fun I would just laugh and move on. It was a complex matter and I made ONE mistake, I should have just told her the truth: that I had moved on and was now with my longtime friend, instead of saying it was just a joke. But I am ready to make a change, I just don't know how to go about it.

@190: Sorry I don't do such stuff.

@Lytone: Thanks. Buit it seems you still don't get the picture. I am happy with my girlfriend. This girl wants me to leave my girlfriend and return to her. Yet my girlfriend KNOWS EVERYTHING that happened, so my girlfriend says the girl wanted to eat her cake and have it, so I should not even talk to her. But for the fact that I actually loved her when she was pretending, it hurts me to see her in so much pain & heartbreak for my sake. Another friend said I should ask the girl what she wants me to do, but I think it's a bad idea. You seem to be the only one saying something useful. What do you think I should do here? I have never been able to focus on more than a girl at once, and I will never do it.

@Godmother: Well, if you say so, I am confused. But I said I was only joking because I was trying to get myself out of a tight corner without looking like it was my fault. It really was not my fault, because thise girl said she would have nothing to do with me and I should try to forget about her. Unknown to me, she actually really liked me, but she pretended because she wanted to see if I was genuine. As for me, my current girlfriend had always been there for me, and I eventually decided to ask her out last week. She answered positively, only for Girl #1 to come back yesterday and start saying stuff. She was asking me that since I told her I love her, why am I now with someone else? Yeah, I know that lying to her that I was just joking was a tactless and stupid move, and I felt like cutting out my tongue immediately after. Even the best of human beings make a mistake, but we can't die there, we have to move on.

@Everyone else: Thanks for the hurtful comments. They are nothing compared to all that the girl has said, so na starting you dey. Better go and sort your own lives out as well, come out of the closet and deal with your issues. Quit pretending.

I said I "formed" good boy, meaning that at first I and the 3 friends just wanted to get her, but along the way I ACTUALLY fell in love with her so I "formed good boy", meaning that I behaved properly when I declared my intentions. Form good boy, meaning that she knows my friends very well so I had to show her that I can get serious with a relationship, that's what I meant by form good boy. But na she cause am, because when I was telling her the truth she didnt listen, by the time she gave me her ears I had moved on, another girl. My current girlfriend. That's the problem, do u understand now?

But I was in Love nah!

There's this very hot chic that I and my 3 friends were trying to nail get (commenters, thanks for hinting me to describe what I meant here). One of them almost got her, so I had to move fast, I formed good boy and told her that I was serious and I wanted to marry her. She didn't believe, but because she really liked me she eventually said yes after 2 weeks. By that time I had lost interest so I told her I was just joking. Now she hates me. What do I do, please, people?

And before anybody abuses me further, you can read more reasons why I did it here on another NL thread. Thanks.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-343423.0.html

I cant even confess to the girl the "kind of person" (described in the post above) that I really am. Please help.