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Beats me
Dude, Black chics have,
1. Full freely moving Big 4ss
2. Sweet pnany
3. Nice b00bs
4. Nice non multi-color skin
5. Lovely non garlic odour mouth
6. Lovely tone of moaning
7. Nice view on doggy style
8. The right amount of violence in ecstacy
9. Good hand size to contain your dik while stroking
10. Lovely ecstatic eye response to 4xing

WHY ON EARTH ARE YOU GOING EAST ?
, anyway www.ratedesi.com

I hope you realise your weird fantasies, they disciminate alot though so plenty of luck to you,

"Watch movie with me under desame blanket"

In ya father's house or in ya own house ?

agathamari:
the ONLY relationship that is based on intimacy is between a pr0stitute and her "john". marriage even simply dating is sooo much more and beyond intimacy. if you are getting married and intimacy is your biggest/most important issue, your not old enough to get married

You obviously did not read the post properly.

Girl846:
You have brought forward valid questions and issues. However, the stigma attached with premarital intimacy is not of a social origin but a religious origin.

I do not intend to preach but provide a religious perspective.

Nigeria is a religious nation and both Muslims and Christians frown upon pre-marital intimacy according to what is instructed in the holy books (Bible/Qu'ran).
With this in mind, for those that are religious, it is not a matter of what we want and what we feel is best for us. God has spoken and we have to obey his commandments or be ready to for the consequences (Hell). God knows what is best for us.

Having said this, from a religious stand point, God's word is final and all the points you have brought forward are INVALID!

So you don't think that people are being miss lead in the name of religion ?
I mean this same way of thinking ( NOT ASKING QUESTIONS BECAUSE IT'S GOD'S WILL ) is responsible for a lot of miss deeds in the name of religion, There probably could be a valid point from a religious perspective, but I don't think ( Because God says so. is enough to guide humans who think and reason )

rosyhayler:
naturally, i know most of us guys what  want to know how it is,  what they do in all those pornographic videos,  but they still cant get enough,  i believe its simply juvenile,  but i found out that even adults are crazed about it,  it happened that i entered a store to get my toiletries and this shabbily dressed woman (although she go think say she don dress) was standing right in front of me,  and some thing fell from her hands while arguing with the store attendants,  as she bent down to pick it up, she noticed that

 i was starring at the dvd that dropped , and she tried to act coy by telling me that i should look at my kids (e wo awon omo yin) 

  "my kids" in question was a series of ghastly  looking pictures of bared backsides and the two glories sitting right on the chest of a woman. , and u can imagine what else graces the front and back page of such a video .(of course, its nothing I've never seen before, ) ,
who asked her question?but she just had to justify herself


a friend  of mine is like a freak,  he buys them week by week ,  my opinion, is that if you wanna Do It,  improvise,  create your own styles cus they created theirs,  and find a real live woman,


is it them or just me?    don't get me wrong ,  i don't have any problem with it, but it just occurred to me that ,  its kinda sick ,  looking at it over and over ,  that's suffering you know!,   and one last question i wanna ask,  is it healthy?

It's healthy, not every one is a genius in inventing their own styles and some styles get old, some people watch to get aroused in case where there's that problem, although the frequency described could be not so healthy, it should not be cast on stone as BAAAD.

There's a brighter side to this oh.
, your Son might be another Obama.
Don't you like to be the father of the next US president ?

Anything can happen if only you can dream.

Ebonyeyes:
I think you broke the unwritten code of friendship. Im sure you sleep with one eye open and pray before you eat anything in that kitchen

I think your'e right in a way, But those rules break down fast in a situation like this were a very sexy Nigeiran with very admirable female features seduces a man and I tried to complain, without success. Should I just have blurted out that "I don't want to have to have sex with my firends sis" ?
It wasn't as simple as that.

coded guy:
There is a difference between dating and just banging

should he be informed about the 'just banging' of his lil sis?

Exactly this is not a exactly dating thing, we are good friends as in we understand each other to the extent that we can carry out a conversation with as little words as possible, But she's getting ready to get married to some one else and even asking me for tips, This same girls get's upset when I try to insinuate that our thing together is just fun.

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc]na wa ooooo!!!
see confessions ooooo. KAI!
who is more important to you. the friend or the girl? your decision should be based on that.
try and make amends with the friend (if he is more important to you) and dump the girl.
but either way, dump the girl! unless the toto is too sweet.[/color]

This girl is really sweet. I'm sure how best i can describe tha without saying raunchy stuff, she's got good it feels exceptionaly good almost everytime. And when i'm on her case, I cant see her trying to grab smthing with her lips open and eyes dreamy. Barely able to say a word completely, crazy me always try to make her say somthing by asking question during thw act, point is we both enjoy it, but she's a good friend aswell, outsise the sack, we gel on most levels, but she has amone else. And i'm trying to move on, macho man has not worked, o see myself falling back every time, need some serious practical advise.

Okay make I talk true,
I am the friend and my guy's sis came on me full force and was hard to resist, but it's not that straight foward.

I and my pal lived together for some time now and his sis had to move in with us cause she got some admission for masters.
Now this chic's got a bf. and I don't but innocently i saw nothing wrong in hanging out when i'm free. which was very rare.

But I she kept comin into my room and spending hours upon hours at night that I started falling back in my routines, and when I complained she was disturbing me, every body else thought I was just making a fuss over nothing though brother didn't say anything, we started getting Then one day she made a move, and it happened. Since then she never stopped, kept coming for more sometimes four times a day and mostly three a day, I being some one who hadn't had it for a while(Yrs) Gave my best and seemed to score an A everytime from her response, Till once when her bro noticed the noise coming outa my room and confronted us.

Now the relationship btw I and my guy is not good, but lil sis couldn't give it up.
Kept telling how it's so good and soo big and all that, even when with he Bf. She still calls to say how I wasn't calling and not missing,

I thought of making it right with my guy, although I doubt that can ever happen again, but staying away from his sis is almost impossible. I contemplated even getting my own girl just to fend her off, but I haven't succeeded, I always have to resort to being outright nasty but it all seems to be worsening the case, yet she refuses to break up with her bf.

not sure what to do now

What if he's got good intentions ?
But what if you don't feel comfortable with the idea of him being with your lil sis.

If you caught your lil sist of 23 having intimacy with your best friend, what do you do ?

What if you found your sister was the one who seduced ?

What do you do ?

Well I think the related topic (https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-158.0.html) is so crowded and did not really address my concerns so i'll explain properly and hope for fresh opinions.
So please Oga moderators please spare us this one it's not a duplicate but an attempt to a more focused discussion


There's this general belief that premarital intimacy is so bad and as a mater of fact it's a crime to society.


Questions:

1. What if you find out after marriage that your partner's sexual appetite does not come close to yours ?
    a. Do you become unreasonable and demand it anyway even if your partner is disgusted/exhausted/not into your thing ?
    b. Do you go out looking for satisfaction outside marriage
    c. Do you live the rest of your life knowing that part of your life will never be fulfilled till the day you die.

2. What happens if you find out after marriage that you man can't get it up for some reason beyond his control(may be medical or Mental conditions)
   a. Do you get a Divorce ?
   b. Do you stay in the marriage ?
   c. Do you look for satisfaction outside your marriage

3. Most guys say they would prefer their ladies to be virgins. case in point( https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-158.0.html )
But most also want them to be very good in bed( No one is good at anything me feel without schooling practice )
you can attest to this point by the Calabar girls and the Maiden school where they are thought to treat a man in bed and all round, I'm sure a lot of Naija guys know or have heard about Calabar girls.

Case in point:

I personally used to think this way, but NOT any more, I'd rather have a wife I'm cool with her personality all round than have a virgin who turns out to be disgusted by me later, the of living an un-interesting rest of my life is not worth it. As long as we are both healthy and disease free.
I mean intimacy is intimacy, even married couples who stray are advised to forgive their wives cause there are more important things once you are married.


4. The Church was vehemently against a lot of things e.g
    a. (Using a Condom) I read a while back that the Catholic church stood vehemently against the use of condoms but in todays world, it's supposed to be the norm.
    b. Homosexuality (The Anglican church is at loggerheads with itself because some Priests are now receptive to homosexuality while other are still dead against it)
    c. Premarital intimacy
   d. If you ask Pastors and marriage councellors, There's has been a lot of troubled marriage due to sexual incompatibility, These things don't get said often but they happen and there have been countless marriages broken because of them.
   e. And so many more but above are relevant to this topic.


Now given number the above,

---- Should people still have it at the back of their mind that premarital intimacy is entirely bad ?

---- Is it really a bad thing or it's just religious and societal brainwashing  ?

---- And yes a lot of values have been placed on intimacy, while rightly so,  isn't it depriving the more important things from being enjoyed ?

If you think about it there are pros and cons in every thing, Including premarital intimacy and we could spend the whole day stating them but there are also downsides to not having premarital sexual knowledge of your partner.

Okay NLanders please try in your best way to analyse this issue in your mind before you state your opinion for others to learn from, Including myself, you'll be helping a lot of people too.

Ps: Refrain from personal attacks and or slanderous statements so that every post on this thread would not be a wast of time, Other attempts to discuss this topic have been riddled with un-necessary comments and personal discussions. Please co-oporate so that this does not re-occur.