₦airaland Forum

fabolouz1:
Why is he attacking you? Are you a threat to his position or are you struggling anything with him? If you have reported to the Human resources Manager and there seems to be little changes, report to the next hierarchic ladder and if there seems to be no solution , enter an entry at the police station.
Avoid all means to be confrontational with him, not because you are a coward but just avoiding a scenario where it would truncate your career.

I’ve answered the questions in the comment section.

Wadoboy:
Company said they will look into it, yet u are on Nairaland.

So you don't still know what to do yet

Should I wait for them or take action?

KillahPriest:
you're lying

What’s the truth then??

gracias124:
report him to the police dont fight him. In the police say u want them to take you and him to the court, the police will try to calm you down dont accept so easily

They’ll just want to extort money. That’s why I’m avoiding police because I believe they’ll only stretch it to benefit themselves.

SixSeven:
Okay, answer this question, the first one 👇

I’ve done that twice. Check the thread.

professore:
K

Did you ever participate in illegal acts together with him?

Did you ever open his secret to anyone?

Yes he started stealing money in the organization because he thought he’s properties are going missing and I warned him to not try it but he went on and they were trying to frame me up so I had to tell my boss the truth but before then, he had dirty lifestyle and I didn’t want to associate with me because “birds of a feather flocks together” so I told him to avoid me but he doesn’t want to listen. If I hadn’t exposed him, they’ll be thinking I stole the money they’re looking for.

SixSeven:
There's a lot the OP is not telling us. From harassing him to death threat to stealing, the story is bordering on danger of a single story. It's like the OP wants to paint himself a Saint here but has not told us what he did for someone to harass him like this. He is even ready for self defence and charms but doesn't want police wahala 🤡

Seems you’re also a bully or don’t know bullies can act even when you avoid them. I’ve told him to steer clear of and if it was WhatsApp I’d have sent you the voice notes and recordings but he keeps approaching.

SixSeven:
There's a lot the OP is not telling us. From harassing him to death threat to stealing, the story is bordering on danger of a single story. It's like the OP wants to paint himself a Saint here but has not told us what he did for someone to harass him like this. He is even ready for self defence and charms but doesn't want police wahala 🤡

You’re talking like you don’t know police will extort you and the process will be longer. It might even become futile because they’ll need fuel, money to open case etc. I’ve never had a police case before that’s why I’m asking how much will it cost.

professore:
Something that can be dangerous starts like play. If you are wise, resign and go to another city him and other workers will not know about.

Since it seems the story is more than you are letting out, this is my advise for you.

I’ve shared everything and if you need more knowledge, I’ll gladly give out.

Zocalite:
So the boss is giving him preferential treatment?

Na to carry the matter go radio be dat

The problem is how much will they charge. I don’t want something that will take long time and money.

SixSeven:
Remove it. Many people are on this forum

Okay thanks.

ayoncox:
If you drop your number we fit help you, Na guard room e go sleep for like one week, he will move from being a bully to a Gentle man

My number is down 👇I don’t want to also be a bully but I’ll pay to avoid having problem with the law. Just a warning even from someone in authority through video call will go a long way.

Lekby25:
There is something else she is not telling us, she is not telling us the whole story, she is hiding something things

We don’t re all my sell anything where I work and if you need more answers, I’ll provide them.

Zocalite:
Is he related to the boss

Did he get the you the job

Go report to police, no wahala will arise, they will call both of you and even the company won't know except he says

He’s from the same state with the boss. I’m scared of spending more than my budget because I don’t trust police.

Sagacity10:
I wonder why u decided to ommit this part in your explanation earlier.

Sorry didn’t feel this part was really necessary

SixSeven:
I know but this is Nairaland. Nothing is impossible

I’m a guy not a lady.

otipoju:
I sure sey this thing get confraternity undertones.

OP is not afraid of the guy. He is just hesitant to deal with him based on sey he no wan loose him job.

I guess the other guy sef know one pr two about the OP and can't help but look for his trouble as the guy don dey avoid am.

Meanwhile the guy and the boss dem be brothers and he can't really do shit to him even though he knows he is stealing company money.

OP better look for a new job.

You get it. They are both from the same state. So he doesn’t want to act and if I act first, that would give them excuse to take their action.

b0rn2fuck:
if I was in Lagos, you would even get it for free, tested self and witness it, that's the one that will weak bone, even when he sight your hand with tiny black ring, his brain will reset because he will know you are not ordinary , he would not even dare you, that's how I scared some bro away that time in Lagos when I was being bully up and down, boom, I reach herbalist house self and I stop when peace was restored,na my own money dem dey even collect then like say I owe Dem, Dem change my MuMu to hard guy, until I develop confidence go visit herbalist and the confidence alone chase them away when they realized say back up dey. 11 years now, I no dey hear small threat,,ordinary mouth say I get baba as back up alone for ogun state don make the powerful person calm down , Lagos na craze world....I no dey see small threat, I go find location sharply

Please I’ll need it for self defense.

elasticlala:
In ALL you do, avoid Nigerian police👮

Please what’s the next step?

meobizy:
No HR department in your office? Na for Nairaland una dey form lion. For real life, una no fit squeak.

Abeg if you fit show me where I Dey form nairaland, I go happy very well. I even have few posts on nairaland

b0rn2fuck:
I would have recommend you to a guy in a Lagos, he would give you on black magic ring, protect yourself when. Threats start coming, infact , the ring won't kill him but any small torches, him muscles will weak and he won't be able to stand up for at least 5 minutes or report to boss while report at police with your boss involved

Please do, I’ll really need it for self defense.

Emmy000seun:
Seems you guys have engage in a shady deal before hence you don't want to report to the police 💯....bcuz reporting such issues to the police is not necessarily puting him or you in cell, is to caution him and make him realize anything harmful should not happen to you or else he will be held responsible.. and every one b at peace...

The problem is the cost because I don’t trust Nigerian police when it comes to money.

Lukuluku69:
Approach the HR with your complaints and also your evidences.

He never reach Police matter.

I’ve done that twice now all to no avail.

SixSeven:
Are you a woman? Let's start from there because the dynamics can be different based on your gender. What is his level? Your colleague at the same level, your boss or what is his direct impact on your work? Or is he from another division?


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If someone is a threat to your life, HR is not human, protect yourself first. HR has only one job to do, protect the company, so don't be naive and leave your destiny to them. That thing you call professional is how they will professionally manage your story if you die there. Before you joined the company, were they interested in your life? One day you will leave that company so think about it well. Your safety is paramount here. What makes you think if you leave the company he won't still stalk you? How much of your personal life does he know? When did he join the company? Before you? Is he a power player in the company?

Same think I was thinking. When it happens all my people will take is “sorry.”

femi4:
Involve his or your superiors

I’ve tried, not once or twice. Even send voice recordings and the best solution is they’ll look into it.

How about a formal petition or a cease and desist, how much is it going to cost?

Dzzzz:
Meet him again and if he does nothing about it,just don’t do anything unless you want to lose your job..

What if he attacks me again, should I just let it slide?

MiamiLord:
What started it? he can't just be attacking you like that.
Did you snitch on him?

Well, i will advise you report him to the police that's what will settle everything

As a young guy, he’s picked up a lot of bad habits. You know how it goes—"birds of a feather." I actually had to stop hanging out with him because his circle just isn't doing anything for me.

The guy has even been thinking about stealing to make up for some stuff he lost, and I’ve been trying to talk him out of it. But lately, money has been going missing at work, and people were starting to look at me. I had to go to the boss and explain the whole situation to clear my name. I’ve been trying to keep my distance since then, but he just won't take the hint and keeps coming around.

Dzzzz:
Report to the HR…No mor3 texts..

I’ve reported him to the boss but it seems no quick action will be taken and if not, there might be problem very soon.

I need some honest advice on a situation at my workplace. There’s this guy who has been constantly disturbing and harassing me. I’ve tried everything to avoid him—I’ve warned him multiple times, told him the implications of his actions, and I even have evidence of all his disturbances. I’ve even ask for a change of location.

The problem is, despite all my warnings, he recently tried to attack me. I’m really trying to keep things professional and avoid any 'police wahala' or ending up in a cell because of him.
At one point, I even thought about using a weapon just to protect myself if he lunges again, but I know how Nigerian law can be. I don't want to face a criminal case over a nuisance.

How do you guys handle a physical threat at work when you don't want to involve the police?

Mariangeles:
Don't lose hope.

It's not something that you can do by yourself.
You need someone who has journeyed to guide you.

The number on your signature, is it on WhatsApp?

No… but I’ll put my WhatsApp number now.

Mariangeles:
Of course, she's to blame.
I mean, what could a motherless 13yr old have done to defend himself?

Don't be hard on yourself.
You need to seek deliverance, because the impact of what happened to the child in you isn't ordinary [There's a demonic spirit/force behind it].

It is not something you can fight and break free from by yourself, no matter how hard you try. The negative pattern will keep repeating itself.
Even worse, you could do it to your own daughters.
So, you need to seek deliverance from GOD as soon as possible, and only GOD is able to heal, restore, make you whole and new again.

That’s one of the thing I’m scared of. Starting a generational trend that might take decades to end and for now I don’t know how to go about deliverance because I’ve lost hope in them. I can’t count how many times I prayed and fasted and even cried, all to no avail. I just hope it doesn’t come back haunting.