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MRbrownJAY: exactly the point i was making in my first example of people who have lost the plot in life.......how can love automatically be there when you have success, but non existant without it?! is success the new breeding ground for LOVE?! just because some golddiggers will be attracted to your money/success, doesn NOT mean that this is LOVE, lol!

obviously, any person who is attracted to you when you are successful, but dont even SEE YOU when you are not, means that your success is what attracted these people to you, NOT your person. so if anyone has the audacity to call that "love", it should simply be love for your MONEY/SUCCESS, and not love for your person (which is what we are talking about here).

That's what I pointed all depended on what people call success

lool Actually...I don't know why you need to be compared to others African countries, the most important is to work for yours
The only thing you'll have on here is a derailed topic and full of insults replies.

frank3.16:
Some pple never seem to amaze me. Have u actually read his post to understand what he means by control. Don't jst block ur mind to what he has to say just because u heard d word "control".
lookin at it d poster is makin a lot of sense. It is obvious that women are attracted to men who command respect and seem to be in charge of their world and d women they date. Or would u like to date a man u can slap? Or a man u you can't respect or a man who begs you all time acting confused. Jst b truthful to urself and stop misunderstanding because u heard d word control.

I've read in fact but I was answering to his last statement and it's good when people amaze you it means they're spontaneous

richarts: Morning Nayah... I think I already did that in my first expression.

But you what's more important? maybe both?

tai2: You

Your argument assumes that a woman is a rational creature. I've met many an irrational one in my time and most women do things that defy logic so true control is required. Read through Nairaland and you'll see examples of women doing things that defy logic and rational thinking and then you tell me how such women will sit down and listen to explanations. Lol.

My dear brother...control and advise are different terms....

tai2: This is not about "remote" controlling someone ....it's about self-control and staying in the driver's seat of your relationship before a woman drives you to another destination. You have way too many young men acting the fool and giving up control of their relationships to their own ruin. The other day someone's girlfriend here slapped him and he started crying ...even came to Nairaland to post. How bad can it get?

A man needs to maintain control lest he gets controlled. It's that simple.

No, people has to control themselves, your wife is not your child sorry. Now you can talk to her to make her understand her role in your couple ( moral, values ...) but I'm sorry you can't control your wife as you can do it for your child, that's a mistake

Poster, why do you want to control her? don't you trust her? if not you can have headache because if she wants to cheat on you she will and without your knowledge. I truly believe that when you're with someone you should'nt try to control her, but support her and complete her ( same for guys) or else you can be very sad

Good morning poster
Depends on how you can define "success" for some people having a family is a success while money could be associated to it