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Dear Son,

You have your own smart phone, and you have access to the family computer, too. I realize you know how to use these devices more than I do. I also realize that if you want to know anything, it's not hard for you just to Google it and find thousands of websites that will tell you about anything you want. But there are just some things that Google can't tell you; like whether Stephanie in your second period really likes you or not. It also can't tell you whether you should try out for the soccer team or the swim team.

Another thing that Google can't tell you about is pornography. I realize in this information age that you have probably already seen pornography (or at least have had friends show you). I also realize that, despite my best efforts, I can't shelter you from the Internet. And no matter how hard you try not to, you'll probably come across pornography, anyway.

So instead of pretending that you may not see pornography I'm going to talk to you more about when you see pornography.

First off, let me just say that there's a reason pornography is a multi-billion dollar business. A lot of men view it because it's exciting, and they find it attractive. As a boy yourself, you will, too. Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed by it when you see it and like it. It only means that you're human.

Second, don't let the excitement of it overrun you. It's fake. There's a reason they call the people in the videos actors — because they're acting. Real sex isn't like what you see online. It's not as loud, wild and vulgar. And it's not supposed to be that way, either. Pornography is widely made for men and meant to appeal to men's fantasies. As a result, producers create videos that are going to be the most enticing to men. But real sex isn't just for men. It's for women, too. And if you measure your sex life by what you see in the videos, you're going to be disappointed because it won't all be about you. Don't be the kind of guy who only wants his selfish desires satisfied. Your wife will like sex, too if you do it right — if you focus on her, too. And when you both enjoy it together, it'll be a lot better than anything you see online.

Third, even if you like what you see in the videos, that doesn't mean you'll like it in real life. Again, this goes back to the fact that the people in the movies are actors. They're supposed to act like what they're doing is great and wonderful — that's what sells the videos. But don't let the videos tell you what you should or shouldn't like. Don't let them tell you what you should or shouldn't do with your wife, either. And definitely don't let them tell you what your wife should like or what your wife should do. That's for you and your wife to figure out together.

Fourth, pornography really can destroy a person. I know, I know. Millions of men view pornography, and they're not all perverts or deviants. And I know that most of the men who view pornography are regular, average productive citizens. Nevertheless, pornography really can destroy a person. It creates unrealistic expectations that will leave you unsatisfied sexually. It'll leave your wife unsatisfied sexually. And you'll be tempted to leave an otherwise great relationship. Or you'll get kicked out because it makes your wife unhappy.

I'm happy to talk about whatever questions you have. And I sincerely mean it when I say that I'd rather have you ask me whatever questions you have than to ask Google. I'm not perfect, so I can't guarantee that I'll always have the answer, and I can't guarantee that I'll always take the questions well. But I will talk with you about it. And we'll be able to find an answer together. All my love,

Dad. www.naijamember.com/2015/09/07/dear-son-what-i-wish-you-knew-about-porn

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This picture went viral yesterday on Facebook. It purportedly shows a bunch of teen boys sexually assaulting another boy. It was taken in Chicago and the alleged assault is seen in the rear of a selfie taken by a girl. Some say it's fake/a prank, but others who are taking it seriously have contacted the Chicago police asking them to investigate the photo. See it after the ...
www.naijamember.com/2015/06/14/shocking-photo-teenager-being-abused-by-his-classmates-viewers-discretion

President Goodluck Jonathan on Monday said his administration had nothing to hide in respect of the claim by a former Central Bank of Nigeria Governor, Lamido Sanusi, that $20bn oil money was not remitted to the Federation Account by the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation.

To prove this, he said he had directed that the full report by PriceWaterHouse which was commissioned to carry out a detailed investigation into the activities of the NNPC be made public immediately.

Jonathan, in a statement in Abuja by his Special Adviser on Media and Publicity, Reuben Abati, also described the allegation by the All Progressives Congress that his officials were embarking on last minute illegal actions as “unfortunate and uncharitable.”

Buhari had while receiving an APC delegation from Adamawa State on Sunday, expressed surprise that instead of probing the allegation by Sanusi ,who is now the Emir of Kano, the Jonathan-led Peoples Democratic Party administration chose to fire him.

He stated that since Sanusi’s claim was documented, his administration would take a look at it after the May 29 handover date.

Buhari said, “On the issue of corruption, I heard that some people have started returning money. I will not believe it until I see for myself.

“You all remember what the Emir of Kano talked about when he was the governor of the CBN. He said $20bn, not N20bn, was unaccounted for; they said it was a lie. Instead of investigating it, they sacked him. And God in his infinite mercy made him the Emir of Kano. In any case, that is what he wanted. And since this was documented, our administration will take a look at it.”

Sanusi had written a letter to Jonathan that $49bn was not remitted to the Federation Account by the NNPC.

But following the controversy which the letter generated, a committee was set up to reconcile the account.

Sanusi later recanted and said the unremitted fund was $12bn. He later changed the figure to $20bn.

But Abati, in his statement, said Jonathan was concerned by the continuing suggestions that his administration had anything to hide on the allegation.

The statement read in part, “President Jonathan is also deeply concerned by the continuing suggestions that his administration still has anything to hide about the unproven allegation that about $20bn is unaccounted for by the NNPC during his tenure.

“To lay the matter to rest, President Jonathan in line with Section 7(2) of the NNPC Act, has directed that the full report of the PWC Forensic Audit of the NNPC accounts be released immediately to the public so that all Nigerians will be properly informed on the matter.”

When journalists asked Abati why Jonathan had to wait until Buhari said he would look into Sanusi’s allegation before making the audit report public, he said he did not know the circumstances in which the President gave the directive.

He said all he knew was that the issue had been in the public domain for a long time and that there was the need to lay it to rest.

Abati gave assurance that Jonathan would continue to do his best to ensure a smooth handover to the President-elect but regretted what he called the unfairness and combative frame of mind reflected in a recent statement by the APC’s spokesman, Lai Mohammed.

He said that as the APC’s spokesman threatened in his statement, the incoming administration would be perfectly within its rights to review all actions of the present government as it might deem fit.

Abati added that there was nothing wrong with that because the Jonathan government also reviewed the actions of previous governments on assumption of office with resultant benefits for policy and project implementation.

Abati’s statement explained, “We have noted with concern, the allegation by the spokesman for the APC, Alhaji Mohammed, that officials of the Federal Government are engaged in ‘last-minute looting of the nation’s resources, rushed privatisation of key institutions and hurried recruitment into the public service’.

“We also consider as most unfortunate and uncharitable, the suggestion by Alhaji Mohammed that the Jonathan administration is trying to “tie the hands” of the incoming government merely by continuing to discharge its constitutional responsibilities until the end of its tenure.

“The Jonathan administration which continues to do its best to ensure a smooth and peaceful handover of power to the President-elect deeply regrets the unfairness and combative frame of mind reflected in Alhaji Mohammed’s statement.

“President Jonathan has done his best in the past five years to discharge his constitutional responsibilities for good governance and effective leadership of the nation.

“Without any prejudice whatsoever to the freedom of the incoming administration to do as it pleases, within the confines of extant laws when it assumes office, the Jonathan Administration will continue to discharge its responsibility to govern until May 29, 2015.

“In continuing to fulfil the obligations of his office however, President Jonathan has not, and will never condone any form of unscrupulous conduct on the part of state officials.

“President Jonathan will also never authorise any attempt to create any problems for the incoming administration as the APC spokesperson, who ought to know that the outcome of the March 28 presidential election does not imply a cessation of governance, unjustly alleges.

“As Alhaji Mohammed threatened in his statement, the incoming administration will be perfectly within its rights to review all actions of the present government as it may deem fit.

“We see nothing wrong with that. After all, the present administration reviewed the actions of previous governments on assumption of office with resultant benefits for policy and project implementation.” www.punchng.com/news/missing-20bn-oil-money-i-have-nothing-to-hide-jonathan-tells-buhari

Commercial banks have sent marketers, mostly females after newly-elected senators and members of the House of Representatives in Abuja to open discussions on investments and other business deals.

The energetic, sweet-talking and mostly female marketers, flooded the International Conference Centre, venue of an ongoing induction course for the new arrivals on Monday.

Investigations by The PUNCH showed that the target of the banks largely was to woo the lawmakers to open accounts with them.

Some of the smartly dressed marketers also offered loan opportunities they claimed their banks could guarantee with “friendly repayment terms.”

Over 290 members of the House for example, are newcomers, out of the total of 360.

In the Senate, about 69 senators are also newcomers, out of 109.

Findings showed that the marketers started tracing the lawmakers since Sunday night when Senate President, David Mark, declared the induction programme open at the Transcorps Hotel, Abuja.

“They flooded the Congress Hall of the hotel Sunday night.

“They didn’t give the lawmakers breathing space, as they offered all sorts of facilities (loans) and seeking to maintain their accounts,” a senior legislative aide confided in The PUNCH on Monday.

A member of the House earns around N27.9m every quarter as official allowance.

Presiding officers and other principal officers receive higher figures.

This excludes a monthly salary of N1m.

Senators collect over N30m as quarterly allowance and receive higher salaries than their House counterparts.

The PUNCH gathered that the practice over time was for the banks to compete among themselves to attract as many of the lawmakers as possible to maintain the lawmakers’ accounts.

“In the end, many lawmakers get loans in amounts ranging from N50m to upward of N200m.

“They will be here for four years and it is understandable that the banks see this as a window for quick returns,” one National Assembly official told The PUNCH.

However, investigations indicated that there were several cases of lawmakers who failed to repay the loans before the expiration of their tenure, leading to disputes between the two sides.

In 2011, a particular new generation bank withheld the severance packages of many members and also seized their assets, owing to failure to meet up with their loan obligations.

One marketer, who gave her name simply as Elina, told The PUNCH that there was nothing wrong with seeking for “investment opportunities.”

She argued that being new in Abuja, most of the members needed information on sources of funding to assist them in settling down for the business of legislation.

“We know how it is; there will be accommodation challenges.

“Some need funding for transportation even before they get their official votes for vehicles and other support services.

“So, the banks are there to provide these support services by way of funding,” she added.

The National Assembly and its bureaucracy, including the National Assembly Service Commission, has a total budget of N120bn this year.

The figure was a drop from the N150bn it had enjoyed since 2007.
www.punchng.com/news/banks-use-female-marketers-to-woo-senators-reps-elect

Lol. Wetin person no go see? Sunshine Akure football club players, Kunle Ebenezer Odunlami and Prince Aggrey (pictured above) have been suspended from playing a match and fined N50,000 each for stripping while celebrating a goal during a match against Dolphin football club on Sunday April 19th. So, they removed shirt and it wasn’t enough and they removed their shokoto? Lol..