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Its just messed up that I put my all into it and in the end he is fine. Hell he can go back to his ex and be happy! Why would he even want a chic who would still talk to him even when he put me first and cursed her out and he was in a relationship with me. And what type of chic would wait for a year in a half for someone? How does she know he even being honest with her? Hell how does he know she aint playing him. They are in two different states and havent seen each other in a year! But he wants me and dont want me to leave him but still have a spot in his heart for her, like im suppose to accept that. UGH im so pissed!

I understand Im just like why he went through all of that to keep me. I mean he cursed and told his ex "the one he love and where his heart is" that he wanted to stay with me and to leave him alone. If he really loved her he would have never let her go or got back with her.
If he really cared for me he would have stopped texting her saying he loved her and for her to wait on him. This is so crazy and it hurts like hell!!

Long story..


I met him last semester through a mutual friend. We started dating. He told me he was single when he was actually still with his ex from his hometown. I didnt know at the time. We ended up falling for each other hard and he confessed. I told him then I didnt want to continue to date him, so he begged and cried for me to stay. After a few days he came to me and told me he broke up with her and he wanted me as his girlfriend. I accepted anyway because of my feeling for him. Through out the relationship was wonderful, his family, my family, our friends and his pastor , coaches all knew about me. But I started seeing that his ex was messaging him on facebook (this is after he supposely blocked her). I confronted him about it and he lied saying he didnt talk to her. That was a month ago.

Anyway we got through that until this past Friday. I found out that they were still talking. She emailed me and said he told her that he still loved her but he also cared for me but for her to wait because he planned on coming home Jan. 2013 so they could be together. I confronted him, he started crying, begging me to give him another chance. He even called her (put her on speaker) and told her to leave him alone,that they couldnt be friends bc he loves me and wants to work on me and his relationship. She started crying asking why he was playing with her emotions. I got upset and took the phone and me and her got into it. I felt disrespected bc she knew he was with me. He then gave me his phone for 2 days straight so i could tell he was being honest, he gave me all his passwords to his phone, email and facebook. He blocked her "again". I broke up with him anyway and he was upset and he confessed that he loved me hard and didnt expect to fall this hard but he knew his heart was with her and although he lied by telling me he would stay at the same university, he knew he was going back home "next year" to be with her. He said he had an emotional attachment bc she had his baby ( a boy) but it died and regardless he wanted her. He also sent me a text msg saying that if she was at the same university with us he wouldnt even have looked my way and sorry for wasting my time with him.

My bff said that this wasnt right and we both were mad and we all had a mtg to put everything on the table. He met us and she asked him to be honest because it was pointless to try to work on this relationship depending on his answer. She asked where he wanted to be and who he wanted to be with. He said he was homesick and he loved his ex and thats where he wanted to be, thats where his heart was. So I cried, he left and that was that. But 2hours later he texted me saying that he made the wrong decision and fu*k his ex. I never responed back. That was Saturady, today is Monday. Im so confused. Please give me your honest imput on this situation and what I should do. Because my brain is telling me to move on and I did everything right in the relationship. My bff asked him what I could do to make the relationship better..he looked at me teary eyed and said nothing, Im perfect but his heart else where. My brain is saying for me to find another guy who will make me #1. My heart is telling me to stay and so is my mom. She says relationships can be hell sometimes and no one is perfect. She can tell he loves me but is torn. I dont know yal, I need help with this. #heartbroken