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Llanthony401:
Whenever this thought comes to your mind just say to yourself "what do i have to loose anyway, i can be friends with her and still be in a relationship with her" just think of it as having a friend who can also make your divck happy whenever you want.

Dats it. Is it always abt d dick?


because I dnt crave for such atal and dats why I prefer sticking to d friendship arena as I wont get hurt or fuzzy feelings if anything goes wrong.

Bt will giv it a trial though.

Atleast I must marry smday

olaleye1355:
That's exactly what am preaching to you. Whenever you see a girl you like approach her like you might die tommorrow,and that's a fact,not taking the risk at all guarantees you can't have her. But an attempt still gives her the notion that at least someone cares.

Cmon what will you tell God when he starts asking you questions like "what of Shalewa I sent to you","Rita nko?","what have you done with Vivien?"... "Son?!!! Then what have you been doing with your dick? Oh you ve been pouring your sperm on the floor!!!"

*Thunderous Thunder Smites Him*

Lol
I get wat u trying to say now.

Toasting mode activated

olaleye1355:
One word
















Live like there is no tommorrow!!!
That's 1,2,3,4,5,6
Yeah 6 words



LIVE LIKE THERE IS NO TOMMORROW

tbx boss


bt it aint perfect witout a lady/help meet beside u

Angelberry:
let me read your post

will b xpecting

Angelberry:
why are u here?

to seek for wat I call psychological help

do u mind rendering one to me?

Cutehector:
well the truth I have to tell u I this, forget my previous post... pls neva make d mistake to pregnant a girl in ur university days.. be very careful as there are a lot of destiny killers.. u shoud be happy dat girl left ur hous in disappointment, cuz if u had sex with her, she may create problems in ur life.. and that will be the beginning of your downfall..


So relax my brother, concentrate on ur books, graduate, get a good job, den women will be d ones toastin u.

Yeaa its d pregnancy part dat made me lock up for ladies.

Had dat problem in my service year bt d lady aborted it and since den ladies av been a no go area for me.
Atleast i always remove d sex part off my mind and dat makes me b jst friends wit dem.


Yea d job avnt helped me so far oo
As naa gold diggers dey arnd me like flies.

Until i c maisef in an entirely new environment shaaa.


Life is so awkward atimes

Cutehector:
Lmao I come dey even suspect myself say e fit be me cuz d the post describes me perfectly

wow so u in same situation wit me.
Bt am nt shy to say my problem as dats d beginning of my solution



Will really need ur advice on hw u tackled urs

Oliviaarims:
@lonelymathguy,u should just make up ur mind on what u want. Since u say u can hold a conversation well enough,then that's some hope. U shouldn't be worried that u aren't dating just for the sake of the art.

When u find a girl u care about and admire very much,then concentrate on that one. Put all ur communication skills into good use and channel all ur energy into making sth work with her. But don't do it foolishly...quit all the unnecessary analysis. So,what if u aren't ready to get married just yet?

There are a good number of things u'll learn from being in a relationship, which would prepare u for marriage eventually.

Begin to see ur self in some positive sense. Develop some confidence and sense of self worth and tell urself u have a lot to offer in a relationship.

Tanx ma'am

I will look forward in putting dose communication, cognitive and affective skills to use

carlcar2012:
I smell smellymouth

u rong sis.
back to d mata.
wat could b wrong.

I mean am very jovial, laudable, outspoken. bash ladies, abuse sef. and am free among dem.
bt wen taking IT To tHAT ZONE. I JST AV A U-TURN AND NEGLECT THEM

SmellingAnus:
I have a friend in secondary school then like you... He was a Jehovah witness guy. His case is even worse than yours but today he is married.. It has more to do with your background and how you grew up (environment inclusive).. do you know girls also like this quality you have but the problem is that it's much in you ... (you only need 20 or 30% of this yourself in a serious relationship and you will find girls getting attracted and staying with you..) girls may like you at the beginning because they may think you have self control and that is what they think they want, however they discover that your case looks abnormal... Anyway... Just dnt give up easily and see beyond the rejection served to you... Your goal should be to try to turn the "NO" of your target to "YES"...

Tanx boss will work more on mysef

Paulpaulpaul:
Vow to stop self servicing, then keep one of those friends as friend and let's see what happens.



What friendship is tiger keeping with a dog?

corper: Nefisa is your mummy at home?
Nefi: No
Corper: come lemme send you something
Nefi: I will shout o,
Corper: Stop na , I will by aeroplane for you. fine girl

Tanx boss

SmellingAnus:
Op you are normal but you need a total reorientation about how you should relate to ladies you lust after or have a crush on... 1st ... Whenever a girl tells you no, it means it could be yes or no ... So don't give up easily when you find your prey.... Chase her as if your life depends on it.... 2nd... Do well to complement your targets in a flirty way... (e.g. I like the shape of your hips it looks very sexxy.. etc) 3rd... Be highly confident or courageous when you are with your target... Don't behave like a novice... Behave like someone that knows what he wants form his target ( a cute handsome guy can behave like a novice and get away with it )...4th.. listen to women attentively even when they are not making sense cos through that way many guys have penetrated the kitty cats of girls who have boy friends but who hardly listen to them... (this is the weapon of Guys that sleep with other people's girl friends... They listen to the girl and her problems maybe relationship problems then they console her... Somehow the girl is use to them and always want to spend time with them and they end up having sex different times.. 5th... Always remember that when you see a diamond from a distance that you are not the only person that has seen it... So you better move faster if not someone faster than you will get it... Note: most of these tips I gave you are not applicable to all girls... But since you know how to read girls, you should know the one to apply at every stage... When your target sleep in your room.. just a little cuddle could be the beginning of something lovely to happen...(if you are not sure you can ask her... Can I hold you and sleep? I think I am catching cold...) Anyway let me stop here..

Bro I really ur advice. its very insightful.
Bt I think am not normal atal.

I mean all dis u said is wat I knw for sure and do practice one or two of dis.
Bt d issue is even if d bae open d heavenly wide

I will jst b lookin as I don't get moved atal

dats my probs, I dnt get moved atal. like a stone

firstking01:
So, what will it cost you to make a friend with a girl then later on ask her out??...forGosake it's as simple as that.

because most of the time av known excessively too much about her to make any more.

I prefer dating smone I dnt knw atal sef ( adventurous type) bt eventually I always get to knw d person and dat makes me not to date dem again

Paulpaulpaul:
Vow to stop self servicing, then keep one of those friends as friend and let's see what happens.



What friendship is tiger keeping with a dog?

corper: Nefisa is your mummy at home?
Nefi: No
Corper: come lemme send you something
Nefi: I will shout o,
Corper: Stop na , I will by aeroplane for you. fine girl

Lol
U crazy i swear.
U got me here shaaa.
Wel i mst confess i got free wifi couple of times dat even led to hacking in one of d free wifi i got. Tank God for available antivirus software arnd. I sharply instal dose software to dat wifi wey one giv me permanent probs.

And since den, i find it hard to advance to any wifi again because i kip thinking of dat outcome. Even using strong backup aint a guarantee.

Its been 7montha frm dat escapades and dat kpt ringin in my brain like its two months to d ish all tins being equal.

Can dat also b d reason

firstking01:
I wonder why people will change their moniker whenever they need advice...well, what i dnt understand is you saying you an extrovert...extroverts i know are outgoing people...they easily make friends, they are adventurous in nature, they are never shy before girls...i dnt really know what your case is...maybe you should be more humourous, work on yourself esteem and etc like someone above me suggested.

Bro u no dey extrovert reach me oo.

I was d MC in my CdS group during dinner party(nysc)
Very humorous and sociable wen amidst friends(both male and female)
Bt wen it comes to qstns like
Hey LMG(LonelyMathsGuys) wen u go get ur own bae?
I jst look dumb

Maxi112:
Egbon! U don't need to worry

relationship in real life is not nollywood movie.. where some one will introduce u to a total stranger u don't no
and u guys start dating




look man! U have to work on ur self, and start thinking positive abt ur self, keep more female friends more than d male forks, gist with them abt everything... most especially love ur self more


try to concar ur worst fear around them, and Blv in ur self

Tanx bro.

Bt I stil dnt see any reason to b in a relationship wit dem

Diddyydiva:
Until you tell me your real moniker,I won't say anything

I bliv u wont need dat.

to chyke/psych a babe no b d problem oo.

Bt to kip up wit a relationship is wat I find disturbing

SAINTSAMURAI:
hehe present mylady.

waiting for ur advice bro.

avin dem is nt d probs.

bt flexing wit dem is wat I c as ish.

I mostly do counselling sef for dem weneva dey com arnd not knwing say mesef nid one

Cutehector:
My brother konji never catch u yet... by the tym the tin seriously catch u, my broda.. u go see urself for olosho house...


Just relax...

Bro getting an olosho aint d ish here

I jst don't get moved or av sexual urges kind of tin..


weneva I c myself being lustful I result into taking maths games/ board games to forget any urge.

And again I av dem plenty as friends in shot dey are loaded arnd me(maybe for d brain shaaa) bt am dis indoor type and don't really mix or find masef in a social gadering

KashyBaby:
Simple....u are NOT who u are they tot when they met u...



Stop spending time behind the screen...go out and have fun,meet real ppol with same interest.. I mean women .. besides, ur still young...enjoy ur life.

Dats d ish. I was nea xposed to d fun lifestyle frm unset.
Was focused on being on the academic train.
Until I realise dat aint all.

dough avin dem as a friend is smtin easy for me and am cool wit it. But taking it to d next stage is smtin I dnt c any reason todo


I hope am normal?

pweetychyka:
@OP, d ryt counselor moniker on ur cc is supposed to be cutehector n oliviaarims n not curehector n olivarims!!!

Back to your gist, I think you should work on your self esteem n carriage

Tanx, will work on dat.

But am comfortable having dem as friends bt jst dnt feel free anymore if trying to move to d relationship zone

Modified
Yeah yeah
I had to create a new moniker so dat u guys advice/opinion wont b based on my username.
Well lets cut to the chase.

Am a graduate of Mathematics fr0m a reputable university in Nigerian.
A Yoruba by tribe, fluent in English.

But my problem is I fall into d category of d extrovert/lively person on social media/chat apps but an introvert/dulling type when opportune to meet up with opposite sex. Many a time have been tagged 'gay, geek, overly serious type, SU etc' just because I don't show any sign of advances to a lady I lust or av crush on.

I remembered vividly in my Uni days wen a very close female friend of mine came todo overnight reading in my room.
my roomie left the room for me hoping I will perform wonders but wen eventually d said babe came over. I did jst exactly wat she said she came for "tutorial" imagine teaching someone all through d night and got to a stage wia the lady asked dat dnt I av blood running through my veins? In which I replied " I do my things professional " i.e when u said u coming over for tutorial, I switch my mood and xter to that. She had to leave as early as 4am to her hostel and ever since den, she jst wave and say hello weneva we crosspath.

Well in summary I c myself being lonely most of the times and only being graced/feel among wen in the presence of my colleagues around me. Which we aint within reach at present.
And again I av dem plenty as friends in shot dey are loaded arnd me(maybe for d brain shaaa) bt am dis indoor type and don't really mix or find masef in a social gadering. neva attended any party all tru sskull life not even birthday party.
Am always locked up in the room or library. bt yet I know much about dem and I read minds(my psychopath dat make dem afraid of me)
So my great Romancelanders, wat really could b wrong with me and y are the ladies loving me online but leaving me wen we c in person.

Note: Am 23yrs with no bae. Avin a face older dan my age though (25-26yrs facially). I av this geeky face and geeky lifestyle filled with geeky conversations. could that b a reason to b boring
But am comfortable having dem as friends bt jst dnt feel free anymore if trying to move to d relationship zone

Help me a NL out. Its getting really disturbing and boring
Modiffied
It seems u guys are getting me wrong, am sociable wen it comes to doing dat( relating wit ladies, discussing in person with dem. Avin gist/gossip/talk about life etc.) I feel free mingling with dem.
Bt wen It comes to taking or advancing to anoda satge(relationship) with dem.
I av a bordering question of (
is it necessary to b in a relationship wit such person
wat else do u want frm d person apart frm being her friend.
How much closer do u want to get after u av known all about the person
Now if eventually yes, wat plans do u wanna av with d person
U ready for marriage or jst wanna flex?
is it d sex part dat makes me wanna ask her out?)
So all these results me into being just friends with most of my female friends. and dat bodas me alot

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