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@maclatunji - It was for me. I sent him Mon'ife e! in his language and he sent back to me Emi na nife re pupoju! and I just wanted to know what it meant.

Thank you.

thank you

What does it mean?

Emi na nife re pupoju! What does this mean?

could some one translate this for me please? - emi na nife re pupoju!

What does agbaya ni mi! mean in Yoruba.

@ Mrs.Chima - Thank You I agree the one thing that I did learn from NL, is to KEEP MY PRIVATE LIFE PERSONAL. Thank for the heads up. Yor are right I pretty MUCH gotten all the answers I needed.
I agree some of the comments from the people were very redundant and repetitive, But I can not change them.

@For all who gave sound advice. I will take everything with a grain of salt and for my friend well-being I hope all turn out well for her.

Thanks All no more posts from me signing off!!! For the person who said that this sight is not for me. I must say you are right, but I do admire some of the people who give good advice on it.

@nanidee2 - Thank You!!

@deekay29 - First of all maybe you do not have true friends where you are from. Second of all I am married and has been for ten years. Third I have no problem with the man that my friend is with. He appears to be a very decent man(except for this hidden secret). Fouth if you read my other post they are not intimate(sex is not everything for everyone). I do have a lot of time on my hands when a friend that is like a sister to me is involved. You are right my HUSBAND IS SO GOOD IT IS HARD FOR ME TO LET HIM GO.

@claremont - What am I doing except trying to find out how a traditional wedding works? What claim? You act like I told her any of this. Like I said before whatever she decide I got her back and that is that. I did not tell her to leave him. I just told her to check out his story. That is what I meant earlier when I said I tried talking to her. This here is me having her back.

@blank - I did not bash you. I said the comment about your name, because evidently you have not fully read my post. I did not bash the guy. In fact I said that truly believe that they really loved each other. I gave the background of the story, so people could understand why I was asking about traditional Nigerian weddings. Now if that is the way you feel about a person you have never met I would hate to see someone you have met. You bashed me from the beginning. I know that friends do things to other friends, but I am not like that. I can not control what you put on this forum, but I ask that you please do not bash me in that way, just for asking a question. Now if I offended you in what I said in my earlier post I do apologize, because that was not my intent. Again God Bless You.

@blank - God Bless You Too.

@blank - I see why you have "blank" for your user name. Go back and read my earlier post. I have not told my friend anything, she told me about the pics. She revealed the website to me. I have not mention to her nothing that I am doing. I am checking things out for her. She just believes what he tells her. I have not advised her on anything. get your facts straight, before you go bashing someone. I said that I spoke to my frien that is an attorney to see if she did marry him and found out if he was married previously what would that do to his status. That is when my attorney said that their marriage would be null and void. I have not told her none of this. Period!!

@claremont - I will not spoil anything for her. I just came on this site just to ask about tradional Nigerian weddings and I gave some feedback on the situation at hand. Everyone is blowing things out of pocket. I am not white and she is not white. I am not trying to mess up her life. I just do not want her to be taken advantage of. I have not told her about any of this. Just trying to find out some things.

@shelylilly - First of all I have been married for well over 10 years. Second you all fail to realize that my friend told me about the marriage and I am just looking into the truth of it. I have not bash her boyfriend, I have not said anything negative to her about him. I am just trying to look out for her. He seems like a nice guy and I have no complaints except the one. he fail to reveal earlier on that he had marry his babies mom. Whether it was legal or not. That's all I am saying. Why was it such a big secret?

@Boboedom - Thanks I will.

@Upright750 - For your 411 I have not said anything bad about my friends boyfriend. She came to me about the marriage story. I was just inquiring about the laws of Nigeria, since like you say I am not from Nigeria. I believe that I mention earlier about how I felt about him. I have no animousity against him and I am not jealous of anyone. I have no right to be jealous. I do not know where all of the posters are coming up with this jealousy act. I just wanted to find out if there could be any truth to his story. That's all. Since I am not from Nigeria what the heck is "PALLY". You make it sound like it is something negative.

@claremont - I am wicked because I care about my friend and her well being, pleeeeeease. I do not mess around with friends man or anyone that they might like. Loke I told $tunna I am not white and do not consider my self white. I just got my girl back. When or if she fall I will be there to catch her and if it is because of her man, yes I will bare all of his mess. Now if they do get married and the just break up over everyday things hey he is all good.

@tlops - America
[@donugapi - What does this mean? -Are you a Nigeria? if not please don add sand to the guy garry joor. If you fail to hear this warning what happen to your friend may aswell occur to you. Please mind your business and leave with their problem.

@2jusRadical- I do believe what people are saying I am just trying to get enough information so when I show her she would believe it. He did not post pictures her brother did.

@andromida - That is just the thing she don't know. He convince her that it is not real and he is never want to go back to Nigeria.

@MPEROR - Yes I was born in America.

@ibelab - She is beautiful. She is not fat and ugly or have low self esteem. She is very intelligent. She just don't know what to believe now.

@bountimore - This is my business.

@$tunna - You miss out on a whole lot. First of all she is not knowing want to marry him, so he can get a green card. She loves him. He is going to school in America and she wants to marry him. I said before that pics was seen on face book of him and his "wife" engagement. He explain to her about the relationship when they first met, but he never said that they got married. What is she getting return from him? Love is what she assume. As far as getting marry so that he can get a green card that is not her intentions, she love him and want to be with him. That is the only reason that I am trying to find out if the marriage is on paper. Because like you know in my country paper means a lot. My friend is not a white women she is a black American woman and I am doing all the lawyer talking and searching trying to find out answers, because she believes him. She does not know how the Nigerian culture works, neither do I. That is the only reason that I am trying to find out. I do not want to hurt this man and I have no problem in him trying to do better for himself. Just be honest that is all I am saying.

Is there a way if you can find out if the marriage is legal or not?

@Mrs.Chima - I would take into consideration what you said.
@For Everyone - Just for the record it is not about sex. According to my friend they have not been invovled in that way. She is a devour christian as well and he knows this. That is why I guess she is choosing to believe him. He said that he is not married. He has not asked to marry her I said that she is thinking about marrying him. I just wanted to know about the traditional weddings in Nigeria. His cousin had her wedding in Nigeria and her and her husband showed pics were they signed the marriage license or whatever you called it over there. They showed where her parents signed the decree and everything. With his wedding I saw now of this that I was asking how does the traditional wedding work in Nigeria. His cousin lives in America and her husband lives in Nigeria.

@andromida - That is the thing he has convince her that he is not really married to the girl in Nigeria and he wants to be with her and he has no intention of every going back to his country. My friend said that she has also spoke with a close relative of his that has been married to an American woman for over 14 years and he said that once he came to America that the life over in his country was over. So she did not have anything to worry about. So she is not truly aware of what is truth and what is not. They have all manage to "woo" her closer to him.
@MRbrownJAY - I agree that is all I am trying to say. Just be honest and give her the opportunity to decide if this is the road she wants to take.
@claremont - Yes you all might be loving, but not always honest especially in my friends case.

I am sure it will.

@ silverstud - I am not a hypocrite. I am a born again christian and I believe that right is right and wrong is wrong.
@ Mrs.Chima - I agree with you that marriage is marriage and if you take vows before God then, no man or woman should tear it down. It is just that he has been able to convince her that the marriage is void. My friend is not desperate as I said she just recently found out so she was already involved with him.
@claremont- I am not jealous or envy of their relationship. Like I said before I am happy for her. I am not trying to mess up anyones relationship I just feel that right is right and wrong is wrong. This man goes to church every sunday and is living a lie before God. What if she do marry him and die tomorrow. Where would her soul be? Besides I have a very loving relationship.
@nanidee2- How will it play out?
@Mynd_44- I am not into bashing. I am just trying to look out for her.

I will say one thing he can be married legal or not. It doesn't matter, because if they do get married and after he get his papers and try to leave her or bring his wife over. He is going to be in serious trouble, because I will lay all of his business to immigration and as fast as he got his green card they will take it back quicker. I already spoke to my attorney and he told me all that need to be done. So I just suggest he don't screw up.

@ MRbrownJAY - I did contact the wife and she only said that they were married and they do have a child together, in-which I already knew. She never said that the marriage was legal, she wanted to know who I was and I told her. I explained to her exactly what the husband said that he is not legally married to her and that he have no intentions on going back to her. She never reply back.
@claremont - This is my business. So you could have kept your comment to yourself.
@tom28 - If he is marrying her for papers I spoke with an attorney and if she could prove that he was married before he married her his green card can be null and void. I have that proof. I just wanted to make sure if over in Nigeria they had non-legal marriages.
@Mrs.Chima - My friend is not desperate, I believe that her man is just very persuasive and she indeed love him.
@Dohyn - Polygamy might be legal in Nigeria, but it is not legal in America, it is frown upon here in the US.
@olas2u - Maybe you do not know what friendship is, but here we are as close as sisters, so I am her family. He was honest as far as the baby and her mom, but he never mention the marriage until she comforted him about it.
@kpolli - I am not try to spoil anything, if that is his purpose I just feel like he need to tell her, she just might do it out of the kindness of her heart.