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I have been dreaming of my boyfriend/fiancé which we recently broke up few weeks ago. He all of a sudden broke up with me and stop all plans of wedding, buying a house together etc. all family members had begged him but he refused. during the course of this I had 7days fasting and prayer for God to change his mind and another 3days fasting. recently I sent him an email and prayed to God asking him to help me soften his heart because He (God) has the heart of kings in this hands, he replied and he agreed for us to remain friend. here goes my dream

1) few days after he broke up when and 2 days after into my 7days white fast, I had a dream that we were at the beach and he hugged me and said he is not angry and we were all smiles.

2) Went to his house and we were merry, I cooked for him and he said one of his female friend is coming over but there is nothing between them.

3) I went to his brother house and he told me that he has travelled that he said he needed time to himself, but the brother gave me the details of where he was and told me to go and meet him there. on getting there I went into his hotel room waiting for him, he came in and wanted to leave in annoyance but he came in, hugged me, we talked and told him we can work it out. (I woke up after that)

4) I went on holiday and I was lost. all of a sudden I saw my ex in a happy mood. later he came to my house and he begged me and I also begged him, he looked calm and was laughing and he said we should get back together but we have to do it in secret ( P:S his elder brother and sister never wanted us to be together)

5) I was at the train station with my brother and my bro told me to look and was pointing to my ex, and he said he is with someone small. I said ok. so I saw him and we hugged and I asked him what he was doing here and he said he was waiting for me that we are supposed to be going on holiday together so I told him I do not have my passport and he said we should go to my house and get it. The small person happen to be his nephew and the nephew hugged the both of us and he said he doesn't want to let go of us.

Please could you help me interpret this.

Thanks

[quote author=rman post=43450316]The OP is telling half of the story and I am surprised everyone did not pick the salient points;

1) She was dating the guy 4yrs ago, left, married someone else, marriage did not work out and she came back to the guy. That means she dumped this guy, and she used her manipulative tendencies to destroy the marriage and pretended to care for the mugu in waiting.

I did not dump him the first time, he ended the relationship the first time on a claim that he was not ready as he need to sort himself out. I did not destroy my marriage, I was in an abusive marriage a very brutal one and I had to leave or risk my life.

2) Even the waiting mugu, she did not trust the guy but she was actually displaying her own insecurity and decided to set him up, who does that?
He tried getting back with me but I was already married and when he heard that I was no longer married he came back professing his love for me and how he made a mistake letting me go the last time.

The guy was very correct for dumping you. Mind u, he said all that to make u feel bad, no guy that is not serious shows a girl to his family and makes plan for a home. You do not deserve to be with anyone until u sort out your own insecurities, otherwise, life will be hell for your lovers. I am certain that is why the first marriage did not last.

I know that I can be paranoid, but he gave me reasons so be. I am not justifying what I did or said what I did was right, but he gave me a whole lot of reason to do it.

AfroKnight:
You set him up to fail and you feel justified to curse him for leaving you? Come on! You knew his weaknesses and used it against him until he fell. What a dangerous woman!

No guy is safe dating or being married to a manipulative person.

Let me inform you that he said those painful words to get back at you for setting him up. If a guy is using a lady, he has no reason to tell her even after the break up. Also, no one actually sets out to waste time introducing a lady to his people if he only plans to use her. He was the real deal.

Continue cursing him if it makes you sleep at night. Just be informed that you will witness his progress (in love, marriage and career) in spite of your vile curses.

Thank you so much for your advice, I know setting him up was the wrong move and I regretted it, but I have been a victim of abusive marriage and relationship cheating partners etc, and he was well aware of this, very much aware. so him doing exactly the same thing got me all worried and he was denying it point blank which prompted my wrong move. He has well forgiven me until his family got involved and turned everything into a mess. And If he said those painful words to get back at me for setting him up, all well and good.

Ifakiland:
lemme guess u guyz were dating, u left to marry anoda guy, it dint work, u divorce and u went bk to old flame...and u expect him to marry a used product? ure wicked.

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I did not go back to him, and I dated someone else after him before getting married, he came back to me and this was way after my divorce. (I thought I'd just point that out) nothing used about it as we were both young divorcees.

Hi guys, I just want your honest advice as I am new here

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, I really love him (deeply) and he claimed he loved me too. we dated before 4years ago and we got back together in June 2015. Things has been going well between us, he introduced me to all his family and extended and marriage plans were on the way.He promised me marriage ( Don't get me wrong he did not propose) but we talk marriage everyday, future plans, we have planned the wedding and even started looking at venue. We were already planning on getting our first house together, deposit etc.. and things are all in place.
unfortunately he caught me checking his phone (He has been flirting with other girls) and I set him up, even though he played right into my hands he found out that set him up and he got really annoyed and told his family about it and said he needs time to think about the relationship because I invaded his privacy and set him up and for that reason he is not safe with me.

few days later he came back saying he owe me an apology that when we got back together last year it was not genuine, he was bored, he was pressured to get married and he saw that I was available at the time based on my predicament (I came out of an hurtful marriage) so he felt like he should just be with me since we have dated before.

I felt really hurt and used, even though it was my fault for checking his phone I begged him to take me back but he refused, I have been struggling to deal with the pain as I do not want to lose him.
I have been cursing him everyday ( as long as he lives unless he comes back to beg me, he will never experience true love from a woman every again) because he failed in his words and I felt like he used me for those reasons he gave.

please am I right in cursing him or should I just leave him and let him be, I really love him and I am hurting, because he failed to address the fact that he was flirting and his family are so biased as well