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Good morning my good people happy sunday to you all.

Please NL colleagues am 3years older than her can I propose to her?...will she see me as her Age grade?..though she is very respectful for now,what do u guys think?

Sister u got sit your <very soon husband to be>down and table his unacceptable behaviors to him,note u must be polite when expressing ur dissatisfaction about his controlling attitude towards you..i believe he will change his attitude towards you when properly tabled. And you are cheating on him as well cos am sure he is not aware of the abroad bf.be straight wit him as well.#imperfectusAll

It's very disheartening how most of us jump into criticism and reign insult on good people of this country without a prior painstaking investigation..the Peter Obi I know will never Sale out His state like that.this is a cheap blackmail from gov.Obiano

Drfinn:
@OP,from 200l Sandra has been there fore you.Why do you want to hurt her? what you had with the second girl was lust occasioned by proximity.
for her to reconnect with her ex simply you both had a disagreement shows your replaceable.She has options. Read in between the lines bro.
You didnt tell us what has become of Sandra education wise. Is she in some school now?
Please, take some time and sought yourself out. Get a sheet of paper, write the qualities you desire in an ideal partner.Then take an objective look at Sandra,does she possess most of these qualities? Remember you can never have the perfect mate.There is always room for improvement.
You said your a corper now. Imagine the high hopes of Sandra. All in all a broken relationship is better than a failed marriage. You wear the shoe. Do not let your emotions override your sense of judgement. Always ask God for direction.

.drfinn tanks a lot I apreciate ur mature sense of reaasoning...Sandra is in her 2nd year now...luv ur advice and will work with

Jennifer89:
op u said you are a coper but you are narrating what happened when u were in 200 level. i don't understand u o!

.Dear dat waz wen it all started guess u didn't notice it cos d write is a long one

pretydiva:
U r jst a confuse being op. U truly don't no wat u want. I myself m confuse wif wat u wrote

..Dnt be dear..if ur less busy u can calm down and read it well

Please pardon if fail 2 acknowledge the procedures and principles of this forum as am new here...Am a 26 year old Graduate|corper serving in one of south south region of nigeria.Though am an Easterner by birth.

The problem am having now is really not favoring my entire well being,
There is a girl I have always had a crush on,they moved in new in my street. [sandra]not real name}One day I got an opportunity 2 let her know of my long hidden feelings for her.though she stressed me but later accepted 2 date,we started and I made sure I took care of all her Emotional problems and also her physical problems that I could solve.This made her love me with everything she got and I loved her equally.but the only barrier we were abt 2 face then was my going back 2 school.i was In my 2nd year then in the University while she was still looking for admission.when it was time for me 2 go back, we both felt bad about it but I assured her I'll she was always free 2 visit me and that I'll also be coming back anytime school permited me.d day I was 2 travel she helped me carry my luggage 2 d park and I went back.

One day my friend called me on phone and pleaded I should please recieve her cousin that will soon come 2 our school community for thier school related programme [the girls school]that will last for 2 months and that I should also help the girl secure a house she ll stay in for that period of time. When she I did as the bro instructed and she was 2 stay in my house while we searched for the house...I made her stay in my house fun for her as I did not at any point tried 2 use that opportunity 2 do silly things,i just treated her like my own sis.

2 cut it short she finally got the house and moved in. But always came 2 my house wen she was less busy..i took her out,went 2 my school wit her anyday she won't go out s she did not have any oda friend around.One day my close called my attention and told me the is developing a strong feeling for me.i didn't belive it and asked the guy 2 stop corrupting my mind as I wouldn't want 2 disgrace my self b4 the girl..

At a point I began 2 notice some changes in her behaviour,she started with
*Asking me when I'll change sandra's pic I used as my wallpaper my?
*started counting How many time I called sandra
*i guess when she wasn't seen any action from me she finally
* asked me y I havnt told her dat thing she knows my heart want me 2 say 2 her

At that point it became clear what she meant and 2 be sincere I longed for that but was been cautious.2 be concise, we started dating while I still kept a firm contact with sandra my Baby...At a point I became 2 glued 2 this new girl that we did everything together and we were always 2geda..wit her I saw what a proper communication meant in a relationship
,she introduced and opened my eyes 2 so many sweet things required in a relationship.[dat dosent mean i didn't have s*x wit sandra].i just noticed everything about me and her became different.sometimes we will gist and we will even forget 2 cook and we will just sleep on empty stomach.


My problem now is sandra is beautiful tall dark complexioned, well behaved,homely,but not romantic..staying with her is not always as lively as staying with the 2nd girl.

The second girl is almost d same height with sandra,beautiful as well,stubborn,hot tempered,still homely,lively 2 be with,sometimes give her self a scare if I make her angry.
They are both age mates very beautiful...There was a day I had issues with the 2nd girl which made her leave my house and the next thing I saw on her watsapp was her picture with her ex.it was then that I angrily told her I never left sandra for one day...Dough we kept a distance I havnt been able 2 forget her,my heart stil yearns for,it hurts me she is not with me again,but I swore not 2 show her I have not been my self.
Recently she called me on phone and told me she can't stay witout me,that dough she went back 2 her ex she still feels very lonely,that she wakes up every morning expecting I'll call and never saw my calls.

My problem now is that sandra has never ronged me,dough she is just a quite beautiful innocent girl.but I still yearn for the 2nd girl

If the 2nd girl comes back again she might still angrily walk out again.wat do I do? Pls mature minds that have had similar experiences

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