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Every human being is sexual, it is the approach to accessing that sexuality that is and should be tailored. It might help to approach this matter from a non sexual angle. Unlearn all you know about your wife and try to discover her afresh. Get her comfortable enough to be vulnerable with you about everything. Listen to her stories with a view of understanding her triggers. Find out what irks her. What excites her. Memories she holds dear. Things that are important to her. Show her that you value her. Figure out how to be her ideal man again. You just might be surprised that her natural response to your efforts, once she acknowledges them, will be the desire to submit to/connect with you sexually.
If you're a Christian, pray to the God to show you through the Holy Spirit, the best way to love your wife. True love can be quite disarming (casting away every fear). May God grant you the desire of your heart and make a way for you and your partner to be one in all things in Jesus name.