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Hi,

Could you please check the following vehicle vin number for me, thanks.

4T1BE32K72U568148

Thanks a bunch, please email me at: chinwezemma@yahoo.com

Thanks you very much!!!

Hi Guys,

yours sincerely requires a 3 b/room flat in Ogba, Ikeja by the end of July.

U can reach me on 08099441458, pls text me so dat I can call u.

Estate agents pls kindly text me if u have any.

Cheers guys.

I don’t know how long this will take you to digest but I will really appreciate the time, effort and your candid feedback after reading this.

I am an Igbo boy working in Lagos. I have been seeking for a wife for some time now and I have prayed fervently for this. Then early this year, I met a beautiful young woman, for some reasons, my heart went out to her which was unlike me, she is a 3rd year student and am not in the habit of asking students out, in fact I was looking for a working class lady whom I can build a happy home together with, at least to support my income. But when I met this lady, everything changed, she was different from all the working class girls I have gone out with. She was homely, friendly, beautiful, loving, caring, from my tribe and state, God-fearing, etc.
We fell in love with each other almost instantly and we could not spend a day without calling and texting each other on the phone, due to the distance (she studies in Enugu) in fact we had to wait for three months before we first made love after which our bond grew stronger. Then, I even asked her personal things like her genotype, blood group, etc. which even made her nervous some times when I ask her such kind of questions. I asked her if she was seeing another guy of which she said no. I then told her my intentions about marrying her. Initially, she thought that I was joking but when she saw that I was serious, she started telling her family about me and they were all looking forward to seeing me one day. She also asked me if I could wait for one more year before marrying her as she wants to finish her studies before getting married to her future husband and I told her that I don’t mind provided that she would be faithful and true to our commitment.
Then my parents were disturbing me about introducing my future wife to them. I always told them that I have not found anyone and that I am still waiting on the lord. One day, I realised that sometimes we ask God for a favour in prayers and even when He grants us those favour, we fail to realise that God has indeed answered our prayers and we keep asking him for the same thing. Then, I asked myself, why not tell my parents about this young woman I have met and fallen in love with. After much thought, I told my parents about her, they inquired to get all the details about her family background, etc.
That was when my nightmare started. My father whom claims to be devout Anglican but still goes to consult oracles in my village went to see one of the oracles in my village and he got back to me saying that he was told that the marriage will not work out and in fact that I should stop seeing my girlfriend. My mum also went to see a so called man of God who repeated almost the same story. I now asked them, if there is any bad revelation from God seen in the spiritual realm, it means that one can counter the issue through prayers so that it won’t manifest in the physical. They said no way, that I can’t solve any issue with prayers and that I should look elsewhere. I told them that I love this lady and she even loves me more but all my pleas fell on deaf ears. I then resorted to consult my own men of God. I did that and the two men of God gave me an opposite revelation from what my parents told me. They said that the lady is very good, from a good family and with a good heart and that she even loves me more than I knew. They also said that I should not hurt her because she might not recover from the hurt (she tells me this whenever we talk, that I shouldn’t break her heart because she wouldn’t know what else to do with her life if I dump her). When I told my parents about my own side of revelations, they rejected it and even threaten me that they will never consent or give their blessings to my proposed marriage. It even got to a stage that they don’t pick my calls till I communicated to them that am no longer seeking my girlfriends’ hand in marriage after which they stopped ignoring me. Even at some time, I decided not going ahead with my marriage plans to my girlfriend. It was then that I discovered that I truly love her and even if I decided to back-out from the relationship, how do I tell her because I have not even told her anything about the disagreement I and my parents are having all the time concerning my proposed marriage to her.
One other theory they used in discouraging me was my elder brother’s marriage which collapsed after he married a girl they did not approve of initially and my brother later found out that his wife whom was a student at the time of their marriage was still dating her school boyfriends, this was just weeks after their traditional marriage and they were preparing for their white wedding.
I strongly understand that marriage is not boyfriend-girlfriend-dating, it’s for real and for life, but I also believe that one should marry someone he/she loves. My parents have lived their own lives and in their own time they did not go through all that I am going through now before they got married and it still worked out very well. It is also true that an Igbo adage says that only one person does not marry a woman, when a man marries a woman into his family, the woman is literally married to every member of the family. I understand all this but am confused and it’s hurting me inside. Please kindly advise me on what else to do because I love this lady in question and I know she loves me even more. I have tried dating some other girls since then but at the moment I don’t feel for them anyway near what I feel for my girlfriend and I don’t want to lose her too.