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baby124:
How did he place a curse on himself? A 13yr old child that an adult, his step mother molested? It’s his father and step mother that cursed themselves.

OP, you owe nobody an apology. You were a child and should have been protected. You have no business being sexually active and violated by an adult at that age. The adults in your life failed you and deserve to be in prison. Ensure you use that your brain to turn your life around, so that devil who tried to destroy a bright destiny and life will be shamed in the pits of hell where she is. Your father should be the one begging you and confessing publicly what happened. Ensure her children also know what happened and if they try to deny your truth, ensure people know exactly that their mother was a pedophile. Trust me, it will help you heal when the truth is confronted. Such evil and wicked people only win in secrecy and silence.

You deserve people to seek your forgiveness and reconciliation. If they don’t, stay far from them and create your own future and family after you have healed. Ensure you protect your kids always. It’s just as well that the children of a pedophile are not around your kids and ensure you keep them away from your future kids..

Thanks a lot for this piece. It’s enlightening.

Rexymania:
Please explain deeper how she sexually molested you

What do you want to know about?

ruggedtimi:
i meant you should see a "SHRINK"....

Okay I’ll do that. Thanks a lot

bukatyne:
Why don't you blame her?

That's part of the abuse, to make you feel that you were a willing participant.

Please go for therapy, and go to Jesus.

In addition to healing you from the past, it will most importantly ensure that you don't let her keep ruining your future from the grave.

It is well.

Thanks a lot for this. This really goes a long way.

Lastpharoah33:
He's right, a psychologist.

I'm a victim too, it's well.

Okay I understand now. I thought he meant African shrine.

Wow, I always thought I was the “new thing under the sun” can you give us a little gist so we can learn better?

We men need to rise and protect the male child especially those that have experienced it. I’m BS yew we have others facing it now and are feeling bad about themselves which can lead to suicide and self hatred. There should be a way they can communicate without feeling ashamed

ruggedtimi:
You have to visit a Shrink asap.

Do you mean a shrine?

MONEY247:
trauma is the biggest Demon to overcome...
I hope you find peace

Thanks a lot 💯

SpencerForbes:
I’m happy for her 😊, but my advice to you is simple: don’t dwell on it too much. Instead, focus entirely on rebuilding yourself. It might take some time, but you will be fine. The first step is to forgive yourself; understand that everything that happened wasn’t your fault. She failed in her duty as a mother.

Secondly, I’m sure there is a rift between you and your sibling. Whether they are older or younger, settling that conflict would be a good move. If there are ways to reconcile without bringing up their mother’s actions, I suggest you do so. Most children find it hard to believe their mother is capable of such things, and forcing the issue might only drive them away.

Thirdly, talk to your dad about this—if he is still around. He might still be holding onto some old grudges. Remember the story of Jacob and Reuben; family dynamics are complicated, but as for the rest of the world, don't worry about them. No one else is living your life, so their opinions don't matter.

You did not destroy your family. She simply gaslit you into feeling like you did. You might eventually need to forgive her just so you can move on with your own life, but the most important thing is this: Ensure you don't allow your own children to fall into the same trap.

The truth is, if this were a lady’s story, it would have reached the Frontpage by now. But as a man, you’re expected to just "man up" and do the dirty work yourself. That’s just the reality here.

Thanks a lot 🙏. This relieved the major part of the guilt I feel. My siblings are older and I’ll clearly have a quiet time with them and also talk to my dad.

MEGA4BILLION:
The pains a male child goes through in life, turn into a tool used and abused in silence. Failed by both family and society.
The father could not even fight for his son but abandoned him in the dungeon of abuse but if it were to be a girl child, hell will break loose.

Male children to need protection too but we’re conditioned to help the female more. That’s why I created this thread to create awareness and not gender war. I hope it gets to more people.

Cc: Nlfpmod, Mynd44

oz4real83:
Your dad is the problem, how will somebody blame a child for the sins of an adult? You claimed your dad loved you before, I don't believe that, the actions of your step mum created an opportunity for your dad to show his real colour and he didn't hide it. So sorry for such sordid experience.

Thanks a lot, it goes a long way. Maybe he loved my step mom more but I don’t really blame him because she was a narcissist and manipulator. If she wanted to make the world hate you, it would be carefully planned.

Crazy part is she was a church evangelist. I pray she finds peace.

Kaczynski:
Thats not abuse, thats the milf paradox and almost every man has experience some sort of that.


Go and read about the oedipus complex by sigmund freud, it goes deep in what you have experienced.

I’ll check it out, thanks 🙏

baby124:
See why Mothers need to pray seriously that they should be alive till their children are grown enough to fight for themselves. You see why Sophia is not a demon after all. A lot of people rush and marry monster as step parents and they ruin the lives of these children, while manipulating their spouse. Your father failed you completely. The heart of man is deep and you can’t know it all.

I am so sorry about your experience. I wish I could give you a hug. I have boys and I am deeply hurt by this. Male or female can be abused with serious repercussions in their lives and both sexes are capable of it.

This is why child absue should come with some life sentence or death penalty because it ruins a life and can never be reversed. You were a child, you did not like it. You were raped. Try to find a therapist who is very good counseling such issues. Go to a professional and not a faith based one. I wish you healing mentally, emotionally and physically and I pray you have peace. May your mother’s soul RIP.

This is why I don’t trust anybody with my kids. Don’t tell me you are this good person and I am over thinking things. I don’t know anybody and what they are capable of so, my default is to not trust anyone that much.

Thanks a lot 💯 I really appreciate. Evveryday be grateful you’re alive to see your kids. It’s a blessing because when you’re no more, a lot of things will take place. Thanks a lot. This really goes a long way.

Ameboperoo:
You may need to see a therapist. If you believe, try seeing a deliverance minister too

Maybe a therapist but as a child I went to different churches and did different fasting but the outcome was still the same.

papiSNEH:
No, you ain't ruined king... it's not your fault, she prey on your innocence.. keep head up it's not the end.

Thanks a lot 💯 I really appreciate

SpencerForbes:
So the big question is, where is she right now?

She died 2-3 years ago.

papiSNEH:
This is pure evil..how can someone you lookup to and call a mother be this heartless

I still don’t blame her but it’s kind of hard to forgive myself because I still feel sad deep down like I ruined myself and my family.

Please read with an open mind and no judgment. I'm typing this with tears because it's still very painful, but I need to get it off my chest. Maybe it will help someone else going through something similar, or at least make me feel less alone.

I lost my mum when I was just 9. Life became tough. At 11, I started living with my dad and his wife (my stepmom). I had 3 siblings, but things changed when I turned 13.

My stepmom began molesting me sexually. As a 13-year-old boy who wasn't even thinking about sex yet, I didn't understand what was happening. It started, and somehow I got addicted—like I was possessed. I couldn't control the urges anymore, even though part of me knew it was wrong. It continued for years.

I was actually a bright kid—got scholarships, awards, people saw potential in me. But I couldn't focus or achieve anything meaningful because of the guilt and confusion inside.

Eventually, my dad found out. The look on his face broke me. His "best and gentle son" suddenly became the villain in his eyes. He blamed me heavily. After a while, he left the city after an accident, leaving me alone with her. Things got worse—she manipulated situations, made dad hate me more, and the abuse continued.

I endured it all just to finish secondary school. As soon as I could, I traveled far away to start over and break free. But the trauma followed me. The addiction and urges didn't just disappear.

Later, a distant uncle gave me a big opportunity: work in his modern bakery for 5 years, and he'd set me up with my own business afterward. Everyone in the house loved me. They had 3 young ladies, always indoors, and over time, the same pattern repeated. After a year or two, I lost control again. I was chased out, even though my aunt begged for me. That chance was gone too.

Now I'm grown, I've worked hard to control myself, and I'm holding down a job. But when I look back at everything I've lost—scholarships, family trust, opportunities, my dad's love, my future—I can't help but hate myself. Why didn't I fight harder? Why couldn't I stop it? Why did I let it ruin so much?🤧😭😭😭

I'm sharing this because male victims of sexual abuse (especially by women/family) are rarely talked about. People think boys can't be victims or that we "enjoyed" it. But the shame, guilt, and destruction are real.

Precious201010:
pre-intimacy with olosho? Wonders have ended

Na…. We’ll just upgrade to all night hookup ladies instead of short time. And it will be discussed beforehand.

Yangyang:
You need to engaging in pre-intimacy first. It's a common thing bro you don't need to think much about it.
And make sure you are really attracted to the girl and she's also in the right mood for secx. You'll be fine

Thanks a lot. I really appreciate.

Skj13777:
Take agbo jedi from time to time . It helps harden your errection. Ladies like a hard penis . If it's as hard as wood it’s more enjoyable than if it's soft like banana. Secondly avoid rushing in , thirdly remove your mind from the act while you’re at it. You can even think of something making you angry or afraid , this helps you last few mins longer than if your thinking of the act you’re performing. Finally change position regularly to reduce the tension . You can also close your eyes from time to time for few mins at a stretch. Change speed unexpectedly makes the the lady cum faster

Thanks a lot, I really appreciate.

duduade:
at 25 years old

It is well
Only God knows what the world 🌎 is turning into

Is 25 too young or too old, I don’t get it?

Uuuju:
There is no need to turn SE.X which is a fun having act to rush hour.










Rushing is actually not part of the act. You need to calm down, once you rush in, then what's the fun part?

OK what if she is your wife, you will just be rushing everyday,

Hello dear take off your PA.nts I am in a hurry, ta ta ta, you slee.p with her and go,

First day, like that second day like that, on the third day do you think she will be happy.

Take your time and relax, fore.play is the best.
Kis.s her, touch her, fond.le her brea.STS , touch her nipples, Fi.nger her, rub her CL.itoris




Abi when we are not from Russia?


Where you dey rush go.!


You can even lie flat on the bed and tell her to fx.ck you!



Why do some RI.CH guys ask their partner to give them lap dance, pole dance or ride them?


And the first round doesn't matter.

What matters is how quick you recover from the first ejac.ulation.
For man, after releasing sper.m, the penis becomes flat and he has ended SE.X, we all know that

But if you are not healthy enough, it takes a lot of healthines.s and being sexually active for your pen.is to rise again for second round !

Some men on the bed with their wife might go like
First round 5minutes 10:00pm
Second round 7min 10:30pm
Third round 10 minutes 11:00pm.

On the bed, no drugs, no cigarette, no we.Ed, no alcohol, just natural but may be herbs or other real whole healthy foods!

May be you should check the foods that you are eating!
Milk, eggs, fish , beans, and other foods too are very good to recover quickly,
Bananas, watermelon, with the seeds (but you will purge oo) , GORONTULA, SEEDS, and so on and so on.

And when your eyes don dey turn, stop doing ta ta ta on top of her, don't kill your self.

Stop riding, take a break!
Continue next time!
He who fx.cks and run, lives to fx.ck next time

Thanks a lot. This helps a lot.

Uuuju:
It's a simple stuff. Before you start sleeping with your partner. You need to do for.eplay with her.











If your pen.is is not hard, it will not enter! So what you need to do is that you will be pressing her and fingering her. Till your pen.is will rise up!
The pen.is cap is the e.rotic area for men. For women, itnis the CL.itoris. so all you have to do is eat plenty food, no need to smoke, cigarett.e, alcohol or we.Ed to get hard. Eat fruits like water melon, tiger nuts(aya) dates (dabinu) , before you start, and you don't need to spend 30minutes or one hour on top. Five minutes or ten minutes don do you. S.ex no be punishment, na enjoyment. After first round(first five minutes) . if you still get energy, you can go second round (but don't pass or do more than ten minutes)/anything fifteen minutes you are going be that

If you are not physically fit, do not sleep with woman, SE.X no be work na pleasure.


Get a good paying job!
Rich men have less time for women!

Even guys who are well-off make time for a social life now and then. I’m working an average job that keeps the bills paid, but I can’t exactly ignore my physical needs—especially with health concerns like prostate health in the back of my mind. So, once or twice a month, I head out to have some fun.

The issue is that a lot of hookup culture is "pay and go." There’s rarely any time for pre-intimacy; they usually just expect you to jump right in and get it over with. It’s frustrating because even when I’m ready to spend a few minutes enjoying the moment, sometimes things downstairs just don't cooperate when you're being rushed.

Samantha125:
Your love machine is now your junior brother?🤣🤣🤣🤣

My junior brother is messing with my brains oo. He wants to cause low self esteem but I’m bigger than him.

Kingsley1169:
Your brain is playing games with you

You might be right. Maybe my brain is actually playing me. But the thing is, I hate any game that makes me waste my cash for nothing. I’m a guy that ladies normally beg to come over, so I know my capacity. But lately, even after taking two bottles of Action Bitters, 'junior brother' just refuses to rise for these hookup girls. It’s only when I get home that it stands firm. The psychology part is what’s confusing me because I’m just 25 and I need to get my vibe back.

kpankpangolo:
Chai, person don old for this forum. Children of those days are now disturbing us with issues we long resolved.

Be like I have a spiritual wife 😞

I don't really know how to put this, but I need help. I’m not a very religious person so I hardly go to church, but something strange is happening to me.

Lately, anytime I’m with a hookup girl, my 'junior brother' refuses to rise. Omo, the shame is too much. This has happened three times now. The annoying part is that as soon as I get home and do a little 'handwork,' it stands firm and strong.

Other times, it might rise, but it will refuse to release. Today was the final straw. I hired a girl and the same thing happened. I had to pay her off, called another one, and I still faced the same disappointment.

I’ve left the hotel now, but I’m 100% sure that once I reach home, the urges will start again. I’m only 25 and I don’t even 'self-service' that often—maybe once or twice a week.

Please, is this a medical issue or are my village people at work? Has anyone experienced this before?

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Pupanchie:
5 hours kee, ? I'm thinking it could be more than that

I can give it to you for 7k if you’re ready.

constancefriday:
You sound like you're some kind of hater of some sort.

There are lots of jobs that are paying more than content creation and because some are raking in millions doesn’t mean all of them are millionaires. I know some as a young guy that are into yahoo and some are pickers. Most of the names you mentioned there aren’t content creators.

Now to the effect of your advice, young men will start seeing this as a format to chop young girls just like forex traders wannabes while the young ladies will be out seeking only content creators when we have lots of hardworking youths earning money.

Why should a girl be happy because she’s found a rich guy🤔 I can’t imagine you as a man teaching our young girls that. So they should be waiting for rich men. If our mothers had waited like that we wouldn’t have some peaceful homes that we have. What happened to the lady becoming content creator herself or working hard? She should be waiting for a rich young guy🤦‍♂️

That’s how we got lots of ladies being used for ritual. Let everybody hustle op and no man is looking for a lady that will be happy because he’s rich. Even the rich don’t advice themselves to marry poor citizens so instead of teaching this, teach the ladies to hustle.