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Princess Zoe, why should I explain to you the basis of my annulment? It was granted by my Church, and that is all that is necessary to know. I find your words and attitude offensive. I don't intend to follow this interchange with a person who does not respect my faith, my Church, or my personal life. Enough said.

Princess Zoe, in the Catholic Church there is no divorce. There is annulment, and adultery is not a basis for annulment. My case is not at issue here. My answer to the original question would not change, regardless of religion. Each one has to follow her or his own faith and in case there is none, his or her moral principles. I am a Catholic, and behaved accordingly, but would not pretend to impose the principles of my faith on anyone.

This is a very difficult question. It depends not only in the persons involved but also in the state of the marriages, if there are children involved, how old they are, and even in their moral principles and vows. If the marriage is not a solid one, and through the years have brought less than happiness, then my answer would be to seek a divorce, and then proceed with a relation with that first love. If there are small children in the marriage, then they should be your priority. Forget the first love, at least until they are grown up. If the couple is Catholic and has taken at heart their marriage vows, at least seek a Church annulment. I did it, although not to marry my first love, and was very happy thereafter.
The question of the first love is heartbreaking. Much depends on why the relation was broken. If it was for reasons that had nothing to do with the lovers, such as familiar opposition, the possibilities of happiness are good. If the rapture was due to problems in their relationship the same problems may return.
So, in order to answer your question I would say Yes under some condition and absolutely No under others.