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So we have one case where a friend drank the entire wine. In your case, the friend of your husband poured away the wine. It seems there i sno consensus on what to do.

Is this because of fear of jazz or poison?

Is there any significance to a friend drinking or pouring away the wine.

By the way, why is the cup returned with money?

MarvellousGod:
Same here.. when I did my trad in Anambra State, me and my husband didn't take the palm wine. . His friend simply collected it from him and poured away..
In my village, nobody cares if you drink or not but you must return the cup with money....

Gaggi:
It makes sense. My wife and her brother told me not to drink d wine. I actually poured it away in full glare of everyone. I felt embarrassed but what would I do. One can't vouch for the source of the palmwine.

Is there any symbolic significance to pouring away the wine? Could this be interpreted to mean rejecting the bride?

Kirinwa:
Which consequences ke? Pour the wine away so fast and lick your lips.This kind tin is even easier if the groom is sitting in a hidden place which is normally the case as the girl has to look for him.Who cares if he drank or not?

Last Bullet: That friend sha.

I dont understand, what did the friend do?

This thread is interesting as it raises key issues: fear of poison, fear of jazz and cases like the groom in the post below who does not drink alcohol.

Unfortunately, there doe snot seem to be agreement on the best way to handle the issue.

sassygal, I don't get your post.

When you said: "his friend knowing the consequences," what consequences are you referring to? And these "consequences" are to whom - the groom or the groom's friend.

sassygal:
Reminds me of a trad 2 years ago in Nri, Anambra.

The groom does not drink alcohol, we didn't even consider that as would have substituted the palmwine with lime juice or milky water, and so when presented with the cup from his bride he shook his head and made to return the cup still full, his friend knowing the consequences, drank the palmwine quickly on his behalf and that's when trouble started.
The bride's people rejected and ceremony disrupted. Took over 30 minutes of begging and paying fine before we could continue.

I couldn't fault the suspicious groom though, he was scared they were fetish, despite being igbo.