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potent5:
Okafor's law is fully applicable here.

My bro I love her but I am deeply worried that because she has made love with that just a friend, the guy could call her and finally pressure her to come and visit and the cheating continues at my back!

Pls to cut the story short:

We are dating, I love her so much and she claim she loves me too.

Due to my kind of job, I’m not always available at home so we don’t longer spend time together in my house.

She is a final year student boarding skul

The only time we get to meet is during her holidays and whenever we meet, it’s at the hotel where we spend 2-3 days in the hotel and she goes back home and comes again the next week until skul resumes and she goes back to her boarding skul.

Just before she concluded her waec, because I love her and wanted to know if she truly loves me, I hacked her WhatsApp and figured she was cheating with a guy she recently met and also with another guy who she say is just a friend and the guy knows she is dating. She even called the guy and the guy said they are just friends (I laughed because I have been in this situation before where I made love with a girl who has a boyfriend so we were not dating)

I left her to finish her waec not to distract her before confronting her.

Now my nature of job has changed, i have a new apartment of my own, well furnished. Then she came to visit after her waec/graduation from skul.

We now spend over a week together at my house, but then I confronted her and she said she was sorry.

Now, my confusion is: WHY WAS SHE CHEATING?

Is it because of MONEY? I was giving her enough money and buy her wears even though she doesn’t always ask me for money which I love about her.

Is it because she is 20yrs and due to her boarding skul coupled with my previous work that made me didn’t have a house were she comes and fill at home and we spend time together and love each unlike just spending time at the hotel and making love!?

Is it because she truly does not love me because I am not attractive enough for her to love me? (Maybe because she is a little taller than me and I’m not her spec! but I’m good looking, have a lot girls trying to get into my heart and I don’t care that she is taller)

She is right here with me asi type, she says she is sorry, she says it’s a mistake and she would never do it again. She got a new SIM card.

It’s like 3 months ago since i caught here cheating, but I was forced to call the guy she recently met and ask him about her, he said the girl doesn’t pick her call whenever she calls so he texted her to never call him again and he stopped calling her.

Now the problem is that I am finding it difficult to forgive her because I feel the second guy who is just a friend to her, will still get in touch with her at my back.

I have a lot I want to do for this girl because I love her, but I don’t want to invest in a cheat. The question is:

Can she ever break the relationship she has with that the guy (just a friend ) so easily after they had made love several times?

It’s hard for me to believe she would just cut off the just a friend guy so easily!!! I feel like I should just keep my investment for a better girl and just keep fucking this girl and playing I have forgiven you?

But then my mind tells me it’s because you are not always with her back then due to your previous job and she is just 20 in her youthful age bond with mistakes and now could have actually made her mind to be faithful this time never cheat again now we are always together?

I am deeply worried that because she has made love with that just a friend, the guy could call her and finally pressure her to come and visit and the cheating continues at my back!

Talk to me pls! I’m in love, but I want to love with my Brain!!!! Should I bring up the discussion with her? Ask her questions? What question?