Hi guys?

Please i need your candid help/advice on this issue:

There was a day my wife and i went for Baptism of Holy Spirit Class in my church. During the hot session of the service, i saw my wife beside me receiving the baptism of holy spirit and was able to speak in tongue. As if that was not enough, we later discover she received a gift of diverse tongue with interpretation of tongues as well. The kind of tongues she speaks is very powerful, very uncommong. So, since then, she has been regularly moved by the holy spirit either in the church or whenever we are having our family prayers where she would deliver messages in tongues and interprete it at the same time. It became so strange to all of us including her too. In fact, most time she sees angels some many times because she does not keep things frm me.

Unfortunately, i have not been able to be baptised like her. Consequently, i beccome SO envious of her that i strife and resent with her so many times because i ind myself spiritually inferior to her, i just begin to hate her so so so much. But sincerely, my wife is not proud i must confess. With all of this, i just can't help myself - i know the devilish envy i have towards her is a sin, but the thing just keep coming to me uncontrollably. At home, i show a lot of disaffection to her, i shout on her and so on.

And in fact, because she has a gift of prophecy, God has been giving her messages to quite a lot of people around us and even people outside the city where we live.

She has skyrockettedly grown spiritually that i feel i can't catch up with her.

And i have continue to persecute her very intensely.

Pls, advise me!!!!

tundekunle:


Hi guys?
Please i need your candid help/advice on this issue:
There was a day my wife and i went for Baptism of Holy Spirit Class in my church. During the hot session of the service, i saw my wife beside me receiving the baptism of holy spirit and was able to speak in tongue. As if that was not enough, we later discover she received a gift of diverse tongue with interpretation of tongues as well. The kind of tongues she speaks is very powerful, very uncommong. So, since then, she has been regularly moved by the holy spirit either in the church or whenever we are having our family prayers where she would deliver messages in tongues and interprete it at the same time. It became so strange to all of us including her too. In fact, most time she sees angels some many times because she does not keep things frm me.
Unfortunately, i have not been able to be baptised like her. Consequently, i beccome SO envious of her that i strife and resent with her so many times because i ind myself spiritually inferior to her, i just begin to hate her so so so much. But sincerely, my wife is not proud i must confess. With all of this, i just can't help myself - i know the devilish envy i have towards her is a sin, but the thing just keep coming to me uncontrollably. At home, i show a lot of disaffection to her, i shout on her and so on.
And in fact, because she has a gift of prophecy, God has been giving her messages to quite a lot of people around us and even people outside the city where we live.
She has skyrockettedly grown spiritually that i feel i can't catch up with her.
And i have continue to persecute her very intensely.
Pls, advise me!!!!

there lies your problem. the bolded. change your 'feeling' and 'study to show yourself approved' , then you'll solve your problem

Lol . . . Issues!

Poster, go on your knees and ask God to forgive you and don't give yourself to the devil to use against your wife. Every good gift comes from Heaven and from God who gives liberally to all, And we all have different gifts, that of your wife is the gift to prophecy and speak in tongues, ask God to open your eyes to know what your gifts are.

Fishy thread, but the wife should curtail herself if the husband is not on board.

Simple common sense.

The more u envy her, the more you kill the gift God has placed in you. You are not in a competition here. Please get closer to God and be happy you have such a Godly wife cos that alone is a blessing.

tpia@:

Fishy thread, but the wife should curtail herself if the husband is not on board.

Simple common sense.

How can she curtail it when she is not the one controlling herself? .

^^if she makes a vow to God, it can be invalidated by her husband, or if she's not married, her father.


and besides, the spirit of the prophet is subject to the prophet.

she needs to apply wisdom to her situation as long as the spouseis not agreeing with her.

and, who is to say God isnt telling her something through the husband?

^^^^^ The husband is just jealous, he feels God is using her and abandoning him, instead of embracing the gift God has given all of them, he is victimizing her. This is a new gift that needs to be maximized to it's full potential, The hubby should go and restitute before he incurs God's anger.

^^i see your point, but the husband's disagreement could be a sign that the time is not ripe for the woman to be doing all these yet.

God is not the author of confusion.

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"I hate my wife - She is now more spiritual than me" - Tundekunle







The word of God states - the race is not given to the swift, nor the battle to the strongest. . .What I am trying to pass across is that because you are/were a better Christian than your wife does not mean you would get more favour and grace and blessing from God. We are to earnestly desire and pursue the whole gifts of the Holy Spirit, so even when we get the basic manifestation of "speaking in tongues" gift from the Holy Spirit, we are not to rest on our laurel, but to keep praying for God to also give us the spirit of prophesying because greater is he that prophesieth . . . These are gifts you need to ask Him, and like He reassures us, He is ready to pour out His spirit on all flesh, including you, to empower us, because these gifts are all for the greater glory. . .


So I will leave you with Philippians 2:3 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves". Let go of your pride, pride is a sin, make amends with your wife, her gift is not for her, but to help the growth of the Church, to offer comfort, to exhort, to give life, to give hope, for revival, for guidance, for vision, etc, so you need to also go before God with a contrite spirit, to seek His face for forgiveness and atonement of your sin. . . and then with prayer and supplication make your request known to Him, but just make sure you are no longer asking for the wrong reasons, lest you compound your woes. Olorun a ko e mo she. It is well.

OP, I have 2 words for you: Humble yourself!

@tpia@ I agree- fishy thread.

@OP, your wife is possessed pure and simple. Focus on bread and butter, your children and not trying to get possessed yourself. If you don't agree with me just keep your thoughts to yourself. I am not in the mood to humour you with an argument!

Haha!

Bros, for the fact that she recieved an outpouring of the gift means she had earnestly coveted the gift all these while, even before you guys went for prayers. you need to desire sincerely this gifts. but in all,, i envy you sha. this is the gift i have been praying for God to release to my wife cos i want to see her skyrocket spiritually. your hatred for her is an arrow from the pit of hell, just to destroy you completely. love your wife. yu guys have made it. remain blessed.

"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col 3:19 

"Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." - Eph 5:33

maclatunji:

@tpia@ I agree- fishy thread.

@OP, your wife is possessed pure and simple. Focus on bread and butter, your children and not trying to get possessed yourself. If you don't agree with me just keep your thoughts to yourself. I am not in the mood to humour you with an argument!

Pls, expansiate! I wish to hear from you! If you don't mind, send me a private message @ tundekunle1978@yahoo.com
Thanks.

@ tundekunle

1. are you born again?

2. how much of the Word do you study?

3. you have abdicated your authority as the husband and become competitive with your wife?

4. being the husband has nothing to do with your display of spiritual gifts.

5. your wife is actually your first daughter, now imagine yourself being bitter with your kid

6. your wife is a blessing to you and you'd better take advantage of it.

7. you must repent and renew your mind with the Word of God.

8. your wife is truly possessed, with the Holy Ghost

9. you better repent fast or else you might shoot yourself in the foot cos you may destroy yourself fighting her!

Dear All,
I want to appreciate everyone's contribution. Every submission is worthwhile. However, permit me to give you more clues: though i agree i have an envy against her but you would ask me why? Before this time at all, all was well between the two of us, the love was very strong, and we were both christians, very honest, transparent to each other. But the reason why i developed such feelings(envy) aganist her is the way she used to 'flaunt' with such gift at times - for instance, we might be watching TV and something exclaims her, she would spontaneously respond by ' sharply speaking in tongues' but i feel somehow uncomfortable with such. Or sometimes when we are praying together, she speaks in tongues more but because, i don't have such gift, sometimes, i get distrupted/distracted during the prayer session as a result of the intensity of her speaking in tongues. You can see if this happens to anyone, u would be feeling very inferior moreso, when u are the husband. But i have never told her all this. I am thinking if i tell her, she might be saying i am curtailing the work of holy spirit in her. Again, the way she behaves has now changed - she does not play with me like before, she is not cheerful like before, she doen't dress to attract me anymore, her face looks more dull than before, she's looking thinner(maybe she fasts a n umber of times i don't know), mall of this together are becoming strange to me, i am actually seeing her not as my babe i used to know 2months ago.
At this juncture, i believe you all would want to ask me why can't pray I for the baptism of holy spirit too so that i can speak in tongue too. My feeling is that not being baptised in the holy spirit does not block anyone from going to heaven, so am not crazy about it. All i just want from her is to moderate so that i don't get some felings anymore.

Your testimony is proof that tongue is not done away with as some ignorant folks tries to proof. The good news for you is that you can speak in tongues too. Don't try to stop her . Laugh over it. If she over do it. Just laugh and say "madam prophetess" .

Speaking in tongues is for every christian ,but the gift of interpretation is for God to give whosoever. But you can speak in tongues.

If you're interested , send your number to my mail box. We will talk . And I will show you how to RECIEVE .

The devil has different ta tactics on how to destroy individuals and families so don't give him a chance
Thank God and adore your wife for what she has and encourage her too
As for yourself, if you desire it, go ahead and ask God
You can also go ahead the gift God has deposited in you as well and develop it
Concentrate on that and not on the gift of your wife thereby loosing out on what God has for you

Again, the way she behaves has now changed - she does not play with me like before, she is not cheerful like before, she doen't dress to attract me anymore, her face looks more dull than before, she's looking thinner(maybe she fasts a n umber of times i don't know), all of these together are becoming strange to me, i am actually seeing her not as my babe i used to know 2months ago.
However, posting this write up is  not but a CLEAR EVIDENCE that i still love her. THE ONLY THING I AM LOOKING FOR IS HOW TO ERASE THIS ENVIOUS FEELINGS OUT OF MY LIFE because it's getting pretty difficult for me to control.
Again, you would agree with me that to cope with something strange like this takes the grace of God and sincere understanding on the part of the husband and the family in general. For instance, there was a day my wife told me that while she was praying at home oneday with my 2kids asleep, she spontaneously was move by the holy spirit and started speaking in tongues profusely and loudly at home to the extent that my two daughters woke up and started crying not knowing what was happeing to their mother and until after like 5mins or so when the move subsided that she realised the children were already in fear crying about their mother.
Again, there was a day she said God told her to go and pray with a very close family friend of ours who used to have marital clashes. That when she got there and just immediately all of them started praying together, she suddenly was moved by the holy spirit and started as usual speaking in tongues and interpreting at the same time, giving the family message, the family was shocked because they never saw my wife in such kind of a state before. After the prayer, the husband was jokingly telling my wife that ' is this Celestial spirit moving her of Cherubim & Seraphim stuff', it was strange to them; though she was able to deliver the message from God to them. But as for me on that day, i had a somehow feelings ,
So, u can see to adapt to this new level of spirituality like this takes time

Maybe you should also study about her gift to help you understand it more
Also, hate is a strong word and of the devil
If you are a xtian, you are bounded by love, change your mindset about her too, love her more
Do you have the same pastor, then talk to him

@ poster's last post.

you are a carnal christian from my point of view, as such, i recommend word therapy for you.
bombard your mind with the word, you need to renew your mind.

cos of your carnality which gave birth to all sorts of evil stuff, you CANNOT see anything good in your wife again.
you are so carnal now that your feelings have taken over your life, you lost your spiritual perception which can only be regained through the ministry of the word.

bro i counsel you, take an immediate and drastic step this night or you might wake up tomorrow to find your wife in her own pool of blood - dead cos you killed her in her sleep. you bitterness and jealousy is so grown that you can kill your wife without thinking