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sukerefakere:
Is she a content creator on TikTok?

No

Zooposki:
Even if she was not working, as a mom she is on duty 24/7, while your work does not take up 24/7 of your time. Even if you provide 100% financially, you still should help her in taking care of your children and house. There is also such a thing as invisible labour. Google what it means.

I do chores at home and take care of kids, it's only cooking that I don't do

Zooposki:
Seems you are of no value to your wife despite all you have said here about helping financially and domestically. Sir, might you just be stretching the truth and little bit?

It's funny right?
Maybe I'm even understating my reality. I didn't even state that I borrow money from her when I run out of money to sort bills. I run some professional courses takes a lot from me and she's aware, yet no help whatsoever.
The thing is I earn like twice as she much as she does, so she believes she should keep her share. Also, because she does all cooking, she believes she owes no financial obligation.
That's why I'm asking maybe my demand is out of place.

Adaumunocha:
50/50 ke? You didn't even say 70/30. Any man who expects 50/50 split never ready😒😒

Funny enough, all I demanded wasnt even up to 20%, she says NO.

Adaumunocha:
She's not planning anything. The woman was a full housewife back in Nigeria

It wasn't by choice, she just couldn't secure a job. She even did NPower.

BigDawsNet:
Abroad is not Africa where wife is expected to be just wife and wait for husband to settle all house bills.. both of you are expected to contribute if not equally then 60/40! But if you feel that’s not the case.. then file for a divorce.. but be ready to pay your child support! At least you can start ur life with someone else who is easy to support u

It’s well wit your family in Jesus name amen

Have faith

I swear by Almighty God, I only demand she contributes like £350 out of about £2000. That's not even up to 20%.

QuantAnalyst:
A woman with a 3 month old baby is working? I hope the job is not too stressful? Please her health is important.

On the main issue, please have a discussion with your wife on how to sort the bills. You can pay house rent while she sorts utility bills.

U get fully paid while on maternity leave. Moreso, I'm talking about the situation even while she was actively working.

justwise:
Who buys the food in the house and how old are your children?

I finance everything 100%, I give her money and she goes out to buy the food stuff.
We have 2 kids, 5 years and 3 months of age. That's why it's complicated, I can't make any drastic decision as my kids may suffer. Social workers in UK also don't tolerating suffering children, they will take your children away from u and u will never see them again.

[quote author=Patented post=135898378][/quote]Back home before we travelled, she wasn't employed, I was fully in charge of all finances with the help of my family members.

Am I being unreasonable being mad at my wife?
We relocated abroad 3 years ago but she isn't helping to settle any of the bills.

We both are gainfully employed though I earn much than she does. Our monthly expenditure is about £2000 and she doesn't care to help in any way. I foot all bills making me struggle to save while she keeps all she earns to herself. We also had a loan of over 10 thousand pounds to settle when we relocated, she didn't help with a dime till I paid all bits by bits which took me almost 2 years.

Despite this, I still help with house chores like taking care of our kids, home cleaning and even washing dishes though she does all the cooking.
I've expressed my displeasure several times but she keeps insisting I can't force her to financially assist, it's my job as I'm the husband. She seems convinced she isn't doing any wrong and no sign of remorse whatsoever.

I financed our relocation 100% without her contributing a dime.

This is causing a strain in the marriage and I am thinking if I am unreasonable in my demand, am I?
Your comments are highly welcome.