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My brother the source of your confusion is self centeredness which is the source of all grief. U are consumed by thoughts of what they can do for you but not what u can do for them. U are carried away by the thoughts of how qualified they are to be ur wife. But have u ever thought about how qualified u are to be their husband?

A husband is supposed to be a leader. And a leader is one who knows the way, shows the way and goes the way. Have u found purpose? Do you have any clue as to what God's specific will for your life is? Beyond being an employee at an oil firm and earning seven figures in naira what plans do you have for your journey to destiny? Do you have a vision and u're looking for a partner to accompany u on the journey to fulfilling it or is it that u just want to get married because it's the conventional thing to do in society and ur reason doesn't go deeper than that? U should know that a man without a vision or a sense of direction as to where his life should be heading is not qualified to be any woman's wife.

Haven said all that, I don't want it to sound like am against you trying to ascertain if they are good enuf for you. Am only trying to make u see that it will be wise for you to evaluate ur worthiness as intensely as u are evualuating theirs.

However in ascertaining whether they are good enuf there are five things I believe u need to look out for:
1. How well she loves God
2. How well she loves knowledge
3. How well she loves excellence
4. How self-motivated she is
5. How submissive she is

There are lots of stuff I could say about these points but I would reserve it for an article.