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I dont plan to get pregnant, if he doesnt want me he will still leave even if I have a baby for him, and Yes, I would like for someone to predict what will happen next.

His finance has made it to the U.S., she's been here 3days and he put her out of his house. He saying she and her family disrespected him by bringing her here unanounced. I'm staying over his place now (I still have my own). What do you think her family or his will do next?

I"ve heard of two. One lady stayed engaged for 6yrs in Nigeria b4 her husband sent for her to join him in US. Another waited an year. Both are happy now bt, the success really depends on the indvduals.

CORRECTION: Oguta is where he is from

He's been in the US for 3yrs, We've been together for 2yrs. He has been back to Nigeria once and he was there for 3weeks when his family arranged their introduction. How come the favor is on her side, he doesn't know her well. He is with me daily and says he is trying to find a way to not marry her and make his family happy.

Is it really better to marry a stranger from your own tribe then marrying a woman in your current residence that you know well?

Why is it so definate that she'll join him? If he is still seeing me, are the chances greater that he'll end the engagment with her? If he has a green card, why didnt he file for her so she could visit?

I'm a blk American woman I've been in a relationship with a green card owning Nigerian man for 2yrs in America. Last Christmas he got engaged to a woman from his village. Since then he still calls and visits. I love him dearly. The longest we've gone without talking is three days. During those 3 days I would cry long and be miserable. My question I post, Should I leave him? Even though it feels like my world fall apart without him? Or should I stay with him in hopes that they never marry and she'll never arrive to the USA?

PS. I also found out that the girl he is engaged to is his cousin in law. He told me that the engagement was pre-arranged. Pls whats should I do? He is from the Igbo tribe of Abuja.