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opera1:
We both gathered the money while in school

You should not have replied him. He had a hostile reason for asking that question.

Okoyeeboz:
You are already assuming her contribution isn't enough or isn't there, thereby subconsciously belittling his wife.

Women are supposed to be partners to men. You are a terrible person and you ought to be ashamed of yourself for looking down on women.

Mirroring and reverse psychology.

Everything you typed here pretty much summed up the reason you asked that malicious question.

Okoyeeboz:
How much is your wife contributing?

Why are you asking?
So you can find a way to take a jab at his wife if her contribution isn’t there, or if her contribution is not enough to you?

Omenapounds:
Still better than the crop tops most girls now wear

So what if they wear crop tops? How’s that your business? Who put you in the position to judge what girls wear?

LordReed:
They sure do. You see them often brag about graduating Summa Cum Laude (their version of 1st class).

Not me just knowing the meaning of this.

I’m glad I followed you back then , even though you’re always arguing (with logical points of course).

Reverseng:
1) Conditional love leads to unconditional love

The path of conditional love leads to unconditional love, same way childhood leads to adulthood. But this is not an excuse to stay stuck there at conditional love. The same way we suffer when we try to physically restrict the growth of a child to adulthood (if ever possible), is the same way we suffer when we try to hinder our non-physical growth. Growth occurs physically and also non-physically too, and you might have heard of the non-physical growth — you likely call it 'Maturity' or use it in sentences like 'he acts and speaks maturely even for his age'

Stagnation in growth leads to suffering, and stagnating doesn't mean not progressing from point A to B, it also mean dwelling at point A and egoistically thinking that it's the growth ceiling.

By proper definition, if conditional love is one with conditions, then what truly is unconditional love and how best do we practice this form of love necessary for our growth?

Unconditional love simply means loving without attachments, and it can genuinely be expressed when we learn to give exactly what we can afford to lose.
For example, if you have #2000 and the amount you can afford to give is #20, do so shamelessly and lovingly without judging yourself on the amount you're giving.

'Shamelessly' in the sense that the amount you're giving might seem little to others, but it's what you can afford to give and sleep well at night. The price for authenticity is attachment because if you really want to live your truth and convictions, you must be willing to lose relationships or attachments which doesn't support the new you. That's the price to pay for being a new you

Conditional love occurs in a scenario where you have #2000 and you feel subtly ego compelled to give #500, an amount far greater than what you can can to lose.
That #480 difference (compared to the first example of #20) is the price you paid for your suffering of attachments to the outcome of your giving

That's where expectations such as
“She didn't even thank me enough for helping her with my money”
or
“I hope he's spending my hard-earned money well and not wasting my sweat!”
or
“I hope I finally get the respect of my colleague by spending this much in the bar for their drinks”
or
“I hope he'll love me forever after giving him my virginity”
Expectations/ attachments such as these creeps up in our minds when we give more than we genuinely can afford to lose.

You have a right to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, nor be attached to inaction." —
Bhagavad Gita

Don't give what you can't afford to lose, because I've learnt from my experience and from that of the people around me, that by so doing, it creates attachments to the expectation that you hope to get from your giving, which then leads to tension and hurt, especially when your expectation(s) doesn't come to fruition. And when such category of givers get hurt because their giving wasn't appreciated, even with a simple “thank you”, they lash out and build a wall of defense around themselves, telling themselves that no one will ever see them so vulnerable again. You likely term this "see finish"
This leads to the birth of Pride in them, a situation where people who are capable of giving and receiving love, prevent themselves from giving and receiving love all because they're scared of getting hurt or being underappreciated
This is the real definition of Pride.
https://www.nairaland.com/8703930/ego-phases-ego-simplified

Expressing unconditional love to yourself or to others isn't limited to physical cash alone. You could also learn to invest the time that you can afford to lose on someone(relationship) or a project and not feel regret.
Same goes for trust, tolerance and other non physical goods
Now this brings us to a twist

If unconditional love means expressing love to others or to yourself, without expecting anything in return, then the best set of people to practice your unconditional love of giving are towards stingy people or people who find it difficult to say a "thank you" for the help you've rendered to them. It's not primarily for you to wake the up from their slumber of ungratefulness but for you to feel happy to have been of genuine help to those who need it.
The joy on the face of a person you've helped or the thought of you being a factor to reduce someone's suffering should be enough reward for you, as a genuine giver. The act itself should be your reward.

The best set of people to express your unconditional love of non-sexual attention to, especially as a man, are physically non-attractive ladies, or beautiful girls who are in very serious relationships with other men.

If you, as a man, can still love a physically attractive girl who is in a very serious relationship with another man, with no expectation of a thank-you-sex from her as a payment for the "unconditional love" you just expressed towards her, therein lies your growth.

Love that security that cannot offer you an appointment letter to aso rock.

Love that your cleaner that cannot even help you with job connects.

Little wonder why Jesus said, "love your enemies"
This is because our enemies are the people who can't reciprocate our love. Instead, they'd even repay us with hate. Lol. A form of repayment which shouldn't bother a true giver. Learn to discern what that means

By giving what we can genuinely afford to lose, we remain at peace with ourselves regardless of the outcome of our giving.

To summarize,
a) Give what you can afford to lose
b) Increase your capacity for giving, because that's how you grow and not stagnate (Probably you could achieve this with the understanding that all that can be taken away will be taken away from you in time, so they're not your identity. Your identity is what remains when all that can be taken away from you is taken away from you (surname, religion, family, skin color, tribe, gadgets etc)

One love

Your points are understandable, but I think it somehow defeats the concept of gratitude (that’s if you believe in it).

Going by your notion, then what’s the purpose of gratitude?
What’s the purpose of being grateful or appreciative to the universe for having the blessings you have?

If the universe loves you “unconditionally,” then the universe shouldn’t care about your being grateful or not.

deadie:
You have no idea what you are talking about. The job of a radiographer is not to interprete, but rather to acquire medical images. AI has no effect on radigraphy.

Someone has to prepare patient, put them in the appropriate clothing, position them for the imaging procedure, take the necessary radiation protection measures and acquire the image. Physical interaction with the patient is needed, so radiography is pretty safe.

I studied radiography in for my Bachelors, practiced a bit, then acquired more training and moved to another field. But I will not discourage anyone from studying the course.

If you don’t mind sharing, what field did move to?

Thanks so much for this info. It worked!

Christlike01:
Obi will never be elected as President of Nigeria— it's a fact.

Why?

Reverseng:
Hi, Liballo
At the moment, I don't strictly follow the rules, and it's because of conditions which aren't in my power.

What do I mean by this?
I'm not financially buoyant to follow the rules to the letter. What's the point of eating boiled yam and vegetable this moment, only to eat rice and beans later, going against the rules of carbohydrates and protein combination?

I eat what's being offered to me, but even at that, I'm quite selective.
If I can afford to follow the rules, I do so.

So far, I've grown my will to resist the urge to consume sugar, fried food, cake, soft drinks, wine and alcohol.

It wasn't a 'will growth' per say. I just looked around me and I made my observation which led to my epiphany: rarely do you see a 30-35 yr old man or woman looking fit, even the rich ones. Right now in Nigeria, you recognize a rich man by the size of his pot belly, which shouldn't be so


The desire to not want to end up unfit in my old age was enough to make my effort 'will less'. It's just like a woman who sees her 2 yr old baby about to cross the road or put his hands in a fire. She doesn't think if she should save the baby or not. She acts! It was a choiceless action on the part of the mother

Knowing the truth offers the inspiration of choice: to do or not to do. But that's not all, Liballo.
The essence of knowing the law (truth) is so that we can also become good law breakers. Yes, read again.

Too much rule following is bad because it makes us robotic, while too much rule breaking is bad, because it causes a chaotic environment. There has to be a balance, and that's where discerning/wisdom comes in.

I don't take soft drink, but if I'm stranded in a desert with no water in sight, I'll take 1 or 2 gulps of coke to quench my thirst. But if I was stranded in the desert with a bottle of sniper and no water in sight, I wouldn't drink that sniper. I'd rather I die of thirst.
I hope you can understand that analogy.

If I'm to follow the rules of food combining to the letter, I'd die of starvation. But when wealth comes and I can afford the simple life that I want... boy o boy

I think you’re right. Sometimes rigidity is bad. The key is balance.

Reverseng, do you still practice food combining?

Christlike01:
Nigeria is beautiful, yes. The humor is unmatched. The people are resilient. The food tastes like memory itself. There is warmth here that many Western societies have forgotten. There is community here, humanity here, spirit here.

But spirit alone cannot replace stable electricity.Community alone cannot replace functioning healthcare.Patriotism alone cannot repair insecurity.And resilience is a tragic thing to romanticize when people are only resilient because they have been abandoned by leadership for generations.

Stay in America because peace is not always loud.

Sometimes peace is simply knowing that your light will come on when you flip a switch. That your child can call emergency services and someone will answer. That your pension may actually exist when you grow old. That your passport opens doors instead of suspicion. That your future is not permanently tied to the mood swings of politicians who treat governance like inheritance.

Stay because survival should not require heroism.

Stay because there is dignity in choosing stability over sentiment.

Stay because loving Nigeria does not require sacrificing your sanity to it.

And perhaps one day, when Nigeria finally becomes the country its people have spent decades promising it will become, you can return not out of obligation or guilt, but by genuine choice.

Until then, stay where your tomorrow has a fairer chance than your yesterday

You write so well!

Why did he delete his account again?
Or maybe the mods/Nairaland did?

Anyway, I hope he’s safe and okay wherever he is.
And I just know he’s gonna be back soon sha.

zabimaru:
You're asking the right questions.
It was not so from the beginning. Plants were the meat and herbs for humans. After the flood, Noah and his family could legitimately eat flesh as food, unlike what was legit pre-flood.
Also, animals became aggressive and dreaded humans after the flood.

I do not know why as I don't have all the answers. I'm sure in due time, the answer will come. But just know that it was not so from the beginning.

Keep meditating on these things, as long as your motive is pure and genuine, you'll definitely get the correct answer.

Thanks for the response and contribution.

Python25to30:
Jesis is real but his story has been hijack. I think this is right because first of all why did they make any christain celebration must commence with sacrificing chicken blood.
Easter , Christmas chicken must suffer and they have emotions.


Then muslim started suffering ram.

This post just reminded me of something.
Ourtruth, what do you think about the eating of animals?

Are humans really meant to consume other animals? Is it even inherently right? If, yes.
Does it not lower frequency?

Ourtruth247:
The top men are either low vibration souls masquerading as humans, human hybrids of those low vibration beings, human souls possessed by low vibration beings, or people who despite having this knowledge, do not have the discipline and will to do what is necessary because they are used to a certain way of life that is at odds with the things I planned on sharing on this thread

To be able to get to the level where you can get everything you want requires a lot of sacrifice; you literally need to overcome this flesh prison your soul has been locked in. Those top men you speak of don't have the discipline to do all that. Besides anyone who is at the very top of global and financial power is VERY attached to this prison and hence can't overcome it's chains

Wow! This thing really goes way deeper.

I sincerely look forward to seeing more of your posts. Keep up the work.

zabimaru:
You said you delved into the Epstein files, how deep? Cos you'd see the influence of demonic (or as you call it, 4D) entities and how they steer these so called top men into some of the most inhumane acts just because they want to get what they want.

Hmm.

I think you have a point here, cause if the so-called “top men” know the truth that they can get whatever they want on their own without having to engage in those barbaric acts, then why do they need the backings of those entities?

Ourtruth247:
I'll start posting today. I've been busy all week

Welcome! I’m so happy you’re back.

Not me coming to NL every 2hours to check if Ourtruth247 has later dropped any info.

Sigh.

Ourtruth247:
I tried creating this exact thread a few days ago and it go moved to a dead section, and as a result I removed the post

I want to ask the mods to please leave this thread on this section as it will be seen by a lot of people. My goal is to share important knowledge and that goal can't be achieved if my thread is moved to a section where only few people will come across it

If this thread is still in this section in two hours, I will start posting. So that I don't waste my time

The information I am sharing cuts across various aspects of life and its powerful enough to allow anyone reading this to manifest anything they want in their lives. It has worked for me and is still working

I will break the information down in a way anyone will understand, and I will also answer questions and respond to comments as long as they aren't insults or mockery

Can you create a telegram group?

Reverseng:
1) Some leaders (Doctors, Forcemen etc) are insecure mostly because they know they're incompetent in their field of study, so they try cover up this defect with pride (by being sadistic, or being too nice to everyone without boundaries)

2) Most employees and employers are sad. There's that big emptiness/void we think a job promotion or money is going to fill, but alas, we find out our view isn't aligned with reality

3) People work jobs they hate to buy things they don't like to impress people they don't know.

Most of the people we look up to or call our role model, were most of the time forced into the profession they're in by their parents or friend group. You can never see or measure a person sadness, or vulnerabilities, especially when that person has chosen to use pride to cover up

I meet new people and we get talking and I ask them
"what course did you study"

They reply "Public Health"

Then I tell them something like, "This seems like a very responsible position, being in charge of the health of people who trust you with their health. You're comfortable with this kind of huge responsibility?"

Then they say "errmmmm"

Then I proceed " who's the most richest richhheeest billionaire you know of"
They tell me Mr X

then I say " if I was billionaire X, i ask you to choose a course that you'd love to study, regardless if it's a foreign course that can only be studied abroad, and also regardless of how much it'll be, what course would you choose to study?

Then they tell me " Nursing"


Then I rephrase " There really isn't any nobility in hardwork. Most people see suffering as hardwork. Imagine you make all the money in the world and all the richest people in the world look up to you, what then would you do when you're not working for money?"

Then the revelation continues...

You can really know that people aren't happy...go find out yourself and see. Try this exercise for yourself and you'll begin to understand that when people aren't truly happy by being in field or professions they don't like, then sadness creeps in and it grows to depression

I've written about this concept

https://www.nairaland.com/8598916/chimamanda-adichie-case-choiceless-children#138129653

How does the bolded relate to the “There really isn’t mobility in hardwork?”

Ourtruth247:
They don't care about you

This is the first and most important thing you need to know as a black person living in Nigeria. The people sitting at the pinnacle of political power in Western governments have never cared about you, and they never will. It doesn't matter if you are Christian or Muslim. They see you as cattle, and your country as their farm. The only interest they have in African countries is the resources and how trade and financial relations will benefit them

These are the same people that actively participate in the r*pe, torture, and m*urder of little kids, yet you think they care about the death of people in the northern part of Nigeria.

This reminds me of that MJ’s song, All I wanna say is that they don't really care about us.

MaxInDHouse:
You don't know what you are saying but it's OK after all you too deserve someone to hail you whether you are making sense or not?🙂

He knows what he’s saying.
You’re just very arrogantly ignorant.

Ourtruth247:
What's the question?

But I would like to know your opinions on the following:
1. Vaccines/Vaccinations.
2. A.I
3. Digital ID
4. Some events like Super Bowl, Grammies, etc.
5. Cloning
6. Vegetarianism
7. Astrology and numerology
8. Why did they release the Epstein list? Why would they deliberately reveal their own secrets? What’s in it for them?

Ourtruth247:
Think of sexual arousal as a power grid generating power.

Every time you orgasm the power generation goes to zero and you kill the grid. Literally you can't manifest anything into your life

It takes about a week or two away from orgasm for the grid to become active. During this period you need to have a conscious awareness of what you are doing and why. There has to be a reason and a conscious decision to avoid the temptation of orgasm

After about a week or two this grid can start generating energy from arousal. The longer you stay away from orgasm the more power you generate, and the easier it is to manifest your thoughts

Basically someone who hasn't experienced conscious orgasm in 6 months will generate power than someone who hasn't experienced conscious orgasm in 3 months and so on

Law of Sexual Transmutation.

Thanks for all you do on here, but you haven’t answer the questions I asked you on your previous thread. Or Is there a reason for that?

And please try to create a Telegram account.

Mr Ourtruth, thanks for what you do on here. And I’m glad you’re back.
But I would like to know your opinions on the following:
1. Vaccines/Vaccinations.
2. A.I
3. Digital ID
4. Some events like Super Bowl, Grammies, etc.
5. Cloning
6. Vegetarianism
7. Astrology and numerology
8. Why did they release the Epstein list? Why would they deliberately reveal their own secrets? What’s in it for them?

I know it’s a lot, but I look forward to your reply. Thanks in advance.

Jamahyel:
can you create a WhatsApp group for this ?

Telegram should be fine because he might not want to share his contact for some personal reasons which are clearly understandable.

festacman:
Obasanjo is blessed. Excellent health. Long life. Mental alertness. Multiple women. Offspring. Successful military career. Twice president.

And ... a bad mouth!

How is multiple women considered a blessing? Explain.

Kokodeni:
LOL I actually have a friend who is currently an Ambassador he was on NL I think 2 or 3 years before I joined and he is still here but never comments or creates threads...
Those are the MVPs

Omo!

Kokodeni:
But yet I have never been away from Nairaland.com for more than 2 days at a stretch...

Waite until Seun Monitizes NL...

Wow! Insane! Na una gangan be the real OG for this site.

Kokodeni:
Have you wondered why they are averagely more energetic, more successful and carry more Aura than your average lot.

Have you wondered why God never created you with something to cover your legs like other mammals

Your comment! 🔥 I think what you’re trying to say is related to grounding. And the benefits of grounding is numerous.

Btw, you’ve been on here since 2008, with just 134 posts? Wow.

@Reverseng , why do I feel like you’re purposely sharing those posts for me to see?