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if you do have any doubts about a relationship whatsoever; move on. because if you don't, your heart will be on the line. there are amazing people out there that can make you feel you again and see life and a diffrent way.

what is the diffrence between true love and firt love. Do you think they are the same.
I think its normal for people to sometimes think about their first love.
However, do you think the love between you and your first love was the best, and that you can't ever have that with somebodyelse. "like you can't fall in love again"
I mean "first love" not the person who gave you your first kiss or first being intimate with. the person you first fall in love with.
SO, would you call that true love if the relationship don't work out? what is your perspective of true love. doesn't it have to be mutual, undertands it all, endures all, and ready to forget, and grow old together?  why people call it true love when doesn't last, and shut the door of their heart of finding true love.

if people so confused true love with lust, do you think people now a day are getting married because they are in love since there is being so many relationships from which others claims they already find true love.
what do you think people?

@makajibbz. and madlady.


thank you for your understandings. you guy made good points

@ Busy_Body>

The husband is the one having his baby mama disrespected me and let her post ablums of her picture on his profile. the new guy i'm dating is the one telling me he cant be in love anymore. my baby is curently 14 months old. my husband still wants me back though.

My husband had his baby mama, including her sister and her friend disrespected me on Facebook. and he blamed me when i did not even reply to anything they said but went to him. that girl even tagged two albums of over 200 pictures in his profile. I told him to remove them he rufused. he says all of this are nothing its me making big deal out of nothing. that right i pack my stuff and leave with my baby. Now he is trying to get back with me, but not untill he does everything i want him to do, and if i can forget and forgive him. That guy i posted about even offered me to moved in with him when i left my husband. i said no. and now i have an headach that won't go away anytime soon. i feel like neither one of them deserves me.
thanks for your concern

I dated this guy five years ago, in 2005, for two months then, i left him because i didn't like him. After i broke up with him, we remain friends. for the next four years he would always take me out, trying to get back to me, but the answer would always be no. if we do not go out he would come to my house, or me to his usually. but nothing ever happen no matter how he try. if im sick, he would take me to the ER, wait untill i'm called in, then come back for me. other time he would pick me up from my house to his office just to watch movie . he even proposed me to be with him, he would pay my rent so i could go to school. still i did not want to take advantage of him. then, in late 2008, i dropped the ball when he told me to stop by his place. I told him im pregnant with somebodyelse baby. he did not believe it untill he saw papers from my obgyn saying so. he asked me for how far i was, and i said two. he told me to have an abortion so he can married me i said no. then from that day i never hear from him again. I got married. in late 2009, when my baby was about 6 monts I called him. at the same time he asked to see me. then he came to see me the next day. before he left he looked at me and said: "I loved you alot, I loved you a whole lot. I still love you". when he said that i felt so bad, specially im being mistreated by my husband. he asked me for a hug,. i did hug him, and that was the first time i ever felt something for him. ever since he kept calling me very often, and stopped by to see me, eventually i cheated with him. four months later, i got separed with my husband due to his baby mama drama. not because of our affair. when talking, he told me he was in love with a girl when he was 17. that girl broke his heart. he said he will never fall in love again because that happen only once. now on he can only tolerate someone enough to marry her, but will not be in love with that person. once when talking he said that that girl has 90% of his heart, and he did see her at walmart with her husban, and he said it should have been him with her. and don't even remember if he told me all this. the fact that he dont remember saying them concerned me. for THEREFORE I HAVE NO FEELING FOR HIM ANYMORE . IM JUST TRYING TO BE WITH HIM, BUT IM NOT SURE I CAN DO IT. need help thank you