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Oyindidi:
I stated the fact and you know it. Nothing like carrying the women along

You still seem not to understand, in a relationship (a proper one at that, where the man is the head or leads) he must be ready to deliberately allow his woman to feel her useful roles in the home. This is a point where men decide what a woman knows how to do best or better. The reason is if you don't recognize such you might come up as if you're in a competition, which you try to avoid.

Now I can sense the angle you're coming from. The problem is you think men do this because they could be scared of loosing her, but no that's not true. For centuries men have learnt through some natural force how to train the woman they love to behave around and in their life. One of these techniques we have learnt in handling women matter is Control... Every human wants to feel in control that at least they have something in their control, if you take away that control they feel powerless and broken. Also if they are not giving the chance to exercise their duty in these areas they are going to start feeling as if they are not needed hence the reason why men allow their women to take some decisions.

I hope this little writing helps clarify and lightning up your understanding. But if not, you will understand and learn when the time is right.

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