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pedrilo:
heheheh see dis criminal opportunist! So if she get slot, she go leave her man and call u ba? Keep dreaming to rep where u did nt sow

Lol,abeg free the poor guy abeg

lawnreigh:
I will advise you to go ahead with the marriage if you truly wish to marry him, life take different turns and don't see only the present, ignore the advise of those giving you contrary advise because its one of the reasons why marriages fails nowadays. Imagine ladies leaving a guy to go marry big boys in the private sector and after few years the guys loose the job and then the other guy gets a career job in public sector with his future secured. At the end of the day waywardness & other vices comes in which will finally leads to divorce of the private sector guys. The moral of all this is just that life can take different turns but if you know you truly love the guy and you are cool with marrying him. Go ahead with the marriage and I pray God bless you union in advance

That's just it,no one knows tomoro. Things do change.

pedrilo:
Pls stay away frm dat marriage.

It's obvious d "money" issue is already givin u a cause for concern and it will remain so and even escalate if u go ahead wit d marriage.

The only option is to switch income and dat depends on u. Wat I mean is for u to hand ur salary to him at d end of every month and vice versa until he is able to increase his finances.

If u love him, u will protect his ego. But I doubt our ladies of today can do dis.

Its not giving me any issue,my problem is his ego. Men want to always be incharge.

esosa993:
see money changes humans shikena, especially men . a man that was faithful when he was poor would change when he becomes rich, that is the bitter truth..... I have heard of several cases , men helped by their wives and they turn their backs on them and their children.


its not only women that do that .

Yes,it's common with men

ZeeAfrica:
hehehe money always changes woman. U gona even want to control him, n u gona get angry if he just sits down n watches tv.hehehe give it time, den u wil see wat m al abt

Not all women oo

NemzySeries:
U're always Welkom......reassure ur man da hiz ur king & dunt 4get to send me an invite......I'm less dan 27 & an applicant...studied "Intelligence and Security studies " incase U've got a slot 4me.....enjoy ur man

Okay

NemzySeries:
all dos pple asking u to leave d guy are dey ready to find a replacement for him?.....i kw sum1 who's salary difference wuz abt 1m (d man 200k & d woman 1.2m) d guy wuz abt witdrawing but d pastor interceded & counselled dem & 2day D're gud......respect ur man & always pray 4 him.....learn to avoid money related misunderstanding & always reassure him of ur luv

Thanks for the comment

ZeeAfrica:
No now child. The problem ain't your man here. The problem is you. U r the one who is going to feel as if he is sponging off yo finances, u r de one whose gona feel angry becoz u wil b feeling like yo money is being overused, den u gona b frustrated and start shouting @ hi and u gona cheat on him wit a rich dude, and u gona stop respecting him. Mark my words

I will never do a thing like that,am only scared he will feel am cheating on him.

holuwatunmishe:
no big deal dear, the most important thing is d true love btw you both and in as much as u are willing to double ur level of respect for him as your husband and for his relatives too by not making it obvious you earn better , and also don't in any way try to take up his responsibilities so he wouldn't think he is irrelevant . i have a similar situation and my marriage would be 5years by September and God has been awesome. its all in your hands if you want it to work. good luck.

Wow! Thanks for the advise

MRBrownJ:
if thats how little you think of him, then you have no business marrying this man (whether richer or poorer than him)

Haba! We are humans na,wat I mean is that won't he start feeling less of a man when I have to be the one picking all the bills.

lanre80:
@ Poster
I can't really comprehend how women see things. I maybe wrong though. In the first place, why do you have to tell a third party what you and your husband to be earn. women just love to talk. However, I'm not telling off your concerns but these are things you can only discover yourself by discussing and studying your man with sometime and not telling everybody you earn times three more than your man..... kapish

I didn't have to tell my family,they just knew on their own. There are places u work and people can guess your salary. That's our situation.

MRBrownJ:
shouldnt YOUR MAN be the person to ask that question, instead of listening to friends and family?

My man doesn't seem to have any problem,but won't he start feeling funny later on?

Emperessnaughty:
Seriously I can't marry a man I earn more dan.. Aw be providing most needs of the family .. Wat of his ego? Aw even be pitying him. Noooo.. I no dey abeg

Hmmmmmm

ronald4lif:
The likelihood of that happening is higher than the improbability. You see, money and infidelity are the top factors that generates issues in marriages. When going into a marriage with a man you end higher than, an African man, you have to reflect on the issue of finances.

It's very unlikely that he won't want to impose bills on you and perhaps want to control your finances, if he's the typical Nigerian man, as he may likely feel gelded by you having more money than him. Whatever thing you do or decision you take could be misconstrue as pride and ego coz you've got more money. One little secret most egoistic men have is to ensure their wives don't have complete financial freedom as that would heist them the privilege to have control over them.

You know him better and should be cognisant of the level of his male ego and if he's the typical "a wife must be submissive always" I think you're heading thistly and should be careful.

That's true

Greatzeus:
It should be a blessing to the union,why should I be worried,would I rather she's broke and beggerly? to me its a blessing as long as she doesn't try to usurp authority over me because of her income

Abi oo,tnx bro

Cutehector:
alright. Go ahead and marry him... ur faith will see u through.


Ur marriage shall be blessed

Amen,tnx

ronald4lif:
To add to what Hector said, what's your take on him having a stake on your finances and imposing bills on you? Would you take it in good faith if he starts demanding how your money is spent and you taking charge of a higher financial responsibility in the running of the fam or will you revolt?

That's what my family say will happen

Cutehector:
Are u willing to respect him should u guys end up marrying? Take a look at my siggy

Yes I will respect him,I don't think money will make any difference.

cruzita:
no didadvantages.



just be submissive and there will be no problem.(I no say make u become mugu to him o)

I don't have a problem with submitting to him sha

Smellymouth:
Not again.....I've never heard of any man who has a problem with his spouse earning more than him. All we here is that its somehow emasculating, and the only people who ever say this is.....Yep.....You guessed it, --" WOMEN!! .

Its like the idea of men having issues with this, is an idea which they've made up in their heads because they actually like the thought that it somehow hurts a man's ego. But the truth is it really doesn't.

If it hurt our egos, we wouldn't walk ourselves into a relationship with a higher earning girl.....Its called logic, and it is very black and white.

I love ur thought

My fiance and I have been dating for like 2 years now. We are planning our wedding but the problem is that I earn 3 times what my man earns(I just got the job 3 months ago). Its not his fault because he has all it takes to get my kind of job(good result,intelligence,smartness) but unfortunately,he hasn't found one yet. I love him and he loves me too. We are friends and compatible. He is very happy I earn well but friends and family said I should hold on with the wedding that men have ego issues that I should look for someone that earns more than me to avoid issues in the marriage that this kind of marriages hardly work. How true is this? Please married people, I need ur advice,can it work despite that the woman earns more than the man?