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AnnaGray:
Two types of beauty
1. Good looking and fun and easy
2. Good looking and up tight

Hmmm ... without them fronts, backs, mouths and noses that draw men? Dunno, girl.
Yes a lot of beautiful women are up tight and that adds to the problem.

lefulefu:
my thing stand for one ...i will attest to that

I no talk am? Haha.

shinarlaura:

Nothing to be embarrassed about babe.
God blessed you abundantly.

shinarlaura:
Hahahaha

Girl you are ATTRACTIVE.

lefulefu:
i no go skool at all .break am down d way my grandmama dey break palm kernel make i understand

Okay, this woman is beautiful
https://www.nigerialog.com/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=9192.0;attach=1073;image

While this one is attractive.
https://www.nigerialog.com/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=9192.0;attach=1074;image



Noted: Both are beautiful but one is attractive

lefulefu:
yes na

Okay show me one word in the original post that high school graduate shouldn't understand.
I promise to interpret.

lefulefu:
e tire me more
wetin be all these grammer wey op dey yarn

Grammar ke

Alondrah:
An attractive woman is like a cold food, very vulnerable to perching of houseflies. While a beautiful woman is like a hot food, only the strongest can deal with. I want to be a beautiful woman

Errm.. I tend to think that the opposite may be the case.
Men struggle to keep attractive women to their corner, because other men always want to snatch them.
I read somewhere that husbands of beautiful women tend to cheat on them more.
Methinks it may be due to the topic we are discussing here.

refiner:
So op...which category do i belong?

I wish to be a beautiful woman tho...

I just looked at your profile pic.
From what I've seen there so far ... you are beautiful.
I haven't seen your figure though.

An attractive woman is unsettling to most men.
Men struggle to resist her. In fact the only time men won't have sex with them is when the men are very strong-willed for religious or other principled reasons.
Men admire beautiful women, but that's about it.

Men are driven naturally to go after attractive women.

Coldplay007:
Omotola is both beautiful and attractive.. Tiwa Savage is neither.. Genevieve is beautiful.. while Brobisky is disgusting ..

C'mon now.
Tiwa is beautiful.

Omotola is both, but more attractive than beautiful.

doublewisdom:
Mercy Johnson is attractive.

Mercy Johnson is a TYPICAL example of an attractive woman!

Clearly what the woman did was bad, but should she have been bludgeoned to death for it?

These days what we see are cases like this:

A Hollywood man fatally beat his wife with a pipe wrench after learning she was pregnant with her boyfriend’s baby, police said.

Claude Sejour, 49, then called 911 to report the crime.

“I did it. I finished her and called the police and went outside,” he said to the arriving officers, according to a report. He was wearing a bloodstained white button-down shirt and had blood on his hands and cheek, the report said.

“I’m not crazy,” he told officers, according to the report.

As his wife, Marie Joseph, 40, lay dying in her bed, her 17-year-old daughter tried to wake her, a neighbor told police.

Sejour, who did not appear to have a criminal record, was being held without bond in Broward’s main jail Thursday on a murder charge.

The deadly encounter unfolded just before 10 p.m. Wednesday inside their home in the 5900 block of Thomas Street. In addition to the daughter, the couple’s three other children, 14, 12 and 4, were all home at the time, police said.

Sejour called 911 and first told a dispatcher that he was going to kill his wife. Then he said he did kill her and would wait outside.

Meanwhile, another call came in, this one from Sejour’s neighbor, Alvaro Garcia, according to the police report.

Garcia later told police he heard screaming and saw Sejour on the phone. Sejour, he told police, waved him over and then told him he had killed his wife. Garcia told officers that Sejour said he had just learned his wife was pregnant with another man’s baby and had “disrespected him,” the officer wrote.

Garcia said he went into the house to find the couple’s oldest daughter on the bed, trying to wake her mother. He checked for a pulse and realized she had died, according to the report.

An officer found Joseph lying in bed in a sports bra and blue pajama pants.

“I observed severe trauma to her right eye, left cheek, forehead and on the top of her head,” the officer wrote, adding that there was blood on the wall above the victim’s head. “There was a red pipe wrench which appeared to have traces of what appeared to be blood.”

Sejour was then taken to the police station for questioning. After being read his rights, police said, he told police, in his native Creole, that he had gotten into a fight with her because she was on the phone with her boyfriend and her boyfriend said she was pregnant, according to the report.

“Sejour felt she wasn’t taking care of him or their children as a wife should do,” the officer wrote. “He stated he didn’t mean to kill her but he was angry about the man and the baby.”

https://www.nigerialog.com/family/man-beats-wife-to-death-after-learning-she-was-having-another-mans-baby-police/

BNew:
Not much difference between the two.

Except that one group get more men...
I wouldn't say there's not much difference.

Disclaimer: The tag of beauty is very subjective and therefore may not necessarily rhyme with a universal definition or semantics (if any) of beauty.
Therefore the opinion here is purely the author's and not by any means universal.
The author is AFRICAN and as a result, his definition of beauty may be Afro-biased.


(1) Attributes of a beautiful woman:

A beautiful woman is one that is good to look at. She also has a very pleasant appearance. Most beautiful women are glamorous, and are used as models most of the times and in advertisements.
A beautiful woman is someone who wins public admiration from all sexes and all ages.


(2) Attributes of an attractive woman:

An attractive woman is one that most men would instinctively or instantly want to have sex with, or make love to. They may or may not be beautiful, but they will attract more men to themselves than other women.


Analysis:

A truly attractive woman will make almost all men turn to look at her each time she passes; while a beautiful woman will attract male looks, but not make them turn to look more. A principled man will easily resist the approaches of a beautiful woman, but most would struggle to resist the same from a truly attractive woman.

A beautiful woman may or may not be attractive. While an attractive woman may or may not be beautiful. There is a scale in place which depends on the man doing the evaluation.

Most beautiful women these days try their best to become sexy by dressing up to enhance their looks. While most naturally attractive women may do little because they are, by virtue of their nature, attractive.

https://www.nigerialog.com/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=9192.0;attach=1067;image


https://www.nigerialog.com/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=9192.0;attach=1068;image


More pictures of comparison here

But these day it all seems so far fetched and almost scandalous.
It wasn't like that before.

In the years before the colonialists came to Igboland, for men, a woman's older age was not a factor in choosing her for a wife or even a lover. Young men freely took over widows, even those of own dead fathers (apart from own mothers of course) to marry, or simply continue raising and making children by the women. Her being older was not a factor -at all.

But in the binary marriage system that dominates our part of the world today, such relationship is now at a disadvantage because a man now has only one chance to form a family. Also, the older woman with whom he may have fallen in love may not be of childbearing age, or she may be in her twilight reproductive years. This tends to force men to abandon older women lovers, or widows they should have married, to marry younger ones for the purpose of having children; but then still retain the sexual relationship with the older lovers in the secret world of adultery, or fornication. Hypocrisy has continued to define the marriage system that forces a man to marry only one wife, and the many instances of men (or women) cheating on their spouses continue to prove this point. Society has almost become normalized to the idea of infidelity, or serial monogamy, provided that these all exist within the bounds defined by law. In other words, law has replaced common sense and morality.

A committed observer would notice that the lies and hypocrisy that define contemporary marriage are more dangerous to the goals of keeping the seventh commandment than anything else. In an effort to create a utopian one-man one-woman world (which is not mandated biblically by any stretch), a dystopian society of serial divorces and broken homes has been created, and this manifest through increased clandestine sex, wickedness, and selfishness.

In pre-European Igboland, a man married according to natural realities, not according to some fables and unproven narratives. For instance, if a man impregnated a woman, regardless of her age, tradition demanded that he performed marriage rites to take her home as wife. As long as the woman was a willing participant in the sexual acts that led to the pregnancy, she was expected to marry the man who impregnated her. She was not bound to do so, but unless she planned to have a baby in her father's house as agreed by the family, she was expected to go with the man that impregnated her. If the man repeated such act one thousand times, he got one thousand wives. Simple. The only barrier was if the woman turned down his marriage proposal for whatever reason; or if the couples were too close genetically, like cousins and siblings; or in cases of parental incest; or peoples barred from marrying freely for ritualistic or spiritual reasons, and whatever isolated (or ostracized) group. Such a marriage would also not be possible if the woman was already married; in that case any child resulting from such encounter would automatically belong to the woman's legal husband (the man who performed the marriage rites to have her as wife).

Outside these, everyone was free to marry, or be lovers, in Igboland. It was not a statutory matter (there was no state anyway). It was a local traditional matter. Variations existed in different Igbo clans, but the practices were largely the same. Clans adopted what worked for them, not what was forced on them by some higher human authority.

Women were not allowed to have more than one husband in Igboland because the ancestral cultural custodians felt that it was not necessary, probably because a woman was allowed to keep “Iko” or lover who was not her husband, if she so wanted. The Iko was known to everyone including the husband who gave consent by entering into a covenant with the Iko man. The covenant was necessary to ensure that the Iko never endangered the woman's husband or the woman's family.

A man married according to his natural physical abilities and social status; while a woman lived to her fullest potential regardless of her husband's physical and economic abilities.
The relationship wasn't solely for economic reasons, or solely for social reasons; it was a combination of both, and more. Women did not depend on the men for spousal support or sustenance. Women owned farms and domestic animals and traded the products at will.
Therefore, if a love relationship developed between a young man and an older woman, the love relationship developed naturally, and ended naturally, without anyone feeling cheated, or the type of sense of loss that leads to adverse reactions including homicide. Igbo marriage institution separated “love” from marriage because it was understood that love is ephemeral. Marriage, even when initiated from love or attraction, simply continued long after love had exhausted in the marriage, thereby allowing families to remain whole and unbroken. Unbroken home and strong family was the backbone of pre-European Igbo society.

A relevant comparative anecdote is a news in one of the online news sites about a couple (non-African) who will divorce because the couple finally decided it was time to tell everyone (including their children) that the man is gay. The couple had been together for 17 years, and the woman had known about the man's sexuality before the couple tied the knot. What is baffling, is that they decided to divorce after all these years. Now the children will have to deal with parents living apart -basically their family is now broken. This, because of “love” shifting grounds in the family. Love (more like lust) is not, cannot, and should never be enough to sustain a family past one generation. Therefore it is sensible to demand more than love at the onset of marriage. In fact it is more desirable for a couple to undertake a complete self examination before deciding to tie the knot.

One is tempted to place the old Igbo marriage system side by side the contemporary Greco-Roman version to see which supports the human family better.
Without any doubt, the old Igbo marriage was more stable and equitable because it operated on the basis of holistic, collective, and reciprocal morality.

Present day humans tend to lack empathy, and are driven purely by selfish instincts.

Unlike contemporary marriage system, clandestine sex and illegitimate offspring situations were very rare in old Igboland. For a woman to have an illegitimate child, she really had to reject all available institutions of correction and rectitude available to her. Also, were a woman not able to have a child, it simply meant that she was totally barren and could never conceive. Rape was an abomination, and hence very rare, because most men had avenues for venting sexual pressure.

Whether such a marriage system or even sexual institution can ever exist again in the Igboland swallowed up by colonial and neo-colonial culture, is an open question.

-Nigerialog.com

A real life story with a real life lesson. Read up.

Not sure where to post this. This section seems closest to the issue being discussed.

The other day, a childhood friend called me on phone to let me know that she was in town newly and probably would need a place to stay. Without much thought I told her that she cannot stay in my place; that I wasn't ever going to bring her into my home even if she were totally stranded and have no where to go.

This person used to be a childhood friend, and for much of my young adult life as well -till she got married. We were like sisters virtually throughout our young years and, even when I got married before her, introduced her to my husband and we continued as normal. My husband even paid for one of her international exams (about $500) same time he paid for mine, and we traveled together to a West African country to write that exam.

We carried on like sisters… until she got married. Immediately she got married, she changed and started acting weird. She would make up excuses to ensure that I never got to meet her husband. At first I thought it might be due to some form of inferiority complex, because men often found me more attractive than her and always defaulted towards me. But my friend knows me very well, perhaps more than any other human being on this earth, even my husband. She knows that I am the type that never play games with my life, and very strict with sex matters. She knows that I even got married as a virgin at the age of 25 years. In all the years we had been together, all my friends gave me a nickname “reserved”, and often poked fun at me for living a celibate and reserved lifestyle. She also knows that I love my husband with all my life, and not wired to ever cheat on him for any reason whatsoever. So the fear of me going after her husband is completely out of the question. So why was she distancing herself from me? At a stage again I thought that maybe her husband might see me and start comparing her to me due to my “reserved” lifestyle but then, what are friends for if my friend suffers from such level of self confidence?

Then, series of things happened that proved to me that her misbehavior may be induced by other things...

Read the rest here

Update:

We shall soon come to the end of the recruitment process. We have more than enough applications now, and are working very hard to screen and document new hires.

All that will take time, so please be patient.

Meanwhile we have decided to adopt Payoneer as our preferred mode of payment.

If you don't have Payoneer, we can work with you, but the month after September pay must be by Payoneer.

Thanks to you all.

Speeddial:
What's the essence of all these deceits? For your information, no body whom you dragged to register on your site, the way you did to me will stay put, that's the gospel truth.

You are deceiving your self.

What do you say about those people who have been hired and are currently working there now?

Can't you see them post daily?

You were not hired; does that mean that no one was hired?

As for your registration, you can simply delete your account.

aylipple:
I am still trying to figure out which category I fall under because the correspondence between me and the representative of Nigerialog.com team who contacted me, seemed to be smooth and responses were swift. Maybe I made an unreasonable demand or perhaps fell down the pecking order of applicants, I'll never know. All the same guys, this is for real; apply now & ask questions about their authenticity later. Cheers.

Bros but you fall under category one na. No doubt. I saw your application and move it forward.

If you really want to work with us, please stick around and make your pay demand again.
Maybe it was not well understood before.

We never pay two persons the same because no two persons are the same.

Sorry for any mix ups.

Speeddial:
After registering, I didn't get no inbox nor spam, what's wrong?

Have you logged in again since you applied? If you applied when logged in, you need to log in again and ready your mail there.
If you did not log in, please log in and send your PM to "Dayan".
If you logged in and sent a PM before, please resend it again to be sure.

We are getting a lot of applications and doing our best to sieve them.

Thanks for your understanding and patience.

So far we have already employed some people and they are already working.
We are still screening others, while new applications are coming in.

So far we have identified five groups of applicants:

(1) Those who are serious and are qualified

(2) Those who are serious but are not qualified (either due to lack of adequate command of English or carelessness of their application response)

(3) Those who are qualified but are still checking us out to know whether we are serious, maybe waiting till me pay the first salary

(4) Devils advocates and kill joys who are just out to spoil our business

(5) Spies just snooping around


You are all welcome!

At the end we shall select those who will enhance our business.

God bless you all, and God bless Nigeria!

aceTS:
Very funny answer. You'd be surprised how loyal people can be with the right motivation. Pay them enough money and they'd do anything for you.

Having said that, the fact still remains this looks and smells like a trick to get people to sign up on your site. There is no where somebody can deactivate an account later on the site.

so yes it is not a hostage situation. But I see hoarding of account details going on here in the guise of looking for workers.

Clearly you have not applied because if you have you wouldn't be saying this.

I'm glad some have already testified to the contrary.

MVLOX:
That's true have been contacted. Am currently working on the response I was sent. Will reply soonest

Thanks!

A quick update.

It has come to our notice that some of the emails sent to job applicants ended up in their spam box. It happened because the applicant did not send email directly to us (which happens when you send an email from a website), and so when we reply, our reply ends up in spam mail box.

To counter this problem, please check your spam box in case our mail ended up there.

Secondly, please add us to your contact addresses immediately you get email from us.

We did not want to drop our email address here because we don't want to get spammed.

Thank you.

JesChill:
What is the subject for the application, kindly list other requiremsnts

There are no other requirements apart from the ones listed in the two original posts.
Thank you.

Interesting15:
Not only that. Op should also state the most important thing: AMOUNT THEY PAY

Thanks

We have different positions and roles for which we are hiring.
The very nature of the jobs require some measure of confidentiality.
Even two employees doing the same job may be paid different amounts because each person may be more competent than the other.
Just the nature of the business makes it disingenuous for us to do what you propose here.
Thank you.

Raphafire101:
Op pls tell us the amount u guys pay...and how does it work?? Is my pay dependent on how I bring people??

We do not discuss our business operations in an open forum.
Once you apply, you will get a reply with all the information you need.
Thank you.

raindrop99:
Am not sure its legit. They just want pple 2 register in their new site

Did you apply and not get a legitimate reply?