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Pweetidamsel:
Am not in any presently, probably soon

Okays good to know. So wah school did you fill in for?

Proudly September 2nd

Pweetidamsel:
This thread is created so we could all share our idea about dating and also make news friends......... New members should introduce themselves and keep the ball rolling.

Hi! Temitope z the name. Based in lag skools in Benin...... Are u in a relationship ni?

Nneka123:
He got no shame! talk to him

Tried that... Niccur claimed I was stalking him

Nneka123:
This guy's matter no be for here! unibenstudent, are you sure you in uniben? because, you're a total disgrace to them!!!

The guy is an attention seeking hypocrite. Just dey fall my skool hand anyhow

[quote author=Unibenstudent post=29917121][/quote]Answer the damn question

Unibenstudent:
so u dey stalk me for nairaland Ni?

Hahaha lwtmb . Wetin consign gorilla with slippers. Of all people for Nl na u I go come pick to stalk tscheew Oshi Ile pako
Did u say so? Yes Or No

Unibenstudent:
when

U said so on that hyping Nl guys thread. Abi you wan lie

Unibenstudent:
Seriously is it that bad?

I thought u said what happens on nairaland ends here

patrickdarlins:
u deserve a hug...

and a kis from...elantracy....

lols

...... Are you guilty of the above?

You have a great relationship with your partner. You both
like each other and enjoy each other’s company.
Everything is going smoothly until one day your partner
introduces you to their smart best friend! And boy, you
can’t stop thinking about your partner’s best friend. As
you meet the best friend more often, you start liking them
more and more and start losing interest in your own
boyfriend or girlfriend.
Well, this is not an imaginary situation. It has happened to
many couples. No, Wait! It happens to ‘most’ couples.
Why? Because there is always a good looking best friend
of either the girl, or the guy. And more often than not, the
best friend is either hitting on you, or you are hitting on
them and have a crush on them. You want to get out of
your present relation and mingle with them!
Is this sane? Is this fair? Is it worth it? The answer to all
the questions is NO. There are very few people who can be
happy with their boyfriend or girl friend’s best friend
forever, with their ex in their life.
Here is why eyeing your partner’s best friend is a deal
breaker and is NO good.



1. Destroying a relationship
Remember that if you are breaking up with your partner
for somebody else, you are destroying a relationship,
which might be absolutely perfect in the eyes of your
partner. Also, what you are feeling for your partner’s
friend might just be infatuation or a crush. Is it completely
sensible to just throw away what you have built with your
partner over time, for a fling or casual feelings? In the long
term, it will always be remembered as regret by you.



2. Destroying a friendship
Also, by eyeing your partner’s best friend you are doing
no good to their friendship. They will absolutely break off
and might become enemies for life. Just take a moment and
think, what you are doing to both of those people.
Remember that you might break someone’s faith over love
and friendship by your selfish motives for a fling. You are
stealing the person of two most important factors in life,
love and friendship!



3. Hurting the ego
Break ups are normal. Everyone is okay with them after
some time. It could be because of mutual differences, long
distance, career problems or due to attraction to other
people. But when this attraction is to own best friend, it
hurts like a lightning has struck upon you. It hurts the
person’s ego to no end. Since the person knows his
girlfriend and best friend well, he might not be able to stop
picturing them together and this could be so very
traumatic.



4. Back stabbing
Worst part is, it is considered back stabbing. It is the “girl
code”, the “bro code” and all the other codes of the
universe that a bro should never eye a bro’s girl and a girl
should never eye her girlfriend’s guy. Moreover, you are
ditching your own partner for somebody who he or she
introduced you to in the first place. If it wasn’t for your
partner, you wouldn’t have even known them! Sound very
evil indeed.



5. Comparison factor
Even if you do manage to break up with your partner and
stay with their best friend, and build a relationship with
them, there will always be a comparison factor. He or she
might ask, frequent questions about you and your ex (aka
their best friend). And the answers of those questions will
lead to constant comparisons every now and then which
will eventually lead to fights and then a big break up!


What are your views about the post? Have you ever had
such an experience? Share your opinion in the comments
section.

LewisO:
I have knowledge about most, but well done (op)

Thanks

Love is sweet and magical. It makes you feel happy and
blooming every day. Everything you see is colorful but the
best of them is red. It feels so good to be in love especially
if the one you love is right there beside you giving you
hugs and kisses. Holding your hands everywhere you go
and saying “I love you” every time of the day. Feeling in
love is the reason why you smile from the moment you
wake up and the reason why you have sweet dreams at
night. You both plan for the future while looking at the
stars in the sky.
But what if your case is in a long distance relationship?
How will the both of you save it to make it work? You
need these three (3) important things: LOVE, TRUST and
RESPECT.
Here are 15 tips to save a long distance relationship that
are shared with you:



1. COMMUNICATE. Always communicate no matter how
both busy you are of the day. Text him/her when you wake
up and inform your love one that you’re going to miss him/
her because you will be very busy during that day. You
could also leave a sweet message on Facebook, IM’s or
just a text from your mobile phone. When the evening
comes, that’s the time where both of you could call each
other and talk how busy you were but never fail to think of
each other. The words “I LOVE YOU” before the call will
end is very important. It will make you feel that you are
loved and not neglected by your partner.



2. GIVE HIM/HER SPACE. You both have a life and
dreams to fulfill as a unique individual. It is very important
that you should also have time to spend with your family
and friends. Though you’re going to miss each other’s
absence but believe me, it will help you grow as an unique
individual who has dreams and plans for the future.



3. NEVER LET THE SUNSET WHEN YOU’RE STILL
MAD AT EACH OTHER. Meaning, do not sleep when
both of you haven’t make up yet from your love quarrel.
Sleeping while crying or being angry is bad for your
health. It will affect your mood when you wake up on the
morning and you will feel weak during the day. Saying
“Please forgive me, I’m really sorry. I love you” is very
important in a relationship.



4. KEEP IN MIND THAT THERE IS NO PERFECT
RELATIONSHIP IN THIS WORLD. Yes, there’s no
perfect in a relationship but both of you could make your
day perfect with your love even though you’re miles apart.
It’s a matter of choice. Just be open-minded.



5. DO NOT EXPECT TOO MUCH. Expectation is the
root of all disappointments. Right?



6. LOWER THE PRIDE. Sometimes, when you can’t
swallow your pride, both of you will grow bitter and cold
which will make your relationship complicated and cold.
That’s why, saying “I’m sorry” is still very important. If
you apologize, you are lowering you pride whether you are
or not at fault.



7. BE LOYAL AND HONEST. Even if both of you were
miles apart, do not flirt with other girls or boys or whoever
that someone else. Never ever cheat. You are not an animal
to have two hearts or more to love many persons at the
same time. If you are a two-timer or three-timer, ask
yourself what animal are you (hahaha).



8. TRUST YOUR PARTNER. Trust is very important. If
you do not trust your partner, then you do not love him at
all.



9. MAKE YOUR PLANS ABOUT MEETING
SOMEDAY. In a long distance relationship it is very
important that the partners mutually discusses and makes
plans to meet sometime sooner or later.



10. CHANGE YOUR PARTNER’S BAD HABITS BUT
NEVER FORCE HIM TO CHANGE. If he or she does
loves you, then he will do everything for you. It is always
better that when you are away from your partner you
discuss good and bad qualities of one another, try to
identify the bad habits of each other and help one another
to get rid of them however one needs to be very careful
that you are not forcing your partner to do it. It should be
mutually out of love and affection.



11. LENGTHEN YOUR PATIENCE. It’s very important
to be patient in a long distance relationship. Always and
always be patient with each other. At time you may feel
frustrated as you don’t get a chance to often meet your
partner.



12. UNDERSTAND THAT YOUR PARTNER IS
BUSY. You must understand that your partner may be busy
at times or due to their prior commitments with other
friends and family members or may be due to other
important work he/she is unable to reply to your message
instantly. In such a case do not make it an issue, so forgive
him / her for not replying to your message on time.



13. ALWAYS TELL YOUR PARTNER WHERE
YOU’RE GOING. It is always considered good to inform
your partner proactively of your day to day activity so that
your partner does not feel insecure.



14. DO NOT KEEP SECRETS. One must never keep any
secrets in a long distance relationship. Try not to hide
anything from your partner, sharing little things also helps.



15. NEVER FAIL TO ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER.
When you are in a long distance relationship you must
never fail to encourage each other to do good in studies,
career or any other activities in life that you’ll be going
through.
There are a lot of tips and list goes on but I hope this
article helped you to enlighten your minds and hearts.
What do you think about this article ? Let us know your
views in the comment. Please feel free to share this
article with someone who you feel would be entertained
or helped by it.

www.likelovequotes.com/15-ways-to-save-a-long-distance-relationship/

mztubsy:
Aww sorrry didn't mean it like that.thanks for d compliment.I've got a big grin spread across my face right now...too bad u can't see it.

Now I've got a big grin on my face

Chelsea's game is starting to dry up.. Why dem go comot oghene costa na ..

And Man. U scores @last

killercute16:
"ARGUEMENT"which arguement again

Na viewing centre I dey na. Man U fans dey jam talk for here

This honeywell advert is the most annoying piece of shii av seen on live TV.... TF?

FOUR-midable Chelsea . Halftime baby... Let d arguements begin

Costa shudda scored dah ball na. Willian sef. Oghene costa u must score hatrick today

mztubsy:
. Ermm...yea.

Ure welcome

Oalllll chelsea wan kee person eeh

mztubsy:
Its so amazing how chelsea makes my day.#upblues.they always have it together.I was listening to a commentary on d team with the best mix.and its was given to chelsea.there's no individuality and selfish pass.everyone one works together...true definition of a team.#bluesalldway #ilovemourrinho

See as you fine for inside pinshure

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] Swansea are goats... just leaderless flock of goats.. [/color]

Bad Belle.... Is allowed

Gooooooaalll costa!!!!!

Chelsea playing really fine football

Chelshit dey lead sha. Confirm o

Jesus Culture - How he loves

Blackmagic ft Oritse femi - Pass you by

PoslyTD ft pasuma - Lori titi

Asa - Moving on