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LilMissFavvy:
Impulsivity is a mild mental health challenge, similar to ADHD. Do you know the health battles millions of people are facing, yet they still adjust themselves to live a life of purpose?

As I read through your post, I see someone who chose the path of fa!lure, you are so full of excuses and want to live like your dad, the same dad you have blamed repeatedly in your post.

Your dad had opportunities which he didn't utilize well, from the 7 million bank benefit, to the oil company job, he didn't set up a business? Why have you refused to learn from his mistakes? You saw an uncle who gave you education, what stopped you from looking for jobs to clear the extra year you had in school? You just walked away making the educational investment a waste. Alright, People still make it in life without a degree, so stand up and find a job, stop giving excuses. How about starting a business? you made money from cripto, invest it. You can't throw away several opportunities, then blame people.

As for your brother, stop bothering, he will surely overcome his challenges. Look for a good pastor to counsel him/ pray for him, you can also seek a professional counselor. He will surely overcome. Discuss with your elder brother as well. Pray and hold onto God, plead with God to fix your life, you will be fine.

I never blamed him, just sharing my story. And I agree that I’m full of excuses. In effort to be better that was when I discovered my lapses and on my way to recovery . Trust me ma, mental health issue is not easy as you think and I feel it’s worst than every other health challenges.

I lack the moral standard to even be the head of a WhatsApp group. I ruined my youngest brothers life.
All this while I had no idea how stupid I am. When my dad died in 2015 he left us nothing. Before then it was a struggle growing up. My dad lost is job very early in my life, 2002 to be precise. And I was born 1995, mind you I have always had this impulsive compulsive tendencies. Doing stupid things that will always get me in trouble. I have attempted suicide twice before I was 10 the first time I was caught drinking shaving powder by our house help and she dragged me to my dad, her and my dad gave me red oil to drink and then my dad dealt with me that day. Going forward I can remember I struggled in school. I was always last position in class. Reflecting back on what happened then and I remember I was always day dreaming and never focused in class. I might actually be dumbed too because during pre school I was not able to comprehend what was going on in class, I remember very well and I was 5 or 6 years old around that time. It was 10 years later my dad got a job at an oil company as a contract staff CSO and it was only for a year he had the job before dying 2 years later. During those 10 years it was real struggle I will call it serious underdevelopment. my dad had a job as a an operation manager for a security company during this time maybe for 2 to 3 years and was earning 50,000naira monthly to feed a family of 6. He got the job in 2007 after several years of delay about gratuity and severance payment from the bank he use to work before it collapsed. After waiting 5 years with no hope he then decided it was time to get a job before eventually he got paid 2009. I remember how much he got 1.2 million naira from his bank balance before the bank closed its operations in 2002 and about 6 million naira benefit. But my dad with very little financial literacy spent all the money within 2 years and it was during that time I had to stop secondary school in ss2 because there was no money.
But was able to get my secondary school certificate in 2012 when miraculously my dad got a job in the oil sector and that same year and got admission into the university. I must also state that I had no idea how naive and stupid I was because when I was growing up I used day dreaming as a coping mechanism during stressful time. And was so used to it I didn’t know myself and my environment and still battling compulsive and impulsive behavior. When I got into uni my dad had a good job and it was all glamor at first until the December of the year I entered uni my dad lost is job. I struggled during my time in uni that I couldn’t afford my school fee and feeding allowance. I did well during my 100 level with a CGPA of 3.9 and beginning of my second level the real struggle started because of financial stress that I started to find other coping mechanisms like gambling. And since I already struggled with impulsiveness ruined my life. But that’s not the whole story. I’m the second born of 4 boys. My younger brother attended the same uni as me after 2 years that I had enrolled and you should know now that it will still be a struggle. My dad did everything in his final year to make sure my brother got enrolled into the uni that he even slept in my friends hostel during the time he was taking my brother for admission clearance and all. Few months later he died. And now he left us with nothing but education and faith because in 2010 he became friend with an elder in our area and the elder invited my dad who was a Muslim to church but my dad was reluctant at first and said ‘why don’t you take my boys instead’ which he did and after months of persuading he finally followed the elder to church. It was even during the church Bible school that my dad received a call for an interview for the job at the oil company.
I was lost during my uni years and didn’t graduate. It was always as if a negative force pulls me towards bad thing.
The December before my dad died there was a church conference and he said I had to be there when I got there after traveling from school and my dad saw me, he wiped. Reason was because I was looking like I was really suffering. But my suffering was due to my own stupidity and not knowing reality.
January came and I was ready to leave for school, my dad had no cash so he called our church member and told her I really need her help and she told me to come to her and I went there in ikeja, when I got there she straight ahead took me to my moms blood elder brother living opposite her. I was shocked I always knew him but had no idea he stayed opposite her. And she told him as from today I am his responsibility. Which he agreed and right there wrote me a Cheque of 13,000 naira for school. The woman took me to the bank while bashing me seriously which made me sad and now looking at my life I know why I was an object of ridicule.
When I got home and explained the whole situation to my dad, my mom heard the conversation and straight ahead called my uncle and blasted him for giving me money because the both of them where not in good terms. And right there told my mom I was his responsibility moving forward.
My elder brother ( who didn’t leave the faith who is now married with a beautiful daughter in the UK) followed me to the car park tried to cheer me up and I left. A year later my dad died.
He left me and my mom and brothers with only the faith he showed us later in life.
But I was wayward. My uncle sent 10,000 naira monthly to me and paid my school fees from 200 level till final year. When i went to his office and told him I had an extra year he was disappointed and told me to leave.
Me and my mom and brother lived in a small 2 bedroom it was a struggle for us till I started to invest in buying crypto and gift cards in 2016 when I started to make little money and could even pay the house rent of 250,000 naira For my family. Saw my youngest bother could sing because he was always around me that time and I naively invested massively. Took him to shows at an early age of 16 to perform in big stages exposing him to alcohol and cigarettes and weed instead of investing in his education instead. Doing things out of touch because I couldn’t even tell right from wrong. And now I look at my brother and I see all my mistakes. Which hunts me everyday that i feel like killing myself. Because this damage is on me.
But I didn’t know my problem till I started to have money. As soon as I get money and I couldn’t keep no matter how much I try that was when I realized that I had an issue.
This issue as made me reflect on a lot of things and only now discovering that was out of touch with reality all this while because of my excessive day dreaming. But the compulsive and impulsiveness I was born with it.
And now I’m starting to feel terrible headache at the back of my head because I starting to think about this a lot especially in regards to my youngest brother. My dad will be in sorrow seeing him like this.

The real Odogwu malay

hedonido:
Bastards. Playing ping pong with the brainless masses according to their political interests and financial benefits. But the most annoying part is that some very 'useful' idiots posing as 'intellectuals' are ever ready to support them.

The federal government is not subsidizing any petrol. A barrel of crude oil in the international market is $85 as at today, that’s the equivalent of $0.51/liter. Convert $0.51 to the current exhange rate of $1100, you get naira 561. According to the international market a price of a liter of fuel is naira 561. It hurt me so much that people who have held sensitive position in Nigeria can’t calculate this easy mathematics. The federal has not subsidized petrol since tinubu was president. We need to do our own research before coming online to embarrass ourself

Chijeep:
Betting is a career destroyer, take it or leave it.
IVE NEVER SEEN A GAMBLER THAT NEVER GO BROKE.
Most of them even uses there last card which is meant for feeding to play bet.


If you're a victim of betting try all your best to vindicate yourself from that habit.
Betting sucks success just as termites eat Woods(you won't know it until its finished destroying you)
It'll surely come back to hurt you

SAY NO TO BET

Gambling as ruined me. It’s as if I was meant to see this post today because not too long ago I lost 800,000 naira playing crash on betking. Feeling extremely suicidal. I’m tired. I don’t know why I can’t control myself. I’m homeless because of gambling sold my ps5 last week and lost everything gambling. I really wish I could just kill myself right now instead of this feeling of shame

Good post big bro

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I swear bro..... some are just good for nothing

carzola:
Some are supporting the boy
Others just wanna drain him
With baby mama bills

In this life be carefull
The kind of pusszzy you
Pour your sperm into

You killed easy E and pac too..... y'all white folks are just demons

raker300:
So he had a wife and was busy sleeping with every yoruba in skirts...smh for this sef

did you watch any of his porn videos?....... send me d link abeg meself like Yoruba girls in skirt