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Nnamdipapa:
I lived abroad for almost 15years with a wife and raised kids there with no single issue, I even banned my MIL from visiting my home with threats of leaving the marriage. I have money and assets hidden in places only mentioned in my trust documents if I die and I am even the one with a side chick.

In every relationship, you must learn how to retain the power dynamics. I have a Phd in emotional manipulations and assets hiding. I studied marriage and divorce laws here and understand the loopholes very well.

No woman messes with me in Nigeria or anywhere in the world.
Once again, it is your fault when you allow your wife to play you like a piano.

I created a career I can control anywhere in the world and If she vex me, I will take the next plane to an undisclosed location in Nigeria with lots of willing female attentions and never return.

I will be good to you if you are good to me and life is purely transactional with little emotions.

Bros throw me ur contact make we reason.

Kobojunkie:
So, men in Nigeria don't have the same things happening to them even as we speak? Na only men in abroad dey waka around suspecting wifey fit dey cheat? 🙄

2. So, men for Nigeria no dey lose their value at all? In Nigeria, all men are guaranteed to maintain their value as men abi? This one never even begin to understand wetin dey do am sef yet him don convince himself say him wife as far as relationship and marriage! 🙄🙄🙄

You cant compare bro, i am not competing or disagreeing to what you have speculated, but you see here, u can go to jail for something wey u nor do, infact something u never have thought of doing and na the woman wey u call ur wife go eff u up.

Nnamdipapa:
OP, the problem is with you as the man in the family. Get used to making hard decisions.

Brao, its an entirely different ball game here. Women hold this country, u wont understand until ur here with ur famz.

Daughter called back again saying she cant reach her, i called back, this time on normal call cos the other phone was off, she said she's still in the train even though it sounds like it isn't, sounded like she was somewhere quiet rather than a moving train, but i nor wan dey ask questions as these things are things I just want to stop doing for my peace of mind, I come deliver message then hang up.

Fastforward and hour and the half later, she called that she's home, on getting home she was still stuttering and her eyes tinted, I still come ask am sey wetin u drink, she got defensive and said I should not ask her again, though she changed her black tights she wore out to a pink one while doing tiktok content, I come notice sey the pink tight wey she wear get stained mark on the middle butt part, I come ask her if she was doing menses, she said no, and why I asked, I come show am, then smelled it, got defensive saying I dun start. I know sey una go come for me this on this one, but omo the smell was terrible and bad, and it was in the middle of her butt not underneath where veejay resides, and to me that is butt juice which normally she doesnt normally experience, never have I seen that in a long time, that just gave me away that this woman dun go do shit that yesterday, and these things are toturing me mentally, I wish I can have a gf by the side make i just use am dey forget all these traumas. In this UK, if them nor Bleep ur wife, no matter how faithful she is, then thank ya jah.

ok first off, I would really love for married person to join on this post to shed some sort of experience analysis here. Secondly I want to use this opportunity to warn any man residing in Nigeria or any other non European country/usa and canada never to bring your wife to those countries if you having certain issues with her before departure. If you dont have the mind or you risk losing your value as a man, dont try it, I have heard about this plenty attimes, but I risked it because of the children, but then what am facing now apart from traits of infidelity is however bigger than the risk I took.

This may be a bit long, so yall should bear with me. So I noticed most times when she wants to go out with me or go out as a family, she doesnt dress sexy or at the sharpest, but if its with her friend or group of friends, na then she go pull out her best wig, take time on what she wants to wear, and making sure her lashes and make up is spot on as against if she's going out with me or with the famz. So last week she told me she was having a new year outing with her work colleagues, though one of the work colleage whom I know she goes out with on a suspicious outing works in another branch, and I have seen her like a home breaker but you cant do shiiit or advise anything here in this western country against such person as I have seen that she's stuck with this lady and listens to her even more than the husband.

So yesterday, I noticed the un-sual which is always the usual, i.e bringing out the best of what she wants to wear, as for me oo, i dont hide my intuition and suspicion as I always stylishly and jokingly out it out to her sey me I know sey this una waka nor pure, sey this amusement park wey una dey go na just diversion, it must be something else. She will reply by saying well I know sey u go always doubt my movement but nothing at all etc. So that yesterday, took time on make up, first off pulled out one baggy jeans tried it in my presence, I know sey na reels she dey perform, as the tight leggins wey she wan wear to shoot out her big butt was already by the side, next thing she pull am off saying this is too big, next thing she dun wear the tights, una go think sey na jealous man dey type or insecure, but nobody dey live with me so I know the woman wey i dey talk about here. Before she comot, she dun come profess her love to me, trying to kiss me etc, something she rarely does, that alone was a red flag, come still ask if I wan do quickie, something she does though, but not on this kind of scenario, I found all these moves pre- guilty conscience moves but I just dey observe.

To cut the story short sha, she enter living room BOOM, if una see wetin she wear, if na me and her dey comot like that i go too like am but the looks without me there is for the streets or for someones impression, this feeling felt somehow, I sha hail am sha as per normal, sey beauty as its best bla bla bla,sexylee! then she set out. You see where them go ehn! the place is stressful and its really cold here, so for that kind of journey they are spose to spend time there cos we went there together and the kids 2weeks ago, I sha notice sey as she reach, she dun quick call me for video call sey them dun reach i sey no P,this was around 2.45pm. So I sha step out to go see a friend of mine around 5.57, my daughter come call me sey she dey try reach her mama sey her phone nor dey go, I called her on whatsapp, immediately she switched the wasap to video, sey she dun dey inside train already, heading back to her best friends house to pick the car and start coming home, while this conversation was going on, she could not link to words together properly and her eyes were tinted, so I noticed she was somewhat high, I asked why she's sounding that way and why eyes are tinted, she replied she did the high roller coaster so it affected her,but I know sey she dun drink and this is something she would normally wouldn't do only if am there, anyways I said no P, delivered my message to her then she said her phone go soon off, make i give my daughter the new number she just got with the new phone.

Sp1ritHusband:
Calm down, Sister. Let's help a brother.

Op, is your wife still complaining about your D size?

Thats is a long gone thread, we have moved past it and NO she isnt.

AlphaNugget:
Omo, na why I dey fear to carry woman go outside country......make them no go put shame for my eyes 😮‍💨

But still, you can use style and bring everybody to Nigeria and dump her ass

she dun kana, dun wise up, she nor dey move an inch until she collect complete citizenship, plus even if we go nija dump her, she can always come back and provide evidence for court i go begin dey pay child support in pounds. Ohbobz its complicated.

AlphaNugget:
When it comes to dealing with women.....I let my gut feeling do the work.

But man, 13 years and you still don't trust your wife!!! Why not divorce and get yourself some PEACE ✌️

Na because of the kids bro, this uk wey we dey so sef, if to sey we not get kids cos she needs me to assist with care, if not she go dun free me as she dun see freedom for here.

Guys happy new year! Been married for 13 years, and I seem not to trust my wife most of the time. The traits are there, attitudinal traits, actions, talk and so many. Guys I have a short story of something that occurred yesterday that my instinct says she cheated on her girls trip out, but before i tell the story, is gut feeling or instinct accurate sometimes?

PapaNnamdi:
Na mad people full this thread,

example?

Daughter called back again saying she cant reach her, i called back, this time on normal call cos the other phone was off, she said she's still in the train even though it sounds like it isn't, sounded like she was somewhere quiet rather than a moving train, but i nor wan dey ask questions as these things are things I just want to stop doing for my peace of mind, I come deliver message then hang up.

Fastforward and hour and the half later, she called that she's home, on getting home she was still stuttering and her eyes tinted, I still come ask am sey wetin u drink, she got defensive and said I should not ask her again, though she changed her black tights she wore out to a pink one while doing tiktok content, I come notice sey the pink tight wey she wear get stained mark on the middle butt part, I come ask her if she was doing menses, she said no, and why I asked, I come show am, then smelled it, I know sey una go come for me this on this one, but omo the smell was terrible and bad, and it was in the middle of her butt not underneath where veejay resides, and to me that is butt juice which normally she doesnt normally experience, never have I seen that in a long time, that just gave me away that this woman dun go do shit that yesterday, and these things are toturing me mentally, I wish I can have a gf by the side make i just use am dey forget all these traumas. In this UK, if them nor Bleep ur wife, no matter how faithful she is, then thank ya jah.

ok first off, I would really love for married person to join on this post to shed some sort of experience analysis here. Secondly I want to use this opportunity to warn any man residing in Nigeria or any other non European country/usa and canada never to bring your wife to those countries if you having certain issues with her before departure. If you dont have the mind or you risk losing your value as a man, dont try it, I have heard about this plenty attimes, but I risked it because of the children, but then what am facing now apart from traits of infidelity is however bigger than the risk I took.

This may be a bit long, so yall should bear with me. So I noticed most times when she wants to go out with me or go out as a family, she doesnt dress sexy or at the sharpest, but if its with her friend or group of friends, na then she go pull out her best wig, take time on what she wants to wear, and making sure her lashes and make up is spot on as against if she's going out with me or with the famz. So last week she told me she was having a new year outing with her work colleagues, though one of the work colleage whom I know she goes out with on a suspicious outing works in another branch, and I have seen her like a home breaker but you cant do shiiit or advise anything here in this western country against such person as I have seen that she's stuck with this lady and listens to her even more than the husband.

So yesterday, I noticed the un-sual which is always the usual, i.e bringing out the best of what she wants to wear, as for me oo, i dont hide my intuition and suspicion as I always stylishly and jokingly out it out to her sey me I know sey this una waka nor pure, sey this amusement park wey una dey go na just diversion, it must be something else. She will reply by saying well I know sey u go always doubt my movement but nothing at all etc. So that yesterday, took time on make up, first off pulled out one baggy jeans tried it in my presence, I know sey na reels she dey perform, as the tight leggins wey she wan wear to shoot out her big butt was already by the side, next thing she pull am off saying this is too big, next thing she dun wear the tights, una go think sey na jealous man dey type or insecure, but nobody dey live with me so I know the woman wey i dey talk about here. Before she comot, she dun come profess her love to me, trying to kiss me etc, something she rarely does, that alone was a red flag, come still ask if I wan do quickie, something she does though, but not on this kind of scenario, I found all these moves pre- guilty conscience moves but I just dey observe.

To cut the story short sha, she enter living room BOOM, if una see wetin she wear, if na me and her dey comot like that i go too like am but the looks without me there is for the streets or for someones impression, this feeling felt somehow, I sha hail am sha as per normal, sey beauty as its best bla bla bla,sexylee! then she set out. You see where them go ehn! the place is stressful and its really cold here, so for that kind of journey they are spose to spend time there cos we went there together and the kids 2weeks ago, I sha notice sey as she reach, she dun quick call me for video call sey them dun reach i sey no P,this was around 2.45pm. So I sha step out to go see a friend of mine around 5.57, my daughter come call me sey she dey try reach her mama sey her phone nor dey go, I called her on whatsapp, immediately she switched the wasap to video, sey she dun dey inside train already, heading back to her best friends house to pick the car and start coming home, while this conversation was going on, she could not link to words together properly and her eyes were tinted, so I noticed she was somewhat high, I asked why she's sounding that way and why eyes are tinted, she replied she did the high roller coaster so it affected her,but I know sey she dun drink and this is something she would normally wouldn't do only if am there, anyways I said no P, delivered my message to her then she said her phone go soon off, make i give my daughter the new number she just got with the new phone.

Guys happy new year! Been married for 13 years, and I seem not to trust my wife most of the time. The traits are there, attitudinal traits, actions, talk and so many. Guys I have a short story of something that occurred yesterday that my instinct says she cheated on her girls trip out, but before i tell the story, is gut feeling or instinct accurate sometimes?

Thanks guys, una too much.

Stevenbright:
From your follow up explanation, it is not a big deal at all. You started the banter and she just flowed with it. So, leave it at that and let peace reign.

she doesnt have a problem when its ur bum is big, but ur body is big is where the problem is and i never mentioned that. as una dun talk sha i go bone...

Franzese:
Hmmm
UK..
Care home
Changed Password.
Edited your Name.
This one no be "Trunk" true true.

Hope you no be the dependant sha?

I wish I could advise you brah.

After the changing, attimes if she wan make i do something for her for phone, she dey leave the phone with me. Yes i be dependent.

Foodqueen:
You sure say no be you first hurt her with your words, and she decides to hurt you back.

one thing i sense is, it gets to her when talk about her weight comes up and shes not fat, just that the yansh dey overblow. But the conversation didnt directly indicate anything about her weight, i said ur not fat, just that your ass is adding weight from the junk, but still said i dont think its the junk, that its my trunk.

Beremx:
that's a normal husband and wife yabbing. Probably you haven't been using your Trunk well on her. Just try and increase the speed. She will testify this time around.

I dey tear am proper oo, anytime we nack, she must come sha nii and will say so many nasy things while splashing her cummm.

Mom007:
Bro, leave your bruised pride aside, after 12yrs of marriage, your wife should have forgotten whatever size and sizes she has had in the past. Please check her phones and WhatsApp to make sure some stupid bustard from her past is not bothering her. It's your duty to safeguard your home and nip any foolishness in the bud before it becomes an evil tree in your lives o.

She has always been free with her phone cos she knows am a master hacker so anything phone even if she's doing anything wont surface there. But some few weeks ago after a quarrel, she changed her pword, changed my name from husband/hubby to my name. Confronted her about it, she said sebi i used to do it wayback, didnt lie...but after a day or two i normally change it back to wifey, even after the confrontation when she said why am i pained and all, that she will change it back, she still left it the same way. Thought the only major reason why I feel she changed her pword may differ from what many would think right now.

GboyegaD:
When you say stylish mockery, what was the comparison about? Are you suspecting she's committing adultery? What led to such comparison? I think the issue is deeper than you summarized here and is difficult to comment properly without adequate details.

Ok so she works in a care home here in the UK, and she takes food from home to work when she does full day, so yesterday she didnt take any food, so when she got back her was like u didnt take any food bae, how did u go about it, she said sometimes she eats mashed potatoe made at work and some few junks, though because shes been complaining about adding weight, didnt want her to feel bad,so i said maybe thats why u have been complaining that you have been adding weight cos of the JUNKS, so i tried to rhyme my words by saying, i dont think its the JUNK thats adding your buttt weight, its from the JUNK from my TRUNK, while pointing to my penile position, next thing wey she go talk, is that one TRUNK. I was like yea na trunk wey dun give u two pikin.

Beremx:
say what happened last night. This your story sounds like what is supposed to be in romance section. Tell what happened last night

Romance wont allow new post from new user. Ok so she works in a care home here in the UK, and she takes food from home to work when she does full day, so yesterday she didnt take any food, so when she got back her was like u didnt take any food bae, how did u go about it, she said sometimes she eats mashed potatoe made at work and some few junks, though because shes been complaining about adding weight, didnt want her to feel bad,so i said maybe thats why u have been complaining that you have been adding weight cos of the JUNKS, so i tried to rhyme my words by saying, i dont think its the JUNK thats adding your buttt weight, its from the JUNK from my TRUNK, while pointing to my penile position, next thing wey she go talk, is that one TRUNK. I was like yea na trunk wey dun give u two pikin.

You see the problem now, yall will make issue out of the actual size, and not why i opened this thread. i made mention of that because i know what most yall nairalnders are capable of doing. I will await sensible and matured responses.

Been married for 12 years, ups and downs, now to this ish of wife making stylish mockery of your manhood. Ever happened to you before? Before any1 judges, am average size oo, not near small at all, but u know some women, before u marry them u never know which of the previous EX carry pipe. I have something to say about what happened yesternight, want to know if its to fogerrit or sit her down and explain something to her.