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Marshalxv:
From ur write up I can see ur already doing ur best at the time to keep things going,but u know she may not be that strong enough to hold on for long as her peers are getting married already,she may fall for the pressure of family and ladies time thing .

My advice for u is to step up ur hustle bro,dont be so bent on getting white collar job,u can try ur luck on other things,u can set up something with little capital ,give ur sef a time target whiles u still apply for jobs. But dont just sit a d wait for these jobs which may not come anytime soon.

With the little u make u can go ahead and marry ur woman,u two can put hands together and build a good future, if she's as good as u said she'll add to ur success.

In summary,dont wait till ur heavily loaded b4 u get married, everybody must not have that big wedding ceremony, it can be a morning mass wedding,a little gathering, what matters is the heart and intentions of the major two people involved .

Many thanks man, frankly I am not a hustle/entrepreneur kind of person, I won't do well at it. I know my strength and weakness. I am very good at my field and I have no doubt something will come up soon.

About the wedding, I have never planned of even having a big wedding, a destination wedding of just four people is enough....

AntiWailer:
Talk to her.

Make some bold commitments like engaging her and making her get closer to your family and u get closer to her family.

Always assure her you know your destination.

Thanks man, after 7yrs I know her pretty well. I have stylishly brought up the idea of engagement but made it look like it were someone else and she made a remark about not liking getting engaged for long. So I already have an idea.

We are close to both our families.

I have been assuring her, I call almost 9 times in a day, send lengthy encouragement sms. In fact I think I am no longer doing this job hunt for me or my folks. I am doing this for her, I can't afford to let her down or on us.

I have open this new account so I can be able to freely express myself without the usual drama.

Me and my girlfriend started dating in 2010, we were both young, she was 19 at the time while I was 23 and we have been together for a solid 7yrs now. The problem now is that my GF is passing out from service either next month or January and already personal, social, peer and family pressure is beginning to build up on her. Lately she has been really concerned, she is worried about the direction of her life.

I have no doubts whatsoever about her love and commitment to me, but I fear if I don't step up quickly I may lose her. People see us and ask what are we waiting for as per marriage, the problem is that I am not financially stable yet, I don't have a job yet. I have 2 degrees obtained from 3 different countries including 1 from England which I got in 2015. I had thought getting a job would be easy, but 2yrs later and I am just getting by, been to a couple of interviews, some has been fruitful but for the clause in my contract.

At this point in my life, I have had my fair share of women, but falling in love with her was the best thing I ever had, I doubt I would be able to love someone else the way I love her, the few women I have hanged with I believe are there for the prospect.

I miss all her encouragement of "it will get better, I have confidence in u", "I am sowing a seed and fasting on ur behalf", I am really scared of losing her. I moved to another state to be closer to the market and the distance hasn't helped either.

I am not here to seek for sympathy or ask for a job, I just need advice on how to keep us going during this tough time, to keep her hopes alive and not give up on us. And encouragement from others who may have been in my situation.

Thanks NLers.