Pretttywoman:
I just checked this morning and I've been shortlisted. Kindly check again

Please how did you check. Is there any list available? I only saw finger print capturing and does it mean I have been shortlisted

Hello, please how were you able to treat high cholesterol without side effects.. I was diagnosed of high cholesterol after battling high blood pressure for years . My doctor prescribed Statin but I read about some side effects. Someone recommended a supplement vida max but I don't know if anyone has taken any of those I like with results and no side effects
Who has ever been diagnosed with high cholesterol please and how did you treat it . Thank you

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Hello, please how were you able to treat high cholesterol without side effects.. I was diagnosed of high cholesterol after battling high blood pressure for years . My doctor prescribed Statin but I read about some side effects. Someone recommended a supplement vida max but I don't know if anyone has taken any of those I like with results and no side effects
Who has ever been diagnosed with high cholesterol please and how did you treat it . Thank you

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bdchange:
@OP.. you must put your words into action. Sit her down and tell her what you have observed about her and the bad attitude it is displaying to her siblings. Lists the consequences of how her acts could affects the relationship with her siblings. Tell her to stand tall whenever the other girl wants to bully her. Assure her that you will stand by her no matter what happened. You also need to tell the other woman to control her bully daughter or you talk to the father direct. I cant allow my daughter/sonr become a bully when I can stop it. Do it now before it turns your daughter to something else. You can now pray after you have done those tips i listed. Gracias...

Thank you

eyinjuege:
Ask your daughter to limit going to their apartment. If you guys weren't related, I doubt she would be going there so often.
Also ask her to speak up and let her cousin know when she is hurt. Teach her to soro soko, and to stand up for herself.
Let her understand she can limit her interaction with children that make her feel less of a person.
Perhaps enrol your daughter in after school activities like tennis, martial arts, piano lessons, swimming etc once or twice a week. That will definitely help boost her self confidence and make her look forward to something else/keep her busy too.
If she is able to mix with other children, her cousin's influence won't be so important to her

Thank you so much..this is really helpful

mariahAngel:


How old is she and the cousin?

8 and 9

jesmond3945:
I am talking from experience. We are surrounded by bullies and the way to destroy a bully is to starve them of attention. Your daughter has to downgrade the relationship with her cousin for sanity sake. She has to start avoiding her and look for people who would make her happy. This would make to heal and get herself back. Ultimately open confrontation is very much okay, your daughter can tell the cousin to stop with warning from further insults. However, this method would strain the relationship and make them enemies. I think the cousin is acting based on what her parents told them about you. So this shows your in laws don't really like you. So let her downgrade the relationship and only talk to her when is absolutely necessary.

My hubby are her brother are not in good terms at all but their mum is really cool Asin my mother in-law. My mother in-law have warned me too about allowing my children come there cause of her bully. She personally warned me on several occasions after I observed myself

jesmond3945:
I think you have to speak to your daughter, mother to daughter. It is evident that the cousin is a bully and this experience is not good for her mental health. I think she has to maintain a not so friendly relationship with the cousin and also give back to the cousin in her own coin. Only say what is needed and no more, just like colleagues in the office. Your daughter is trying to please the cousin to her own detriment. You have to talk to her about the dangers of this or else she might develop anxiety which would damage her eventually.

Thank you, you nailed it..how do I start telling her. Even today I tried she told me her cousin always her things that hurt her

budaatum:

Not only is your daughter suffering from the effects of her cousin making her feel inferior, but she is doing to her own siblings exactly what her cousin is doing to herself to make them feel inferior too.

The good thing is "it makes her withdrawn most times and she complains to me", which shows she does not like it when done to her so should not be doing it to her siblings.

You just need to learn how to fit the [url=https://classic.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+18%3A21-35&version=KJV]Parable of the Unforgiven Servant[/url] into a lesson for your daughter, and she will be healed, because the mere fact that you have noticed it early is God's Grace in itself.

You nailed it, my daughter would have succeeded with her sister but that one na akpo, she no dy hear but she kind of trying to succeed with her brother

Bola146:
You need to teach your daughter how to do good instead of bad, one on one, don't personalize your own with them, they might be good friends but you are thinking she hate your daughter, no matter how any bad it is. She is still young to harbour hatred in her mind. Just tell her to always love her siblings equally with others too and be careful. Don't discourage her please

You don't know this girl at all..she is just taking advantage of my daughter's kindness. Whenever there is an issue with other children in the compound she will always side them against my daughter and when any of there other cousins start visiting.. Now my Second daughter is exactly the opposite of the first but she stays clear from her and even respect her more cause that one you can't even intimidate her at all but my first daughter will take the cousins side whenever they have issues. I am afraid it will get worse than this

We live in a family compound with my family and my hubby's elder brother but separate apartments. My first daughter and my hubby's first daughter are always same age but she is older than my daughter with just a year. This my hubby's daughter always finds every opportunity to always attack my daughter verbally and it always get to her, it makes withdrawn most times and she complains to me. My daughter in the other hand will always attack her younger siblings in her favour, she will always wanna be in good terms with her cousin but she is always taking advantage of it to treat her anyhow. There was a time she wanted to borrow a book from her to complete her home work cause her textbook wasn't ready and her mother gave it to my daughter but she collected it on her way upstairs to our house but my daughter will always place her first. Like if her maternal grandma comes she will chase them out of their apartment but when my mum comes my daughter will invite her and her siblings and she will benefit from all she brings. BTW, my daughter is always herself every where else, she is confident too any other place but not with her cousin. She always finds one way or another to bring my daughter down. I think that environment is not healthy for her. Please I need an advice from you guys

PrimadonnaO:


Good. So fear not. Just correct him constantly. In no time, you’ll forget he was ever a timid boy.

Plus, pray a lot. This thing with children. You can’t always get it right just by your power. The grace of God is needed.

Thanks you, hope he changes

bukatyne:




I hope you know they are both markers of low self esteem.

So your problem is not that he has a low self esteem, your problem is not the bullying, your problem is that he is the victim for now.

Thanks for your honesty



Let your husband treat him the way he was treated to produce the current result.

You have nothing to be worried about madam.

Thank you

Takotsubo:
@ Netochi,
I understand how heartbreaking it is to watch your child being pushed around..you just wish you could get up and fight the fight for them..

Some children are more sensitive than others and are generally more anxious around other people so may have a hard time sticking up for themselves.

Have you asked him why he is scared? Explore that fear with him and talk about the times you were scared and the things you did to combat the fear.

You should encourage him and tell him it's alright to feel afraid but he can learn to be brave.

I know it's hard but don't mock his crying ,hold him, empathize with him.

Tell him.that he is wonderful,amazing, beautiful human being and that he always makes you proud.

When he has that confidence from home,it will translate into his interaction with people on the outside.

You can also enrol him in a self defense class with an understanding sensei.

That will boost his self confidence.

NB: I felt offended that you said he acts like a low IQ child...he is a child that loves his peace and even if he is low IQ,I'm sure he is a wonderful person..your job is to make him know that you love him and you don't think less of him.

I feel ashamed to use the word "low IQ" but watching my son been pushed around can be heartbreaking. He does not even have a mind of his own most times. I really need him to be tougher and I thought a military school will mould him. A secondary school

bukatyne:


Have you conversed deeply with him to know what the problem is?

Are you too hard on him compared to his baby sister?

And please no military school until you discover what the problem is.

You want him switch to bullying due to his low self esteem because he is now stronger.

I prefer he bullys than for him to be bullied

ibkayee:
Being bullied and having inferiority complex = low IQ?

Military school at the age of 7 to solve what has the potential to be something as serious as a developmental issue?

Yeesh, you sound like part of his problem

Not considering it now but an airforce or an army secondary school. That's what I meant

cricifixo:
You just described me when i was that age, free the young nigga, he will outgrow it & develop d confidence of a lion. I am a living example

Please how did you overcome it. I really want to know

PrimadonnaO:
Might be a trait from either you or hubby.

But then again, I strongly believe in nurture, that children in their formative years can be moulded and groomed into anything.

So, it’s up to you. Correct him every time you see him cower at way younger kids... tell him to not let other people bully him... if someone takes what belongs to him, he should boldly ask the person to give it back, or report to a teacher or someone older. Ensure you give him a demo of what he should say and how he should say it. Speak to him about the dangers of allowing other people bully him... tell him that bullies are cowards, and he shouldn’t be scared of them.

Infact, give him a demo for how he should react to things. Do this constantly. Plus I think it would be a lot more effective if your hubby would show him, too.

My hubby said he was like that but if you see my hubby now, people are afraid of him right now. He is very confident and a go getter right now

Please I need your help please. My Seven year old son behaves like someone that have inferiority complex, he get easily bullied even by little kids of 2years. It really breaks my heart to see it and even my younger daughter have started following that foot step though she is better than her elder brother. I don't know what to do to raise a stronger son who can stand up for himself. I plan to enrol him in a military school to harden him. Please I need your advice to raise my kids to be wiser, more confidence and brave