stint:
Even without hearing your bf's side of the story i know he has three problems at least:
1. He is broke
2. His girlfriend think he is incapable of helping him solve her problem. She thinks he is a distraction.
3. This girlfriend whom he loves has been trying to break up with him for some time now. Am sure he has been sensing it before u ever mentioned it.
But that does not matter since your own problems which neither I nor your bf knows about are a lot greater than the ones lifted above. Pls stop trying to be righteous. You want to break up. Its messy, it will be your fault, its grown up stuff, its not easy, its not pretty, but u have to do it. I want you to do it for the guy's sake. Dont offer him money. Try to tell him the REAL reason. I know most girls dont like to do that because they dont want their guys painting them black after thr break up. But dont worry about that. This one loves u. Be honest if u want him to get closure and think good thoughts about u when he finally gets over it.
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1 & 3 are correct. However, I have loved this man for a long time. We have been through ups and downs. I myself come from humble beginnings and money has never been a factor. I make my own money, always have & will. Money is a great servant but a horrible master. I only thought to offer him assistance be I personally know he needs it but would never ask. I simply wanted to help. Thank you for not accusing me of bribery like others have.
Yes, I have tried to break up with him twice within the last 3 months. It was a difficult conversation to even bring up at the first attempt. I know myself and I know the issue I'm trying to resolve. It is serious and somewhat embarrassing; It's hard for me to bring such matters to friends, family, or my bf. It's always been a struggle for me to depend on others. It makes me feel weak like I can't handle my own problems I usually go on a hiatus kinda until I sort it all out. It's been an effective way thus far except now I am in a relationship with presents another challenge. I know it's weird but it works for me. I am good at hiding and smiling through my personal stressful hell. I guess I learned how to as a kid...dunno. Thank you for not accusing me of being a "cheat" or "gold digger"
The bold is what is all boils down to. Very simply put, I need my energy and attention more than anyone else during my this difficult time.
It doesn't me I don't love him.

fuckshit:
I do fücking appluad your courage; it's not that fücking easy to tell someone you've been in a relationship with that your fücking breaking up ‘face to face’.

but as for the ‘breakup gift’ being cash that's a whole new different shït; you know him best & what his fücking going through @ the monent; but i can fücking say this most guys would love a fücking whole day of ‘breakup sex’

Lol...funny ooo. I honestly think it would send mixed signals which is why I will be sure to wear granny panties when I meet him this evening....lol

yorex2011:


Somethings are really not easy as they seem.. Emotions are not easy to tame... I dunno how to explain it... Just do what your heart tells you... I'm not trying to change your mind... Only trying to speak like i was him.. Cheers

Maybe I can also give him some break up loving...just kidding
Seriously, thanks for your advise sir.

yorex2011:
Dats why i said love is overrated.. You think he doesn't have his own personal life too... Sometimes you just need someone to encourage you.. Someone you can think of an smile...it can be painful na...I'm currently experiencing that pain...just be mindful of whatever you want to do... Cos it's your choice.. And if u regret later, its your fault... Noone here can change your mind... So be mindful and try to put yourself in his shoes.
Good luck

I have considered this and that is why I agreed to continue with him as til now. Before we began dating, we were good friends. It was a supportive relationship without any romance, we were there for each other without any dating relationship. I thought that friendship was d foundation of our relationship. I wonder how he can throw all of it away?? just because I am trying to figure out some personal issues...how is that love?

yorex2011:
Can't you just continue the relationship but tell him you need to focus on some things.. No need to end it.. Just let him knw you have higher priorities for now and that he shud understand that you really love him... Its important that he knws you still love him.. With time you'll get that "space" you need, and you'd respect him more. You don't need to end relationship to focus on other things...

I love and respect him. I hope to have a future with him one day.
How am I supposed to keep giving him my best when I dont feel good about my life. I know I may lose him. But sometimes I feel like I've already lost myself under the pressure of relationship obligations...my own emotional energy is low. I just ask him for consideration to allow me space and a little time to recharge. I love him no doubt and have told him this much.

ifex370:
girls n dia wahala... don't expect to change his emotions by bribing him

You think dat is what he will think?..it is not my intention

FLAWLES:
Me ion understand abeg

It's just not a good time for me.

temitemi1:
No amount can buy my love...

Am just hoping he knows it's nothing about him. I hope he can consider picking up with me in d future is he is still available

I've been trying to end my 2 year relationship for a few months. There are several reasons but the MAIN reason is that I am NOT happy with myself. I need to make some adjustments to improve my life and I need some space to refocus. I love him but I don't NEED to be in a relationship at this time with anyone. We promised each other that we would always be honest about how we were feeling. I reminded him of this when I tried to break things off six weeks ago. I told him that I would still be there for him if he needed anything. I respect him but I need to take care of some things in my peronal life that require my full attention.
I proposed that we go back to being friends but he rejected my offer. Even though we started as friends he said he isnt willing to have a friendship with me if I end the relationship. I don't think it's fair because I've been genuinely good to him. After much consideration and further frustration, I've decided to break it off tonight face to face. At the moment he is having some financial difficulties and I plan to gift him 40k to help ease the sting. I hope he undersatands that I sincerely care for him as I refocus on my own life.
Would you guys/ladies feel better if your honey left you with a break up gift?..or no??