Overcomming the Power of Anger.
With Bro John Okoronkwo

  (Proverbs 14:17
A quick-tempered man acts foolishly,)


Are you angry ? or do you used to feel very angry inside about  something that happen to you or some insult or embarrassment melted on you 
by someone.

There are lot's of people today that are very angry, some don't even  realize they are angry but they know something is not just alright with  them, and to many people they know they are angry and the keep that anger  against some one and let it go on.

Lot's of people have lot's their marriage ,  children , job and opportunities and many other things not mentioned  because of  anger.

Anger is a very dangerous thing, but there are good and bad anger so my question is , are you an angry person? if you are then I have come  with a remedy to that, and this remedy have worked for me because I used to be  a heated angry guy , and  believe me after reading this article it will mark  the end to your angry life.

Becoming Free from Anger Part 1.

Now how is you anger affecting you, there are different ways anger effect  a person, this is out of experience, it affect you
Mentally and  Spiritually

Anger have a terrible effect, I mean the bad Anger, but the good Anger is   to stand up against injustice, the bible does not say we should not be  angry , but good Anger does not heat up, it does not let you have grudges 
in mind, it does not let you have evil plan, it does not let you go for  revenge, it only let you say or demonstrate good justice, say the truth  when others are hiding from the truth, now let's look at
(Ephesians 4:26- 27 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath, neither give place to the devil.)


Now let me first write down what I think is the definition of anger  because anger is not just getting mad, some people will  say to another "men and  mad at you" that's not just what anger is all about.

(ANGER IS RAGE, A STRONG FEELING OF  DISPLEASURE, DISATISFACTION, UNWORTHY AS A RESULT OF A REAL OR IMAGINED THREAT,INSULT ,FRAUSTRATION OR INJUSTICE  TOWARDS YOURSELF OR OTHERS IMPORTANT TO YOU.)


So in this definition am saying that Anger deals with something that is  important to you, for example my dictionary called Anger (a strong feeling  of displeasure) in my Webster Collegiate Electronics Dictionary I see Rage as one of the definition of Anger, so let's look at Rage .

Rage is defined in the dictionary as : Explosive or violent and  uncontrollable Anger, and intense feeling., so no definition of anger is  good, and that's why you need to know how to handle Anger.

Now the the dictionary called it explosive or uncontrollable, I remember  one man saying this to me when  I ask him not to share his  feelings with people  and he said
( John I'm relieved that am talking to  you about this, and I’m happy you are telling me to calm down if not I would have  exploded and do something crazy) so this man rely on talking to people 
about his feeling in other to control  his anger, but am coming to  tell you  how you can do it without discussing your feelings to people because discussing it can ticking your Anger.

Now anger can lead you to death, and can lead you to do all kind of   destructive things, anger can lead you to face an opponent who is superior  than you and that can result to your own death  or injury.

Now this is one of the ways to overcome anger, stop talking about how some  one hurt your feelings or offend you, remember God will revenge for you,  am going to tell you how God revenges for you in one of my up coming article , now when you are discussing   your anger to people  you sound like this ( James  did this and   that to me, and I'm going to kill him, am going to destroy him , am  going to nail him down, and when you say this you will feel ashamed of  your self if you don't  do what you say, so your next move will be to do  what you have discussed with your friends lets they say you only talk without action).

Now lets look at what Solomon  said about an angry man (Provers 14:17  A  quick-tempered man acts foolishly)   Solomon the wise King now tell us the  easiest way to deal with anger and angry people, (Proverbs 15:1   A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger)

And he said on Verse 18 of the same chapter[b] (A hot-tempered man stirs up  dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel) [/b] a patience man is one who is  slow to anger, who think about the consequence of what he is going to do  or say.

King Solomon without doubt is the wisest man of his time, now he tell us   in[b] (Proverbs 16:32  32 Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who  controls his temper than one who takes a city) [/b]  It's better to be a 
patient man, humble your self no matter  your height , because if you want to  act that heatman stuff then  you will be the first target when the enemy  strikes.

And because Solomon know the true definition of anger he warn us to  dissociate from hot tempered human beings, a hot tempered friend can kill  his best friend, in Igbo language we call it (enyi mere enyiya) see 
(Proverbs 22:24-25 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not  associate with one easily angered or you may learn his ways and get  yourself ensnared).

Anger is dangerous, now listing the Mother of envy is Anger, Now tell me why a would a friend kill his  best friend if not envyiness like ( my friend is waxing 
strong than me, he is doing this and that than me, he is more brilliant in school  than  me, all this is related to anger), we will talk about why you can not be 
like your friend in my article which I  may title Destiny or What is  Destiny

Now back to Anger, the book of Ecclesiastes  put it this way (7:9 Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools,) so who ever ignore this advice is defined as a fool by the author of  Ecclesiastes.
So my question is this, do you want to have a fool as a friend?, do you  want to have a fool as your business partner?, I know you answer will be NO. So be far away from an angry man or woman.

And to my brothers who are not yet married, the worst thing that could   happen to you is to get married with an angry woman no matter how beautiful  or education she is, Solomon said in (Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell 
in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.) Solomon   the wise king compared dealing with an angry woman and living in desert, 
so many people have traveling to Libya by road and you don't wanna have  their experience because every road leading to Libya is  desert according to some of my  friends who have been there.

Now back to general Anger not just that of a woman, Cane killed his   brother Abel because of Anger, (Genesis 4:8.  And it came about when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against  Abel his brother and killed him)

So anger is something that can defeat your spirit if you are not strong  and do things you can't do under normal circumstance , when anger  overpower your spirit it's actions  generate curses to you, remember Cain 
was cursed by God (Genesis 4:11 Now you are cursed from the ground, which  has opened its mouth to receive your brother's blood from your hand), we  will talk about the consequence of anger in part two.

Anger is a Part of life, now what I'm talking about is how to control  anger, our God is a God of Anger but at a time he set limit to his Anger  and send Jesus Christ to die for our sin, in the old testament he set 
limit to his anger  ( Genesis 9:15-16  And I will remember my covenant, which  is between me and you and every living creature of all flesh; and the  waters shall no more become a flood to destroy all flesh.  And the bow shall be in the cloud; and I will look upon it, that I may  remember the everlasting covenant between God and every living creature of  all flesh that is upon the earth), he set the Rainbow we see today to remember his covenant with Noah so he don’t use Anger again to destroy the World with flood.


So you have to decide if you are going to control anger or let anger  control you, But  I know you have just gained control over Anger Amen.


This are few things I know that cause anger with many others that I can not remember now, so deal with them   
1.Not Getting your Way
2.Feeling Rejected
3.Fear of Loss
4.Feeling Threatened.
5.Feeling Disappointed.


Now lets talk about good anger because Anger is part of our life, if God  and Jesus can be angry that means there is good anger because my Jesus don't  sin, now why was God angry?, because he told the Children of Isreal you  are not to bow before other gods, lets see this Chapter of (Mark 3:5 And when he had looked round about on them with anger, being grieved for  the hardness of their hearts, he saith unto the man, Stretch forth thine  hand. And he stretched it out: and his hand was restored whole as the  other) you can read from verse one to see why Jesus was angry, like I said  above, good anger is to stand against Injustices saying the truth when other  are hiding from the truth, Jesus used good anger , lets look at  (Mathew  23: 13-17
13 But woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye shut up the  kingdom of heaven against men: for ye neither go in yourselves, neither  suffer ye them that are entering to go in.
14 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye devour widows'  houses, and for a pretence make long prayer: therefore ye shall receive  the greater damnation.
15 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye compass sea  and land to make one proselyte, and when he is made, ye make him twofold  more the child of hell than yourselves.
16 Woe unto you, ye blind guides, which say, Whosoever shall swear by the  temple, it is nothing; but whosoever shall swear by the gold of the  temple, he is a debtor!
17 Ye fools and blind: for whether is greater, the gold, or the temple  that sanctifieth the gold).

So as you can see Anger is part of our life and is good to you it  legitimately, that book of Eph 4:27 is saying use it legitimately  otherwise you are opening doors to the devil in your life ( Eph 4:27 27  Neither give place to the devil.)  there must be a genuine reason to use  anger and you must not use anger in retaliation or revenge, you must not  use anger in mocking some one or uttering evil or angry words.

See another example of how Jesus used anger ( Mathew 21:13 And said unto  them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye  have made it a den of thieves)

So we have justified and unjustified anger, and there is no way to have unjustified anger without paying a price for it.

I will be able to answer your questions concerning anger, and I will work on coming up with the next article the Consequence of Anger and How God Revenges when you forgive and live it to God, and last  Overcoming unforgiving Spirit.

There is no constant or secure bright future accept in Christ.

You can start today by reading your bible day after day, Listing to preachings, (So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God Romans 10:17)

May God bless you for taking your time to read this article, Don't miss the upcoming article titled [b](The Gift of the Holy Spirit)
Pass this massage to ten people and be blessed, while doing it be a doer of this word not a hearer alone ,  ( James 1:22, But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only),
and remember it's part of the work of god to spread this Gospel of  truth (Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. (Colossians 3:16).

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Remain Blessed

Bro John Okoronkwo
Livermore  California USA
Email: jookco@gmail.com

Ecclesiastes 7:9
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools