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Ayoakinkahunsi:
money making maching first other reasons may follow

you agree it's just a money making machine rite

OK! I'm really getting fed up of asobi here asobi there. It's ok you want to have a beautiful wedding, I also understand you want it colour but sisters in the lord is this asobi thingy a means of adding colours to your wedding or just a means of making money? It is no longer news that the new way of inviting people to a wedding is no longer through "IV" but saying "my asoebi is out"

In those days parents didn't have asobi girls, boys and children and they still had great weddings. Why do people especially the ladies make it such a big deal? Some relationships have suffered some set back because the guy didn't have asoebi money. The most amazing part is the way people sell these asoebi at ridiculous prices others even keep a list of those who didn't buy as enemies.

Hmmmmmm! Stop extortion of your friends in the name of asobi.
A beautiful marriage is better that a fantastic wedding. If you really want the asobi, choose a colour, allow people dress in your colour .

obyno10ten:
any expected response?

nah

Eku election

vislabraye:
Friend zone is one, brother zone is another...non is good at all.

hahahahhahahahahhahah

Cutehector:
and u girls take tins too personal. Like wen a guy doesn't call, u get all naggy. And cause irrelevant misunderstandin

if you are sincere enough you'll agree that most girls who nag over something as trivial as a phone call are those who guys have trained into believing they can afford to call 20hrs of a day. When 20hrs becomes 2mins a day d girl starts complaining believing he's diverting his attention to another girl

Well my day went well. How did yours go?

signor11:
Aiit
Welcome back
Sure your day was great

Brugo:
Here we go again. Babe go and concentrate on taking selfies and looking sweet jor. I wanted to tackle you but I'm a nice guy.

hahahahahahhaahaa! Why are all the guys attacking me now? I believe I said early as a girl I can't speak for the girls cos a guy caan tell the girl's story better so this isn't about girls girls girls.. as 4 d selfies u can bank on that

falconey:
I like your perspective is lucid and you clearly point out well guys failure is few, it doesn't go beyond those 7 .


I can give thousands of girl's failure in a relationship, I rather not.

hmmmmmm! I'll be honoured to hear it

ronald4lif:
Nice one but both gender can apply this. It mustn't be about women women all the time. And number 1 can be avoided if women aren't moved by words.

Imagine this toasting line; I'm Nonso, was an undergraduate at unilag but had to drop out because my parents couldn't fund my studies anymore. At the moment I'm doing some bricklaying jobs to raise some money and see if I can resume my studies in a year or two? My family is completely down, I'm the eldest and all my juniors are looking up to me.

How many women, today, can be moved by the lines on the preceding paragraph from a guy? Please guys will always tell lies, as that's what you lot want to hear. Pronto.

I clearly stated it's best if a guy tells the girl's version. As for the lines you dropped if the girl won't accept you for it does that mean she'll stay when she eventually finds out who you really are?

Cutehector:
So wat r u sayin in essence

some of the tins guys do that break up a relationship but a lot of guys see it as normal not knowing they are causing harm

Fairgodwin:
Realy? But we've seen these a countless times and we already know all these by now, I guess. Please give us something different and more 'spicy.'

are you sure you knoow all this by now Cos it's still very rampant

johnstar:
ohk, i ll lyk 2 knw more abt u, bt chatn on private wil b bettr, hope u dnt mind me hvn ur bb pin, or wtsap numbr.
No offence

ok

Am a girl so don't expect me to tell you how girls cause problems in a relationship because I believe it's best narrated by a guy but when it comes to how guys do, I have a few points on that.

1. Don't start up a relationship by impressing a girl; this has to be the number ne error guys make. In an effort to win her you go over the top, pretending to be who you are not. Like the girl that she is, she falls for such luxury only for them to be taken away the minute she gets comfortable.

2. Be yourself; this is another deal breaker. Similar to the 1st but with little difference. Some guys pretend so much you think they have no fault. When the imperfections start showing and the girl can't take it, she becomes the bad party. These are things you show her before she makes up her mind.


3. Comparing her to your "Ex".... I don't think I need to explain this but seriously don't expect her to stick around if you are always saying "my ex dis, my ex dat.... ladies feel threatened when the "ex" is always in the picture.


4. Correct her don't capitalise on her faults. You need to see the way some guys bad mouth their girls even in the midst of friends. If you can't respect the girl you date how else would anyone do Her faults shouldn't be a topic of discussion among your friends.

5. Never place her under a general school of thought e.g all girl cheat ; all girls are after money; the minute you do that you already placed an expiry date on your relationship.



6. Forgive & forget: learn to look at the brighter future. Trust once broken can hardly be gotten. Don't hold a past mistake over her or scold her over aa secret she trusted you with.


7. Life is a risk, love unconditionally, hold nothing but but never gamble with a girl's emotions because you may just find yourself entangled in your own web.

johnstar:
nice pix dear, which state ar u frm?

thanks. From Edo state

zubinike:
Strong note, I think I did something more similar dating the girl that just dumped me 2days ago after 2and half years. Could someone pretend to be in love for that long?

hell yes!

Hello. People

signor11:
8 days after
I'd sanction you for that

bros no vex o, been off 4 a while

Ferdybaba:
Interesting piece......

So, can we conclude that only those who are not confident to speak out are liable to be friend-zoned

yes

Friend- Zone.... a lot of boys and girls still live and nurse the hurt of been friend zoned. A lot of people have even missed out of a life of love cos of this syndrome. 
In truth, individuals who get the friend zoning usually bring dis fate on themselves.  
We never meet a person the first time and have our minds made up ‎on what we want from them. Knowledge of a person is gradual and unending. It's is disastrous for you to assume especially when it has to do with dealing with individuals and the opposite sex.


The reason some people are always in the friend zone ‎is because they lost every sense of surprise and have self placed themselves in roles/positions not intended for them.


You meet a girl you like, ‎ rather than voice out u stick around forming her knight in shiny armour. When she's stranded you are a call away : when the ex come running back you are the listening ear: when bored you are a ping away: when broke you are her charity knock: when sick you are her person health care provider bla bla bla but the one thing you are not is her special one(boyfriend/love).
 In most cases, the girl gets so use to you been there she never going too look beyond that. If you have accepted her to be your best friend there's every chance you friend zoned yourself. Girls like & want to date‎ guys who can still surprise them, refuse them certain favours not guys that parade themselves like puppets running to meet the every need & desire of aa girl. You maay be nice, caring, generous and even handsome but the minute you become available at her beck and call you make it impossible for you to be taken serious. 

Don't stick around a girl who says we can only be friends hoping some day she'll change her mind. If you do that you make yourself a perfect candidate for "maga". If you really like her & all she says is we can only be friends then give her some space, develop yourself, let her miss you in her life. You may just be shocked at how much you'll be appreciated when you give it another try.


Ladies; I know a lot of you don't get friend zoned but for the few that do please understand this statement "You can't force love".
Don't watch him sleep around while you cry in the middle of the night all by yourself because he's your friend. No guy will take you serious if you visit & still cook for him and the other girl pretending you are just friends. 

When he needs advice on how to approach another lady your advice comes in handy because you are just friends.



If only people would just come out of their she'll and express themselves. Don't complicate your life and the lives of other simply because you are too scared to take a risk of been rejected.‎
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signor11:
Oga mzflexydeeva
Happy nu month

oga mi same to you

cherryice:
No popular nlers on the list
I nominate
https://www.nairaland.com/mzflexydeeva
https://www.nairaland.com/tashaamania
https://www.nairaland.com/twaci

3rd nomintion in d 3rd year running: how interesting. To think I tot I was a passive NLER thanks cherrypie

Ferdybaba:
Hey Deeva...been a while

Happy new month

yea a while indeed. Same to u. How u been?

I don show I don show....... hello people, happy new month. Tell me ur April's fool tale

Do you have 4s? How much?

I'm not here to support any candidate neither am I here to tell you which party should win your vote but i'm just hear to get your views.

This has been one thought on my mind for long and i've decided to finally air it.


If GEJ didn't contest and PDP presented GMB as it's presidential candidate would that mean PDP looses your vote
If your answer is YES I can understand but if it's a NO then i'll say think again.
Vote wisely, vote the right candidate not thhe party. Satisfy your conscience not your pocket.


Long live Nigeria

Of course..... it's a yes over and over again

tunapa2009:
Hmmmmmmmm..... Welcome me on board!!!

welcome

obyno10ten:
Da Boss **** I dey try make ends dey meet o bt d thing stubborn dey tend endless. Mk we all dey luk election na

yes oo! This election carry weight daann

Tohpeh:
its normal
T'ws a relaxing day to me bt unknowingly ate cockroach wt vegetable at cafe last night

4 real

Tohpeh:
hello Mzflexy toh deeva
How ws your day?

my day was a bit out of place but good

adewumiopeyemi:
afternoon guys and beautiful ladies in the room...

hello! How work