₦airaland Forum

I feel for you poster, you made a mistake it's not the end of the world, if I were in your shoes I would handle it like this.

1. Repent, ask God for forgiveness and make up your mind not to go outside your marriage again
2. Find a true spiritual leader you can talk to e.g. a True Pastor both you and your wife respect, tell him/her what happened so he can counsel you with spiritual insight/ wisdom, i believe he will want you to break up with your girlfriend and also tell your wife{pls note wisdom must be applied in telling your wife based on the type of person she is, so she doesn't have miscarage or mental breakdown, etc.}.)
3. Break up with your Girlfriend but let her know you will support and take care of the child, but you and her can no more be together
4. At the right time tell your wife based on the approach that the pastor gives you, you might need some other people to help you break the news to her/ calm her down maybe the Pastor can help or another other mature person you know.
5. Do not partake in abortion, if you do you will be going from frying pan to fire, you will have blood on your hands and i feel very strongly you might lose the children your wife is carrying(speaking based on revelation)
6. Live a holy life going forward (surrender your life totally to Jesus and bring up the 3 kids this way), this is the only way good can come out of this situation, your wife will learn to trust you again, your children will get along in the long run and all things will go on to work together for your good based on the fact that you surrender your life to Christ.

Hope this helps, if don't know a true pastor and you need one, i can recommend a few to you.

I've lived a rough life style as well in the past and God has turned my life around so i know what it means to be where you are now.

God bless you and help you in Jesus Name Amen. feel free to reach out if you need further guidance.

eglobalcafe:
Good evening guys, please I need some advice, my wife had pcos then that she couldn't get pregnant and now it's almost our 4th year in the marriage, after doing 2 ivf I told myself not to do it again because the money was not there and adoption is not my thing. So I was worried because am not the kind of man that like polygamy.

Now after we stop the ivf my wife started taking supliments and now she's pregnant after 7 months of taking the supliment and now because of my wife condition I decided to have a side chic who I can marry for the sake of children because it's not easy after 6 years between me and my wife and we are 4 years in marriage, so now as am talking to you my wife and my girl friend are both pregnant same month and from the scan results my wife might likely give birth to twins because two sack was found in her.

AND now I love both of them so much and I don't know what to do now. My girl friend is two weeks pregnant. Am not a bad person but I feel bad hurting my wife but the condition is not easy for both of us that is why I went out for another woman. Does it make any sense to abort my girlfriend pregnancy. Because even if I want to keep both of them it won't be easy for me to have two women pregnant for me at the same time. I wish it's different time I would have allow my girlfriend keep the pregnancy and my girlfriend really loves me ans she said she needs the pregnancy too.

Atleast am doing financially okay because I can feed both if them but how do I handle this kind of situation.

I have been having sleepless night because my wife can nit give me children at that time and now the blessings are here please advise me.

It's won't be easy to keep two women and it's not my thing but what do I know. Guys help me no insult please, if you ask me why can't I be patient the I will say am my mum is old and am the one taking care of my mum. And am 35, years now but if I don't what I did when I grow old who will take care if me? This are the quei asked myself daily before going ahead to impregnated my girl friend. Please advise me

Should my girlfriend abort the pregnancy?

I love tall girls, if you are tall, I'm interested, let's get to know each other

RealMarv:
Most guys I know don't like it when a lady is taller than them especially if they are developing feelings for her. They prefer a lady who is short or of average height. The surprising thing is that even the majority of tall guys prefer going for short ladies.

This begs the question, are tall ladies not attractive? Why are guys intimidated when they are with tall ladies?

are you sure this is Naija, the license plate on the cars don't look Nigerian. Might be a car used to take her around whilst she was in another country, not saying she can't afford it though, she definitly can

Abeg share when you finish with am ohhhh

idonhammer:
Abeg give me her number and you will be highly rewarded

link me up with 1 naaa

mypains:
Lol... A lot of Yoruba women have that size. Nothing new jare.

link me up with this your female colleague, i be booty fan, might be unsexy to you but love it, help a brother out. Nice 1

Headlesschicken:
Gotta female colleague whom looks just like that,that sh!t x quite unsexy, stressful as Phuck while dealing wiv dix sought of ladies...

Storyyyyy,International community will do nothing but impose sanctions and the masses will suffer whilst Buhari and Govt officials will still be ok, what i see happening is a breakout of violence in the land, and the violance will start to take form around ethnic lines and religious lines, North vs south and Muslim vs Christian, Militants like the Boko Haram, Herdsmen will be on rampage, Finally the Military will take over and then restore peace and then we will go back to dictatorship/ Military rule and God knows what. I enjoin all Nigerians to start praying now, there's a lot happening that we don't know and can't see, God save our souls.

HigherEd:
And we would have the international community intervene. The international community may tolerate a rigged election as they have done for many African elections. But once the INEC declares Atiku the victor and Buhari refuces to concede then it would be the beginning of a series of sh**t ton of calamity befalling Nigeria.

1) At the least International sanctions would definitely kick in. The sanctions would range from Political to Economic and would definitely plunge Nigeria into a recession.

2) Exiling Atiku to a safer neighbouring country would be the priority of the International community - He may be Sworn-In another country.
- If Atiku escapes Nigeria alive it would be mega problem for Buhari because he(Atiku) would be recognised by the Intl community. This would make any invasion of Nigeria a very likely option.

3) A military intervention would be considered - ECOWAS would take a back seat because of Nigeria's relatively large army. If all goes well at United Nations Security Council and US secures a unanimous vote for intervention then an intense aerial and naval incursion would occur. The US/NATO alliance would decimate Nigeria's naval, aerial and ground forces within five working days. At this point Buhari may give up and hand over or waith for the enforcers to reach his door step - The ability of the US white house intervening will largely be determined by the outcome of the Next US midterm, if republicans hold both houses of congress then the White house may get a mandate to intervene in a future Nigerian crisis.

If US fails to get an approval from UNSC or US congress to interveñe then sanctions remain, economy would remain down and Nigeria may fall into a civil war...