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Dear VO,

Thank you so much for the encouragement. We truly appreciate all you do. I noticed the posting regarding the difference between CR1 and IR1 Visa Category and I want to make sure it would not affect us On December 28 this year my husband and I will have our 2 year anniversary, therefore if his visa is not approved until after then our status will change to IR1, as well? Is that correct? If so, will we need to do anything in terms of paperwork or anything additional when he returns for his next interview and if hopefully he is approved? What will happen when he enters the US to come be with me?

Thank you kindly,

nalacandi and hubby

It's okay. Thank you so much for always answering our questions and just being there for all of us who are experiencing these times. Your an asset to the embassy and we feel thankful and blessed to have found our way to your forum, so thatnk for that. I will update my husband aND hopefully this will ease his discomfort and we can make an inquiry.

ThAnka for all you do.

Nalacandi and hubby

VisaOfficer:
I'm afraid I don't have any update for you. But making another inquiry won't hurt your case at all.

Sorry another question. My husband is so afraid of me writing to the embassy for this update because our letters state to not contact you until after our 60 days. Will asking for this update now really not affect the process of our AP. I am trying to be patient, but to be honest I have waited for almost 2 years now. We will be celebrating our 2nd Anniversary on Dec 28. This seems so unfair we have done everything the legal way and we don't even know why we were put in AP and receive no information regarding our case. I am just wondering are they doing anything with it all or is there a line that these case go in and sit until they are chosen, as if we are applying for another stage? This process is hell and I am now on antidepressants and antianxiety medication to attempt to get through this process. Honestly, I have never been a patient person and I am trying, but this is hell and I miss my husband every day and he misses me too. Is there any possible chance he could be here by our anniversary or is that not even a possibility so that I can prepare myself to get through yet another Christmas without him. I am so sorry but this is honestly the most stressful situation ever and some days I just feel so lonely without his emotional support physically with me. LGS2014598025

Dear VO,

I am once again attempting to get any information as to the status of my husband's visa application. Case #LGS2014598025. I continue to check the status website, but there is no change. This is very stressful being apart. My husband and I truly miss each other and I must admit some days are becoming more difficult than others. Please forgive me, but I cry often missing my husband and I don't understand what we did wrong. Is there is any update? Is it all possible that my husband could be here for Christmas. I was told I can't make contact with the email site until Jan 4, but we have not seen each other in 2 years and have been in this process for 18 months. Please any information would be appreciated. We just miss each other and love each other so much and we want children, but I am a little older. My mother is doing okay for now, but she is beginning to have more complications from her surgery and I am worried that I will be left here alone while she ends up back in the hospital again. I need my support for so much emotional support and I just can't imagine my life without him. I don't understand why the evidence we presented was not kept to see the communication exchange between us to assist in determining our case. Will it hurt our case if I make another inquiry even though it has not been 60 days since we were put in AP. This is tearing us up inside.

Thanks,

nalacandi ;( just so sad lately

Dear VO Officer,

My husband and I wanted to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving this year! We want to tell you how much we appreciate all you do each day. We were hoping to see if there might be any update on our case. I sent an email and provided my address change, as you instructed, and I have changed my address with the USCIS. Please, if you have any information it would be greatly appreciated. We truly miss each other and woud love to be together for Christmas. Do you think that could be possible in our situation? Our case # LGS2014598025.

We hope you have had a wonderful Thanksgiving and enjoyed your break.

Sincerely,

nalacandi

VisaOfficer:
Good afternoon,

We don't have any updates to report. Please e-mail LagosIV@state.gov and let us know what your new address is. Thanks!

Ok thank you very much. I just pray we get through this soon. I really appreciate all your help. I am going to get my keys now and I will email the new address when I return.

nalacandi

[quote author=nalacandi post=27942663]Dear VO,

Our case # is LGS2014598025. Unfortunately when I sent the email to the embassy I left a a number out so was shocked to see if they even received my email. If u can check to see if they received the email I sent it would be greatly appreciated and if ur able to give us an update that would be appreciated as well.

Nalacandi

Dear VO,

Was wondering if you could check the status of our case again to see if any proprogress has been made. LGS2014598025. Just hoping we have made some headway in hopes for Christmas. Also, I am moving tomorrow and wanted to ask if I should email the embassy and let you all know my new updated address. Of course, I would prefer to not post on here for privacy reasons.

Thanks so much for all you do,

Nalacandi

VisaOfficer:
Without knowing which case is yours, it's difficult for me to answer. I can tell you that if you're not invited to come to an interview, it's not possible to show up and talk to someone. We aren't able to see people who don't have appointments.

I'm guessing that you're not Nigerian-American, as you write that you would need a visa to visit him here? If so, the best source for information about visas for non-Nigerians is a Nigerian embassy or consulate.

From a health standpoint, yes, your husband should get his hepatitis series! Even if he doesn't travel, it's good to be protected.

Dear VO,

Our case # is LGS2014598024. Unfortunately when I sent the email to the embassy I left a a number out so was shocked to see if they even received my email. If u can check to see if they received the email I sent it would be greatly appreciated and if ur able to give us an update that would be appreciated as well.

Nalacandi

[quote author=nalacandi post=27940393]kole10:How long have you been on AP?[/quote

Kole10 we have been in ap since 11/05/14 and desperate to find others like us to share feelings and just gain more understandin

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VisaOfficer:
Without knowing which case is yours, it's difficult for me to answer. I can tell you that if you're not invited to come to an interview, it's not possible to show up and talk to someone. We aren't able to see people who don't have appointments.

I'm guessing that you're not Nigerian-American, as you write that you would need a visa to visit him here? If so, the best source for information about visas for non-Nigerians is a Nigerian embassy or consulate.

From a health standpoint, yes, your husband should get his hepatitis series! Even if he doesn't travel, it's good to be protected.

Dear VO,

If I give u my case # can u utilize it to check our status? I have noticed that some have put out case # for response.

No I am not nigerian-American I was told I could not be a citizen. I am an American married to a Nigerian. Not sure if that changes anything there.

kole10:How long have you been on AP?

VisaOfficer:
Every relationship is unique, so I can't tell you what your husband should bring to the interview. Also, if I did have a mental checklist of what I expected to see (which I don't), I would never make it public, because then everyone would bring exactly what I wanted to see whether their relationship were real or not. The most important thing will be what your husband says in the interview.

We don't have a policy in place that allows beneficiaries to choose the officer who interviews them. I can tell you that no officer makes visa decisions based on personal likes and dislikes; if a beneficiary qualifies for the visa, he or she gets the visa. (We're not supposed to have personal feelings about that at all, but I admit to feeling happy all day when nice people get visas.)

Dear CO,

I want to thank you so very much for having this thread. it is giving me so much more hope that I had a few days ago. Since my husband's interview all we do is go over how we could have gone wrong in this process. It is so discouraging when we know how much we are in love and how real and true our marriage is and yet we still can't be together. We have endured 16 months of filing and 2 years apart since marriage. I would have returned for additional visits, but I am mother's main caregiver when she is having bad times and struggling. Just 3 short months after my return to the U.S. my mother underwent major surgery for a crushing spinal cord and I am the one who spent 2 weeks in the hospital and then rehab facility taking care of her to make sure she was comfortable and in as little pain as possible. I don't have any other family members that will care for her in the way that I care for her, so that has kept me here in the states, and in the process sacrificing one on one time with my husband. My mother is now in outpatient rehab after almost 2 years post surgery, due to having returning complications. I am fearful to leave her for 10 days to make a trip to see my husband, but being apart for so long is just becoming so very difficult. In addition to that, I am beginning to experience my own medical complications and just miss my husband more than anything else.

We had an attorney in this whole process and clearly that has done us no good and has been a waste of money. In addition, it becomes very heartbreaking to see that other's get their visa's no problem, yet we are now struggling through this process. Our faith is strong, but I will admit this is extremely hard. If I plan a trip there at about the time we are to hit our 60 day mark, is it possible to come to the embassy for a status update? Would they even see me in hopes that we could share our story with them and allow them to see the love we have for each other? Is it typical that this process would take longer than 60 days? Will it even do any good for me to go up the embassy so as to not waste anyone's time and make this process more difficult on everyone involved?

In addition, my husband was asked to return on Nov 13th to get his second Hep series immunization. Is it necessary for him to get this second injection. I have explained to him that this immunization is time sensitive and he would have to start over here if he were to not get it done there. We are unsure of the policy, but he must continue to travel to Lagos from Ibadan, as he moved back in with his parents almost a year ago in an effort to spend this time with them, knowing he might not see them for some time.

Lastly, is it true that now that I am married to him I can get a lifetime Visa for travel to and from Nigeria for the purpose of visiting him and family members in the future? With so much misinformation out there we want to get it straight from the source.

It's hard to understand why we must suffer this stage of the process, but we will endure and we aspire to offer hope to other's in our situation. Thank you again kindly for all of your hard, selfless work in assisting those of us who really have no idea about all of this and learning our way through this process, feeling alone at times.

Sincerely,

nalacandi

VisaOfficer:
Actually I have to admit that based on what you've written, I don't see any real misrepresentation in what your husband said. Apparently he did have a stepchild and the stepchild is now deceased. I may be missing something, of course. It sounds like the officer is investigating the case; if he or she finds that you do indeed have a bona fide relationship, your husband's chances of obtaining a visa are very good.

Dear CO,

Thank you very much for the encouraging news. Another question, how can my husband prove our relationship is a bona fide relationship. I sent my husband a 3-in binder with all the evidence we should need. The following is what I sent to him (FYI I was a bit overzealous in attempt to ensure that he had enough evidence):

1. Phone records of my phone calls to him every day, several times a day, since April 19, 2012
2. Phone records of calls from my husband to me
3. A selection of emails from 2012, 2013, & 2014 (a few of the emails were of intimate nature for a reason, obviously)
4. Oovoo video cam pictures & logs between he and I, as well as, between his sister, mother, him, and myself
5. Pictures of mommie & daddy with my husband and I, as well as, pictures of my husbands friends with us
6. Pictures of my husband and I out in the community doing shopping and sightseeing
7. Copies of my passport, driver's license, and social security card with my name change within just a short time of our marriage
8. Copies showing how I added my husband to my life insurance policy as beneficiary, auto insurance policy

My husband and I have had many communication regarding having children, joint financing, family values, religion, etc, but my husband stated the CO Officer he received just laughed at him when he told him this. Is this common practice? Can he request a different CO Officer when he returns, if this one appears to have a disliking to my husband. I am not sure what my husband has done, but I worry about when he arrives back for another interview.

My husband and I are committed to each other and he has really changed my life and vice versa. We truly want to be together and we are in this for the long haul, but I will admit that after 2 years of being apart its emotionally difficult. We won't give up, we are truly in love and my husband is a good man.

Thanks always for your time.

Nalacandi

Dear CO Officer,

I would like to ask a question about my husband's interview on November 5, 2014. My husband had applied for a visitor visa to the U.S. in 2010 and during this interview he misrepresented that he had a child that actually belongs to his prior spouse. She had this child from another relationship prior to his marriage to her. So when my husband went in for his interview 2 days ago they asked him has he talked with me since our marriage and he said yes, but they only asked to see call logs from him and not call logs from me as the petitioner. The officer wouldn't take the call logs from me. The officer asked if we had emails he said yes and provided a few from the evidence binder I mailed to my husband. Then they asked him some questions about the pictures of my husband and his parents, but didn't look at any pictures of us together. Then the CO Officer asked him about the child and rather than clearing up that he lied the first time he told them the child is deceased. That is true the child is deceased, but it is not my husband biological child. The officer gave him a form to complete with my phone number and name and my husbands home address and business address and gave him a 221g form and said we are put in AP Processing pending further review. I sent an email to the embassy explaining this situation and received an email back thanking me for the information stating they understand my concerns and will be in touch and stated it takes time for a response. We asked for a 2nd interview so that he could return and clear this particular matter up. He is wholeheartedly sorry for doing this. I knew about his former deceased spouse and I knew about the deceased child, but will admit that my husband didn't brief me on the matter of his misrep in the first interview. It came about I discovered when this interview commenced. I am just wondering what they could be thinking about all of this and we are hoping and praying that this can be resolved. We are truly in a bona fide relationship, this was not some relationship we engaged in for him to receive a visa. My husband is a very honest, caring, loving, and extremely supportive to him. This entire process has placed a huge hardship on us and we have been waiting for 16 months just for this interview. Now we are limbo. Any advice, information on what this really means, the possibility of us getting an approval after this, and any information on what we should or are able to do next would be greatly appreciated.