₦airaland Forum

Tor....I predicted this possibility, but they won't hear.

onatisi:
She allowed trump to get into her , it was evident she was trying to catch up to trump Antics and that isn't surprising because this is trump 3rd time so he is used to the stage . Trump was able to tell Americans that Biden did a bad job and he kept making sure he tied Kamala to that failure

I think the post-debate analysis made it clear that her stand on fracking, ICE, defunding the police, foreign policy was different. So I think her past is haunting her.

onatisi:
Harris was a big big disappointment , I expected her to do better with fact but instead she was trying to act and play on emotions . She was begging instead of talking . She devoured and planned to attack trump person instead of his policies .that actually backfired .

And she just changed into a progressive.

That was a nice purchase. Mine shall follow soon.

floss:
The biggest problem of the black man is over population...the Blackman hasn't grown to the point of using population to his advantage..but instead it only mounts pressure on the system.. thereby giving birth to greed and corruption, hatred and all kinds of wickedness. This is why the elites wants to reduce human population especially within the black race...

Take Northern Nigeria for example that has very high population, how has it helped that region of the country?...

So for the present problem you're seeing about people wanting to leave, it's people there's not enough to go round... only few can match the competition..

No government can satisfy 50% of Nigeria population, because the bigger the population, the more complicated and difficult it becomes.

This has been my cry. We need quality population! Government should introduce and enforce a one-child policy!

Thinktank02:
Now, if the concern is mainly that your kids get a good form of education, consider staying for a while in Nigeria while you monitor their progress. @OP, Abroad is wild, many parents do actually regret it if proper monitoring isn't available to guide and regulate the emotions of those kids especially during teen age when the hormones rage and peer influence is high.

Even parents who live with their wards sometimes lose control over them, as I know someone who can't even correct or talk to the child anymore. The ideology of the west encourages that the child should be allowed to form their own opinion and the fact that you can't actually discipline in a way that instil fear and respect in the child's mentality has made many of the children lose control and do as they please.

Also, if you consider the option of separation from your family, you may get the same outcome. The presence of a father in a home plays a significant influence in how your kids turn out later in life.
Boys rebel a lot especially during their adolescent age if they lack the fatherly role in guiding and tampering their unruly excesses. Also girls will miss your presence and they turned out to seek fathers in the opposite sex as they age which make them desire a male figure in their lives, so most times they are ruined emotionally and probably may come to hate men in the future mainly because of your absence. So your role is very crucial in being in their lives while they develop and grow into maturity.

Please,for your wife, if you suspect or know she has some foul attitude to you in Nigeria, if you permanently locate her to the west, you may lose her. Why? the law gives some many awkward rights to the woman as against what we have in Africa. So these privileges get into their head and most times, many do misbehave.
If you know that your wife has no ride or die attitude as concerning your marriage and relationship, I beg you in the name of God don't bring her. I KNOW WHAT I AM SAYING.

Many Nigerian women don't subscribe to the African and the biblical principle of the family as the man being head and the woman's submission,
to the authority of the man as the leader of the home. So when they get abroad, they conceive that if, in case of an altercation, they can easily send you out, own half of what you have worker for all your life and still get you to support their children while they have the liberty to do as they please(getting as many c*rks as possible) they tend to throw you under the bus and relieve themselves of your exertion and control over of the home.

In the west, women have the ability to earn and also enjoy equal rights and even more privileges just for being a woman. So they have upper hand as the case may be, some taking that to account seek to lord and boss over their husband. Tell him to also do domestic chores that they haven't complained of even while catering to the whole family in Nigeria. So the manual lose it and try to excert his influence which if not handled properly may lead to violence or a rebuttal from her because she understands the law is in her favor.

Also women as they age also tend to get bored of the marriage, the authority of the man and his control and dominance especially if they start to earn more or rise above the man in the relationship.

They feel he's now below par, and they can't submit to him. To the key is for the men to rise and strive earnestly to always be a quality leader of the home so he doesn't lose his authority. Because the society offers equal opportunity for growth and sometimes you'll discover if the woman is qualified, I mean as the skills to be employed, they pick the woman over the man except the man displays exceptional ability over her.

I have so many things to say but let me conclude here, if you didn't meet your wife as a virgin or you suspect any unruly or sketchy behavior towards the opposite sex while in Nigeria then be prepared to share her with other men or divorce as soon as she gets her liberty in the west.
Why do I say this? Most times in the west, she's more in contact with her work colleagues than you, especially when you both keep a job to meet the high demand of the utilities of the home.

In the progress, she may get drawn to one of her male colleagues or a randy boss whose leadership skill she admires. Men who find her attractive or wabts to pipe her will make a move on her, and if consent is given, she gets laid with.
Once she has a taste of another c*rk, this is the beginning of the end of your marriage most times except she's really family oriented or has a strong religious mentorship, if not that marriage is over sooner than later in most times.

I can give you the full gist of how a woman has chemical(hormonal) imbalance, especially when they cross 30yr and how they get tired of their husband's boring sex life if you want. But I'd stop here for now

Thanks

Op...this advice is all you need. Embrace it!

Earthstorms:
Do you want to remain married?

If you want to be married in the actual sense of the word, then you have to live with your family at one location.

You can not be in one country while your family is in another country while claiming married.
People do those type of arrangements out of necessity, not what you should do if it can be avoided. From your comment you can afford to relocate with your family.

My advice is this
Discuss your fears with your wife.
In the discussion agree to a divorce if freedom abroad gets into her head.
Relocate to the country of your choice.
Respect your wife in line with the culture of the country you relocated to.
Make your wife earn a living in the new country, that way divorce settlement does not become a reason for her to ask for divorce.

Be prepared for a divorce if the marriage does not work out. No need forcing a bad relationship and no need staying away from your family in separate countries just because you are afraid of divorce.

Most importantly, ensure you earn more than your wife and be able to foot your bills. Many women find it hard to be submissive to a man that can not foot the bills.

"Discuss your fears with your wife...." Please flee from this advice! What do you expect an aggressive wife to say? Knowing full well that a controversial reaction could impede the impending pleasure and freedom?

A graduate!

franugo:
Another scam in progress

Honestly.

A simp is down!

Development levy....broad-day robbers!

Zonefree:
An average woman will always discard her dreams, passion and career for a reputable diçk.

Women don't chase their dream. When you see an average Nigerian woman chasing her dreams, poverty is the cause.


I wish her safe delivery.

Hmmmm....deep! The question, however, is that, what is the "dream" the average woman is chasing?

MadPolitician:
Because the state did not provide with the skills and finance to compete with their mates elsewhere. Bad governance. Perennial ineptitude in high placed. The state failed them. The state is to be blamed, not the poor folks. It is the duty of the state to train the people enough to compete

And going forward, give birth to one child, and give that child the best as obtained in saner climes.

MadPolitician:
I'm against aggressive population control, especially when the government is doing a absolutely nothing to train tbe population to contribute to the economic growth of the country.

Yet, a population of bokoharam, yahoo boys, oloshos, kidnappers, hawkers, child traffickers are nothing but a useless population!

MadPolitician:
Sorry if i sound petty, but should we start by exterminating your family in order to get a grip on the ballooning population numbers? Or would you rather we stop others from procreating, while your family stays safe? Most times we tend to come up with all sorts of bizarre alternatives, as long as we are shielded from the net consequences.

The government is not working. No serious organised insensitives to farmers and scientists, no serious attempt to skill the population enough for them to be competitive in the global stage, no attempts to create a robust banking sector to lend to the citizens for startups.. Just reduce the population and all will be well, eight?

Common sense should dictate that I am talking about what should happen going forward. We can't kill the existing souls.

MadPolitician:
Endless calls from relatives looking for someone to help them pay for their childrens school fees.

Somebody should tell tinubu that reforms are made for the living and not for the dead.

Family planning is key! We need a quality population.

Family planning must be enforced: a one-child policy is the way out. We need a quality population to progress as a nation.

alamscolo:
Everything is retrogressing, I was even telling my wife that it seem I'll have to move back to a rural area cos of farming. Her major concern was banditry and kidnapping which is also a valid reason. I don tire I swear.

This great calamity was seen before now but some people chose to be tribalistic. Everyone dey feel the brunt now.

I know Nigerians will still be daft by 2027.

That's if ½ of the population never go into extinction by then sha

She is right. God will deliver us.

I talk am. Take away peace from your husband and he shall leave you someday! Simple.

She just sat quietly and was very loving and submissive to Reno, and he just started beating her. What a wicked Reno!

Fejoku:
30 dead but everyone moves on like nothing happened yet some people still have their hopes high on Nigeria making progress. I wonder what kind of humans inhabit this geographical space.

It's the type of humans born by parents who have no business being parents and know nothing about family planning. Portions of the population are regularly wasted with no one making a fuss about it because it is not a quality population....just numbers!

casualobserver:
Most commentators do not understand the gravity of our problems.

What Nigerians want is for Tinubu to continue to do what Buhari did. Continue to borrow to subsidize petrol and continue to use our little forex to defend the Naira. Those are the root of the hardships Nigerians are facing.

The problem with that is that as at the day Buhari left office, 97% of our income was used to service debts.

How about security? Why has kidnapping increased? Why is the NSA boss and the other service chiefs still in office? Whonis held accountable....

These people are begging for breakdown of social order and a violent revolution. NNPC is wicked!

concho:
This takes me back to my Chem 101 exam at FUTO. Now, I wasn’t exactly best friends with textbooks, but I had to impress my crush, Amaka—you know, before she turned hookup queen. So, I rolled into the exam hall, armed with cheat sheets like a professional smuggler, determined to help her pass and maybe score some brownie points.

First question I saw? A diagram that looked like the Congo map on drugs. I was about to consult my ‘notes’ when Mr. Etabor locked eyes with me. Quick as lightning, he called me to stand up. Being the sharp guy I am, I went full spy mode and tried swallowing the cheat sheet like a sandwich. Bad idea. Next thing I knew, this guy threw a punch so hard, I’m convinced he was an undercover boxer.

I woke up 30 minutes later, my jaw still vibrating like a Nokia ringtone. Everyone was gone except my then-girlfriend (whom I was constantly cheating on, Mr. Etabor, and security, all ready to escort me to the senate building. And Amaka? The one I was trying to impress? She was the one spreading the news faster than gossip in a hair salon.

Did I get expelled? Nope. But lesson learned: stick to people who actually like you

Oh Nairaland...don't kee is with laughter!

oluwaseunamos33:
Oga, which little baby are you talking about, are u the one that impregnate her or you heard her saying she have little baby. Some1 that got married on the 4th of February this year, count it, is it up to 9 months?

That's Nigeria for you....nothing is straightforward!

babtoundey:
Domestic violence doesn't breed good fruit. If the abused doesn't prey on the abuser,the abuser will prey on the abused. It isn't a must to be married. And if you're married, it isn't a must you stay in it. As soon long as it turns toxic and life threatening, quit and never look back.

Whatever relationship you share with your husband that provokes you to push him "the push" that will snuff life from his breath is no longer a wife- husband relationship. Let assumed you pushed him slightly and like a lifeless or fragile chicken that he was, he died. You still had the gots to go out and buy petrol and burn the one you married and call the father of your child.

If the killing was inadvertent, you definitely would raise an alarm because you wouldn't expect him to die.

Anyways, since you killed him and burnt his body "out of fear, the law should have mercy on you and kill and burn you too out of fear. An eye for an eye, makes the wicked stop being wicked.

Vawulence!!!

overdrive:
Y burning him

She was confused. She thought she could hide it. I honestly pity women and children with their sense of logic!

Namaster:
Who is the OTHER man?
Who is recording the video?
Why are they INSIDE the couples' bedroom?

MORE importantly, why is the man JUST lying there like someone in the throes of an epileptic attack while a BITCH makes him her bitch?

REGARDLESS of where you are when you are PHYSICALLY assaulted by ANYONE, including a woman, you are LEGALLY allowed to defend yourself through VIOLENCE.

The video record HELPS.

Women like this one feel EMPOWERED when they attack a man who REFUSES to fight back. It SHOCKS them when a man finally retaliates WITHOUT holdimg back.

Seconded.

People must learn family planning by force!