₦airaland Forum

as usual, the only thing u get here. . . .?
free insults, as many as u want. . . .

u know, the main problem is, that the nigerians who live abroad give a wrong picture abt their life in europe.
some never tell them the dirty job they got to do for just few euro or how they have to manage to pay all the bills.
what they do, is to travel to africa every year and show them their  cool dresses ( from kick textil discount ) and make them believe its a designer jeans or shirt, or the the fake big rings and chains, watsches and so on. . . they show them dollar dollar dollar ( wich they worked a whole year to save ) , thats it. People in africa think, life in europe is very easy and we pick money on the floor so why we shouldnt share with theM

we never get such problems, coz my man always told them how life really is in europe. . .and if they dont believe they should try their luck and a way to travel, as he or many others did.
perhaps ur man also give a fake "truth" to hes family. . .

Katy86:
For the Nigerian grandparents their are just some white bleeping children which their son make for the German paper. Oh do not try to hide the truth!
How often I have heard that the Nigerian family ignores or insult the mixed children as bastards etc.
You live in your own world and you do not want to see the reality.

is there little truth in it. . .  . . .?
i mean it's not a secret. foreigners bring children into the world just for their own interest.
u might be a victim of such pregancies?. . . 

my nigerian family has never spoke this way abt their children. . . rather they treat them like kings!

it's always difficult to judge a situation when details r not known.
but that no ones fault. . . a forum is made to give and take. even if u dont always agree with other opinions. . . 

from what i read in ur posts, i assume that ur children get an horrorpicture of their fathers country. thats what makes me a little bit sad. i feel u r only talking abt the bad sides of nigeria, forgetting abt the good things.
i understand that ur man didnt have a happy childhood in nigeria, but that is not a reason for rejecting hes home. i mean, in all parts of the world its happening.
for exampe: do ur children speak english? how do they communicate with ur husbands family ( on phone ), do ur children eat african dishes? do they know african music? . . .

i think, if u dont let them know this important side, sooner or later they will totally loose the connection to their origins. it doesnt matter where they were born and brought up. it is part of them and its urs and ur mans duty to teach them and let them know, "hey my boy, theres a big world outside germany and ur daddy was born in a wonderfull country called nigeria. this is how we celebrate brithdays and christmas in nigeria, this is what we eat, this is our music etc." . . .ur children will thank u both one day. . . .

btw. . .
my boys cant stay one week without fufu and ogbono soup. . . 

Katy86:
Oh my man is not a lazy man like you.
He is working hard every day so that we do not need to take any money from social

i'm happy to read that at least u defend him sometimes. . . 
hallo katy, wie geht's?

Katy86:
he do not need to read it. i can tell him that face to face.


and why do you think that nigeria is the country from my children?

yes their father came from their, but thats all. they can say they have a little bit nigerian blood inside them but thats not their country. when you grow up your whole live in germany and you are raised up like a german , how cann you say that you are nigerian and nigeria is your country?

strange.

if their father is a nigerian, they r nigerians too. . .

and btw, germans will remind them every day that they arent pure race germans. . .u can cancell their roots from their mind but u cant change the color of their skin.

i would really like to hear ur man's opinion. . .
the way u speak abt him, he really sounds like wimp. . . please dont take it as an offence.
if i compare ur man to mine. . . well i've to say, urs dont get balls in hes boxer.
ich will mich nicht streiten, nur Meinungen austauschen. . .ok . .