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Thanks everyone who have contributed to this issue I have in my family.
Thank God I have finally made my decision
Am very grateful once again.
Do have a nice day.
I can't mention all your names here
But everyone who have visited this thread you all are the reason for my happiness.

DonroxyII:
You need to Upgrade yourself too Bro in faculty she wants that You are lacking ...

Welcome to Gen Z Era.... Things Escalate faster nowadays thus go and learn the current trends Yourself and apply it on your woman ...

2015 to 2022 is a Gap of 7years and I wouldn't lie to You So many Spices has happened to Educations and Civilisations between those Gaps that You yourself are not in touch with !

To Safe Your Marriage, You need to Come to 2022 Civilisations in terms of Educations too..

Kindly Sponsor Yourself in advanced Education too or Programmes roll with Gen Z children ...

Your Wife is just catching Up with the Cruises of 2022 .... She is just Trying to Spice things Up for Herself ... Unfortunately She is a Selfish Type ... She coulda carry you go there but Most Women are Selfish anyway ....

She has Cum, Oya you too Go and Cum ...

You need to Watch Your Women, Understand Her Worlds and what makes Her Energetic and Depressed .... Then Develop the Keys to Control Her Switches as You Desire ... Only few men sabi !

Gentlemen, Go and Upgrade Yourself ... Your Wife is On Jet Age Now while You are still in 2015 Bro

I have that in mind
I only want her to finish school before I start my own.
But for now she will stay with her father.
After I upgrade myself I may still come back if our level match by than.

1Sharon:
Were you denying her sex at home?

As soon as your wife starts cheating, just know there's something that you are not doing, go down on your knees and pray, don't let another man break your home. Always appear neat the way you were the very first time you approached her and don't yell at her all the time, show her care and love so that she will not look outside, sometimes walk around naked and don't wear anything to bed, always try to catch her attention. Thanks and God bless you as you do so.

I know you are woman and will define her good.
But believe me I have not deny her se.x and she don't deny me too we are best friends.
To me she love me so much so I thought before now and I love her too and build my world around her she know everything about me.
I help her to do her domestic work at home.
I show her lots affection.
I have opportunity to sleep around but I don't do that because is not the right thing to do and I love my wife she is young and beautiful.
I make sure she look beautiful always.

DonroxyII:
are you educated
An uneducated man should not send his spouse to school without sending himself ...

You can't make your wife to become civilized while you remain uncivilized, She would drop Ya Black Ass ....

It can be comfortable for an aeroplane to Date a Car even if both of them started off on the Tarmac .

You wanna fly your wife be ready to be a high flyer yourself because the Gap in Civilisations will make you boring and Uninteresting to Her except she loves you Adequately well if not ...

Women Management is a Course Men need in 21st Century because it is anti Masculinity and anti Testosterone for a Man to Blame Woman for His Own Silliness ... That Dick ain't for Nothing as well as that Big Brain !

Use your Head not your Heart

Yes but am into business.

DonroxyII:
What is your level of Education?
Which degree is She Pursuing

I left nysc 2015 and started business.

Kollins11:
Baba, I put it to you that she was like that. Your wife is a wh0re but you were blinded by her fake love. She was waiting for a SIMPle man to wife her quickly so she could continue her dick gobbling from one man to another.

I'm 100% sure you went down on your knees proposing begging her to marry you. I'm happy you're learning the hardest way.

No she is not it all started in this her final year.

Kollins11:
What stupid advice do you need? Are you normal at all? dey swear for you? What kind of SIMPle breed are you?
I'm always angry when I read stories like this from a married man.

Never you wife a Nigerian liability wh0re but una no go hear. Your wife belongs to the street. I'm sure you saw lots of red flags when you both were dating but you were hoping she would change afterwards.

it's a total disrespect for a married woman to cheat on her husband. A Cheating wife can kill you one day. Thats the truth. Bundle her like firewood and kick her out of your house.

I would rather die than to marry a Nigerian liability wh0re. That gender are all useless... All of them.

You will not understand.

Stevenbright:
See! It is not an easy situation most especially if you are a faithful man yourself. But for you to easily come out of it unscathed, you have to face the reality.

Forget that you guys have gone through a lot together. If she remembers that, she will not do what she did. At this point, look out for your interest and that of your children only. And in all you do, remember that as a man, you don't forgive and continue to live with a cheating wife!

You life is precious, guide it with all diligence.

Thanks am grateful.

Lost the only best friend I think I have
The only one I trusted with my life.
I can't sleep I can't think I can't even eat
God have mercy for me to come out of this heart broke alive.

GboyegaD:
I can't advise you on what to do however, let her finish her exams and then bring up the issue. During the discussion, watch out for both verbal and non-verbal cues. Process them and pray to whatsoever you believe in to guide you.

You did no wrong sponsoring her education. It is part of what marriage is about so don't guilt trip yourself. Marriage is about uplifting one another and big kudos for you for bot trying to suppress your wife.

Most importantly, if you can, do not disclose anything happening in your home to friends and family. Come online to rant if you need to. If you choose to forgive her, those you tell may never.

In it all, I pray may the peace of the Lord that surpasseth human understanding be with you and may His Holy Spirit guide you and you home in this moment in Jesus Name, Amen.

Thanks am very grateful
I have not told any family member both from her side and my side.
In my tradition it's forbidden for me to eat from her pot since I have find out about her cheating and I can't sleep with her as well until she perform some ritual.
That's if I chose to forgive her in feature.

Advision:
You paid a caterer to prepare a meal for you. The caterer starts preparing it but is dishing out the meal you paid for to others.

You notice the fraud but will not challenge it because you are concerned the caterer may get distracted and burn the food. So you'll just wait till the caterer finishes cooking.

Bros, keep waiting there

My friend is the person that wear shoe no where is paining him.
One every body is not the same yes she have wrong me and humanity .
I can't pay evil with evil
Let her have the result that's my gift to her.
Bro we have come along way.
There was a time we don't have things to eat or clothes to wear but she was with me .
But today is different I was even planning to send her to UK by next year before I discovered this cheating.
But life goes on.
Am bagging God to heal my pain.
I keep my body for my wife alone even as she is living in school.
I don't have thought of looking after another woman.

smart177:
Whats your heart or inner self telling you on how to handle this !? make sure that you decide with a sound mind! dont let feelings guide you! think rationally!! YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH A LOT! THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

Thanks am grateful
I have been through alot
Hoping that things will work out hoping that am in the same chapter with her.
Believing that we will achieve alot together.
And bring up our children together.
But I was very wrong.
I was keeping my self being a nice guy or just like people here said simple guy.
Am very simple because I do everything at home no time this a man trying to love his wife and care for his family.
Why am very pained is that I don't cheat how I wish I do I will not be affected like this.
May God give me the grace to overcome this.
It's the biggest shock of my life.

Advision:
You claim your wife is cheating on you but you are bothered if telling her will affect her performance in her exams and how much you spent on her education..are you for real man?

Yes am for real
We went through alot together
She cheating on me is a very big mistake she chose to make for herself.
I don't want to take away the only last thing that can keep her moving that her results.
She can get work and continue her life. Reason I don't want to come between her success.
She have destroyed me around.
I will wait till after her exams just like I said before discussing it with her.

smart177:
Whats your heart or inner self telling you on how to handle this !? make sure that you decide with a sound mind! dont let feelings guide you! think rationally!! YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH A LOT! THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

Thanks alot am grateful.

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luluosas:
You mean your legally married wife, or your sin partner known as boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that you are calling wife? Let's get the point first

Legally married both traditional and wedding
Was done.

smart177:
I am so sorry for that.. but have you had any conversation with her regarding this? and how sure are you that she is cheating? do you have any evidence to back up your claims? or its just hearsay!

She deny it said her tradition forbid it but I have my evidence already.

hardon1:
How did you conclude she is cheating, did catch her cheating or you are just speculating

I have my evidence

grandstar:
She probably married you because you sent her to school and not for love. Even if the love was initially there, higher institutions are very immoral where youths want to taste life.

I would suggest you first confront her about her cheating. Tell her you suspect she is cheating, that you just have that inkling. Inform her that the day you catch her, that will be the end of the marriage.

The motive here is to get her to stop or better still, create the atmosphere to send her packing. It's like you are cleverly giving her a second chance. Perhaps, invite her family. Do not say you have any evidence. That it is just a hunch.

Why I say you should go this route is because you would have kicked her out already if you wanted to without seeking our advise. You are not so keen on kicking her out though the revelations has truly troubled you.

If she knows you have evidence, she will either beg for forgiveness or change her tactics. What you really, really want is for her to change her ways and be faithful.

You too need to be faithful (Read Hebrews 13:4).. it is double standard and hypocritical for you too to be engaging in adulterous acts and expecting her to put up with it. Perhaps, let her know you too will be faithful.

If she does not change, then do what you have to do.

Bro I don't sleep around I know only my wife and kids.

Xkale1996:
na fake story bro

I have evidence but I can't post it online.

Eagba:
how did you found out

I find out and I have something to back it up.

1Sharon:
As soon as your wife starts cheating, just know there's something that you are not doing, go down on your knees and pray, don't let another man break your home. Always appear neat the way you were the very first time you approached her and don't yell at her all the time, show her care and love so that she will not look outside, sometimes walk around naked and don't wear anything to bed, always try to catch her attention. Thanks and God bless you as you do so.

Thanks
But am doing all this thing's you mention I even take her out buy her unders and make her happy.
As am talking to you now I just sent her some money to her Account now.

ahnie:
Sir Gbos na only you make sensible comments
The first hyena and the second cheetah that commented were just yapping like imbe.ci.les displaying their acute stupidity insulting Nigerian women including the stupid mother's that birthed them.

To the op....I believe she has family,call for a family meeting.case close

I want to do that after her graduation.
I was her to finish her exam in peace if that's what she get from me am okay.
But am afraid of living with her after now.

Advision:
You must be a comedian

Am not
I spent alot on the education
And we both managed together when we have nothing and she was loving caring and above all understanding. I mate her vagin.

TayehJiboluwa:
It is very hard for a young wife that is still schooling not to cheat with her colleagues and other men. Most guys that did this regretted it, including a friend of mine. If I were you, I would make her sign a oath with her blood not to cheat on me before the commencement of her schooling. Both men and women do it anyway. This body is not wood. She can't stop now. Get sufficient evidence and show it to her parents and family then let her go, if you want to progress in life.

I have evidence already.

GboyegaD:
I can't advise you on what to do however, let her finish her exams and then bring up the issue. During the discussion, watch out for both verbal and non-verbal cues. Process them and pray to whatsoever you believe in to guide you.

You did no wrong sponsoring her education. It is part of what marriage is about so don't guilt trip yourself. Marriage is about uplifting one another and big kudos for you for bot trying to suppress your wife.

Most importantly, if you can, do not disclose anything happening in your home to friends and family. Come online to rant if you need to. If you choose to forgive her, those you tell may never.

In it all, I pray may the peace of the Lord that surpasseth human understanding be with you and may His Holy Spirit guide you and you home in this moment in Jesus Name, Amen.

Thanks am very grateful.

1Sharon:
Were you denying her sex at home?

Not at all I sent her to school
Each time she needs me I will send her transport to come over and we spend some good time together.before she go back to school.

Reading

Please if you know the best way I can handle this kindly share it with me please.
It's not easy on be.

Am grateful for all your advice it's going along way calming me down thanks.

Kollins11:
What stupid advice do you need? Are you normal at all? dey swear for you? What kind of SIMPle breed are you?
I'm always angry when I read stories like this from a married man.

Never you wife a Nigerian liability wh0re. Your wife belongs to the street but una no go hear. I'm sure you saw lots of red flags when you both were dating but you were hoping she would change afterwards.

it's a total disrespect for a married woman to cheat on her husband. Bundle her like firewood and kick her out of your house.

No she was not like that when I meet her
And we love each other we have children together.

All I needed is kind advise I believe we still have good people here on nairaland
Am so confused now.
I have told her about it she is still writing her final year exam I don't want her to fail exam because of this problem reason am keeping it to myself for now.