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Happy birthday your Excellency Sir ! My daughter shares same day with you...my IfeOluwakiishi is 6yrs old today too🥰

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Good morning Sir, kindly check your inbox Sir.

thesicilian:
There was a time when every snake related thread used to end up on the first page. I wonder what happened to that moderator.

That was Lalasticlala,..one of the best Mods on Nairaland back in the Days.

Can it be natural?

The heart of men are desperately wicked that they resort to anything to make bloodmoney.

infogenius:
Here’s my own advice to every 20-year-old woman reading this:

1 Your body and time are ur biggest assets right now. Protect them jealously. Say no to anything and anyone that wastes them. The energy u have at 20 will not be the same at 35, so use it to build, not to scatter.

2 Invest in urself early. Learn a skill that pays well, save money no matter how small, read books, travel if u can, build ur mind. The compound effect is real. What u do (or don’t do) between 20 and 30 will shape the rest of ur life.

3 Don’t tie ur worth to any man or relationship. Love is sweet, but a man should add to ur life, not become ur life. If he leaves, u should still be standing strong, not broken.

4 Choose ur friends carefully. The people u roll with in ur 20s will influence ur decisions heavily. Keep friends who push u up, not the ones who drag u into drama or competition.

5 Your beauty will change, but ur character and peace of mind will carry u far. Work on being kind, confident, and wise more than being “hot.” Hot fades, class doesn’t.

6 Don’t rush marriage or children because of pressure. Have them when u’re ready—financially, emotionally, mentally. A good man will wait for the right time, not force u into it early.

7 Learn to say NO without explanation. Protect ur peace like it’s gold.

8 Enjoy ur 20s, but don’t waste them. Party, date, have fun, but always have a plan. The freedom u have now is precious—use it wisely.

To the 20-year-old reading this: U have time on ur side. Don’t let society, family, or social media rush u.

Build quietly, love wisely, and become the woman ur future self will thank. ❤️

I was reading earnestly & saying this write-up look familiar...lo and behold, I checked the monicker and boom!

I beamed a smile that, he'd never disappoint.... keep it up Boss!

GravityDefier:
I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.

Ensure you have a stable source of income before thinking about marriage..

Don't rush nor allow pressure from the society to make you settle for less.

Misplaced priority

Kobojunkie:
The need is individual counseling, not couple counseling, because that marriage cannot work, no matter how many more bandages they try to put on it. Both of them are incompatible, and they should end it now. No point trying to argue the sunk cost fallacy.

That's the point Sis!
G'morning ma'am.

Kobojunkie:
1. The woman probably hugged several other individuals at that same occasion. So, I disagree!

2. Why should a groom warn against the guest, though? If he is uncomfortable with marrying a woman who remains friends with her ex, then he should have avoided this woman altogether. You don't go dating someone only to then insist that person must change for you afterwards. That is some really stewpid moves right there.

3. That adage only applies to those Yoruba women who are married under traditional configurations of the union; women who choose to live under the shadow of their husbands as subordinates and not as partners in the union. From what is contained in the OP, the couple above is nothing like your traditional couple.

4. The two were not compatible even before this. From the conversation that reportedly ensued, the woman desired to have a marriage partner, but she seems to be with a man who is dead set on being a ruler over her and her decisions in life. That is more than a red flag for both of them. 🥱

Still on the same fact that,.....two can't work except they agreed. Amos 3:3

The couples still need some counseling to enable them have a model marriage.

Kobojunkie:
There are those who see nothing of hugging others out there. I am the total opposite. But I respect those who greet others with a hug. It's not Bleep-up on their end.

Even if the guy was an ex, there is nothing wrong with greeting him with a hug.🥱🥱

2. Those are two incompatible people there.🥱🥱

Should it wasn't their wedding reception, the hug wouldn't have been a problem

Should the groom hasn't warned the bride against the guest b4 the event it wouldn't have been a problem either



Yoruba says "the food that a husband isn't eating, the wife shouldn't cook or Dish it"

No matter how much they love each other or how they settled the issue, that single act has left a torn which might be difficult to nip in their union.

We4all:
Though the emboldened was stated in the write up, I feel it is an exaggeration, and I don't want to believe she actually did that. If she did, then she isn't smart at all.

As a guest at a wedding, I would feel uncomfortable seeing either the bride or groom hug an old friend of the opposite gender. Then imagine how the groom felt about it. That is, if it actually happened.

Based on the write up, she truly hugged the guest which is a turn off....the guy might be her crush or ex....she really bleeped up on her big day and went viral for the wrong thing.

She should put herself in the groom's shoe, how would she have felt should the table turned? Will she just sit calmly?

It is very wrong of the bride to invite him despite the warning and suspicion from her groom... standing up to go hug him us also a turn off.... marriage is about mutual understanding..... they're both not ready for this institution.

Suicideboy:
Seems so sloppy


The only interesting kdrama rn is bon a petit your majesty

https://assets.gqindia.com/photos/68b567b10549de08d28877c3/16:9/w_2560%2Cc_limit/Bon-Appetit-Your-Majesty-King-Yeonsangun-real-story.jpg

Hi,

Please can you help me with a link on how to download it? I was lucky to collect it from a friend
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Only to see episode 3-12....I don't want to start without episode 1&2
... I've tried nkiri severally, they're just wasting my data.

Please help me with a link Sir.

osmerc:
That would be nice. Looking forwardto it

There are lots of threads on that on here too that had even degenerated into WhatsApp communities from Nairaland....I forgot their titles

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Hmmmmmm, life no balance truly!

I can feel your pain Sir, it hurts to give it all and still be at the receiving end irrespective of one's gender.

Are kids involved already? If Yes, I feel for them......try your possible best to always be part of the kid's growth while you priorities your sanity, you can as well see a counselor.

Be strong, may God Almighty strengthen you in this crucial time, you're not alone.