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mamaput:
you have to know if you can also if need be keep the baby on your own. and you can only wait for him to come on his own

Yes I can keep the baby on my own without anyone help. I have a good job and can support myself and the baby. =)

Okay, I got ya. I know I can't make him come to me. I was just looking for some advice/opinions of others. Thanks mama


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mamaput:
no man can be happy about it. no man that has walked out on his marrage wants to tie himself down. you promoted your self from girlfriend to wife. now he will not stay.

He never walked out on his marriage. His X was the one that left the house for a year and thats how the divorce came in place. I'm sorry, I know you are trying to help me but you are not understanding it . You keep saying he walked out on her. He never did. She was the one. Maybe if she said and spoken to him about the cheating on him. He might of forgived her. But not to walk out on your husband and daughter of 1 year old and to expect to get him back afterwards. That's why he's not in love with her anymore.

mamaput:
open your eyes every one is blaming it on the x.
the mum will never tell you she knows her son is a prat. Thats her son.
maybe she just has pity for you to tell you the truth.
If that woman is nigerian she will accept all her grandchildren,
men tell a lot of stories when the day is long.
am sure he is also not talking good about you to his x.
same way he talks bad about her to you.
how old is his baby between

Actually they are blaming it on him. Because he is the stupid on at this point. He should see past her after everything he has been through with her. His mother knows hes an idiot but at the same time blames the X for cheating and leaving them. The mom and the rest of the family is here for me. They haven't given up on me and actually they are asking me to move in with them so they can help me out with their grandchild. We are a latin culture that sticks together also.

I know men tell alot of stories and believe me , I know, But this situation, everyone knows everything. Because everyone goes to the mother to talk about everything and she knows what he or she said. There isn't any secrets here in this family.

His baby girl is 3 yrs old now.

Please read the post before posting,

When did I ever say I'm trying to hold him because of a baby?

And where does it say he walked out on his wife His X Wife cheated and walked out on him,

Yes I just noticed that the doesn't came up twice and I was fixing it while you were writing this post.

He is not still married to his X wife, he is divorce from her now.

We were dating for 1 year and 1/2. I moved down to the state he is in and we moved in together. We talked about a life with each other and about having a baby. So yes, we weren't using condoms.

Okay first it is his X wife, Not his wife,

No he was never hiding anything from me,  His whole family new about me. His x wife told his mother that she doesn't want anything to do with him anymore. But she keeps getting in the middle just so he won't have another relationship.

We had spoken about the future many times. Everything was good and even the whole family knew what he wanted. All of a sudden he is confused and his x keeps talking bs to him. Even his own mother is upset about what his x is doing.

The reason why they got a divorce was because she cheated on him with another man. After that happen she picked up and left the house leaving her daughter with him.

I retyped it, Hope it's better,

Need some advice in my situation.


I met my x boyfriend over the internet about 2 years ago. I moved from my state to his around April of this year 2007.

When we first met, he was still with his X wife but separated. She had cheated on him and left the house. They had been working on the divorce and till Oct. of this year, it didn’t get finalized.

So this is where my situation gets kinda weird…. When I finally came down here on April 2007.

Once I was down here, she realized she was never going to get him back and she started getting in the way of our relationship. She would use the baby to make him feel bad about the situation. And well it worked. He ended up leaving me to try and work it out with her. But not even two weeks past and he came back to me and told his mother he doesn’t love her anymore.

We got back together and the whole mess started again 2 month down the road.

She hasn’t stopped sending him messages with I love you and wants to get back with him. But every time he tries, she tells him she doesn’t want him. She just doesn’t want him happy with me. If she doesn’t have him no one will, type of things.

About 3 weeks ago, it seemed like everything was working out great. He was talking about a “us” relationship and buying a house and a future.

Then I found out I was pregnant. I told him and he was very happy. He called his mom and grandpa and told them he was having another baby and how happy he was.

That lasted one week, till his X wife found out and went crazy. She started telling him that I was trying to tie him down and put so many things into his head. He didn’t speak to me for a whole week and when he did, he would treat me like crap.

I told his mother and his mom had a talk with him and told him to stop being stupid because she new his X wife was just saying things to him.

Well now he just says he doesn’t want to make her mad and doesn’t want to make me mad either.


He's mother tells me that she will never stop because she doesn’t want him to be with me.

We as a couple get along perfect, we like the same things and can just go out and have fun all the time. We are like best friends and some more.

But, he doesn't want to be with me, he wants to be single. At first I thought he just wanted to go out with different girls. But now, the more I hear about her getting mad about me, the more I think he is just trying to please her and not be with me.

What am I suppose to do I love this man, and I'm having his baby now, I would love for us to get back together and raise this child together. He has a baby with his x and I don't want him to have two babies and not be with none of us, I have step aside before so they can get back together but she doesn’t want him. But when I’m not with him, she doesn't want him =(


What do you all think?