I do feel that most women have contributed to the general impression that men have of women. Some ladies actually make the men feel that they are 'paying' for the services that is being offered and so they have the right to treat the lady as such, a commodity: to be used! This may be a hard truth to admit but until our impression of the women folk changes, we will never be able to know what We as men really want from the women folk.

The media and entertainment sectors are not helping mattes too. What with women being used in music videos, showing their asses up and down (seems to be the rave of the moment these days - if not ur videos won't sell, lol). Most adverts, even from top companies utilize the sexual appeal of the woman to market. all these send a message to the sub-conscious mind and thus creates the impressions that women are just sexual objects and whatever favors done to them are ultimately targeted to get them to deliver one thing - S E X.

Its the women who must stand up and make the change by themselves. they must respect themselves for them to be respected by the men (afterall it is said respect is reciprocal). These and more will set things in motion and then someday, men can bold say that what the want in a woman is more than just another commodity to satisfy our whims and caprices.

Qued Eramus Demonstratus (Q. E. D)

* Thread Close *

zeedee:

You guys like being difficult.
I'm deleting it.
Whoever is moderating can delete the rest,

Jeez.

Hi zeedee. i know what u r going thru coz i've been there. but i want u to know that its a choice you've got to make and only you can choose what u really want out of your life. I realize that sometimes it can be so hard to let go of memories and also let go of one who has made an impact in one's life, especially if you love such a one. From the little i gather of your description of yourself, you are the kind of girl who knows what she wants and goes for it yet deep inside, u crave one thing - to have someone who can either equal your ex or surpass so u can use that to get back at him.

If this happens to be where you are at, it won't work coz there can't be another like your ex. period. Rather, you must reevaluate your values, your feelings and your goals in life. Are you just looking for a boyfriend or someone you plan on taking for the long road? What really do you want (apart from the physical/financial attributes). Real relationship, as far as I'm concerned is deeper than these things even though they do matter. Reassert your values.

Your plan of action right now is to "NOT" look for someone to fill in the gap. rather, u need time out alone to reassess what u really want (not from a man) but for your self. Come out and tell your ex that You can't go on like this and this is final. don't be sentimental. I have to stop here coz i don't want it to be long read but i hope u get the hang of it. This is when u need to pull from the deeper energy within u and be the best you can be.

I wish you the best! Let me know how u r doing ok!

P.S. dont mind NLanders, some of them can be that way sometimes. Just know what u want and go for it. Ciao

George_D:

common, X_factor! why being so fussy because i spoke the truth? you really think all these peeps saying nice things here what you want to hear are sincere? would you rather i join the pretense band wagon?

as for intimacy gadgets and use of the left and right hands- or feet for that matter, why do you think most all men don't give a hoot when their women run out on them? it's because they can always fall back on alternatives!

George, Sex is good but it shouldn't be the only reason. If not, there won't be need for any relationship as call girls abound plenti plenti. So there's no point of saying others are pretending. Its a case of different strokes for different folks that all! And as for having alternatives, you are strictly on your own!

This is really true. Infact, there's no place in the Bible that says that you should marry the person you love. rather, husbands are commanded to love their wives. However, i still thing there must be an element of attraction between the two parties.

X_factor:

George clearly doesn't know who he is or what he wants. He can get sex from a blow up doll and stop dehuminising his women in this manner because before you are a woman, you are a human being. Infact, even better yet, instead of wasting his money on intimacy gadgets, let him use his left hand.

X_factor:

mpraise, is that good or bad? (that you can't shout)

I'm just concerned with the fact that you may be taking it too far with George. his views may not be that ok but having to use his left hand? haba!

X_factor:

George clearly doesn't know who he is or what he wants. He can get sex from a blow up doll and stop dehuminising his women in this manner because before you are a woman, you are a human being. Infact, even better yet, instead of wasting his money on intimacy gadgets, let him use his left hand.

I can't shout

X_factor:

I love your answer Omega25red.
When all is said and done guys know the following:

Treat her like a queen and shell treat you like a king. Treat her like a hoe and she'll treat you like the love-vendor that you are.

From the mouth of a Queen.

The sad thing is the overwhelming response you've recieved that is negative and offensive to women. How you handle you most precious commodity is a reflection of your value/selfworth. and I must say from reading this thread I get the feeling that not many of you are worth much. Thank God for the few who have reason, and thank God for my King.

I can feel you, x_factor. i'm glad for your king.

George_D:

besides sex, what else?! abegi carry go!

haba George! biko take it easy o! Like x-factor says, your true value to your woman will be dependent on how you treat her. If sex is the only reason why u want ur woman, then u r sure to have probs later when she can't "perform". A word is enough,

You have to admit though, Sex seems to be a dominant reason men need women. I'm not contesting that. if you look at my question, i stated besides these basic things, what else is there that will give a man a reason to have a woman. I have a feeling that most men think too much of their mothers and desire to see her in every woman he meets. Just a thought.

[/quote]

missSexy:

cooking and cleaning? are we maids? i never clean for any man. i cook for them sometimes, just like they cook for me sometimes. but if my man insisted that i cook and clean for him on the regular, i think i would but we would have to negotiate a good hefty weekly or monthly "allowance". anyway for those who think the perfect woman is supposed to clean and cook and never ask for money or gifts, what's in it for women? what do women gain?

missSexy, i think relationship is all about partnership. it shouldn't always be about who is doing the providing or whatever. Infact, i think the success of the man in providing is dependent on what the woman supplies, emotionally, morally and otherwise. that way there's some kind of balance. going back to basics, the woman was created as a Helper for the man. If you define who a Helper is, then i'm sure the riddle of what women really are to men maybe halfway solved!

[quote author=George_D link=topic=347838.msg4879230#msg4879230 date=1257612052]
what a question! isn't it rather obvious what men want from women?

George I don't think its that obvious! If it was, why do u think we have so many diverse opinions on this thread?

lady_hard:

This is must be a serious 'something' o!
Should I or should I not?

You should lady_hard. it will be worth it really. holla asap!

Hi. i'm interested in a discreet relationship with no commitments or complexities of love. Just two adults having fun and flexing. Interested ladies shud be adventurous, beautiful and between 19-26 years. Reply to the post with your email address and i'll contact u. or if u prefer anonymity, u can send ur phone number and email to val4max@gmail.com.

A woman provides a level head sometimes when things seem grime
A woman would tell you what your friends wouldn't tell you about the bad decisions you make in your life
A woman would be there to remind you that the world is not ending because you had a string of bad luck
a woman would call you baby and tell you she loves you
A woman would work and carry the responsibility of the house when you are sick or injured
A woman would connect you with the people who could help you get that new job you are looking for
A woman would remind you to go get a medical checkup because you need it
A woman would keep you warm on those cold nights
A woman would carry you children
A woman would help you talk to your daughter about the things you as a man feels shy to talk about
A woman would settle for a man who is not established because she believes in you
ETC the list goes on and on

I believe this is awesome. i always knew there was more to be experienced. Coz at a point the Sex, Cooking and Cleaning trend was getting boring. thanks people! But this also prompts the questions "WHAT DOES A WOMAN REALLY WANT FROM A MAN?" I think that question will be something of hard to answer though!

This question has popped into my mind severally. The reason is simple. Each girl i ever dated always thought of what I can do for her but never bothered to ask, what can I do for you? Apart from sex, and maybe someone to cook for you, what do you really think a man needs from a woman? your replies i'm sure will be helpful! I'd love the female folks to reply more and tell us what really they have to offer us besides the two things i mentioned above.

Enjoy!

LG KE850 Touch Phone for sale. Used but still in good condition. N10k

Features: Touch screen, GPRS, Bluetooth, USB, FM Radio, High quality Camera and unlimited Video.

well, if u are really particular about Visa card, Access Bank has a Visa Plastic Card when u open an account with them. if u are going to use it online, u can get their dormiciliary account. Alternatively, GTBank has Mastercard account and i've used it to make several online purchases. The only challenge with most Nigerian bank cards is that they use Nigerian Billing addresses and so, it sometimes post a challenge but most online merchants are accepting it now. If you need Virtual Cards with US address (Visa Card) or u need a Visa Card to verify your paypal account, then call me on 07030119681. I can help at a fee.