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You can do whatever you want. It matters what your partner thinks about public performances.

If you mate refuses to be loving than that is ridiculous. However, you have to express yourself in constructive way. Most people will get that however some people do not like making the first move, for me, I get a little lonely when I am always the one who has to initiate contact but, hey, that's the world.

I did not have to read your message to get the jest. Trust, it is what you build on the rock as a foundation for your relationship - trust. Ultimately, what is most important is your relationship however you are in the position of dealing with a woman. Chances are she would not quit her job.

If it early in the relationship and you find that she values her job more than you, dump her ass immediately. If you are vested, prepare for crap. Woman tend like the feeling of being pursued and the more distractions at work, the less they will have for you. This automatically unbalance the love, trust, etc thing. In addition, the more desperate you are about the distractions the more she will be puffed up and less likely to appreciate. It definitely is crap to have to put up with secrets or not knowing what she did at work, especially with predators and cat-fish around her.

Tough one. Tell her about your insecurities and as her to cut off relations with the guy(s) at her work that are not entirely innoscent. She will probably laugh you off and tell you to go fly a kite. But, if you try to destroy the issues that cause jealousy and/or silently tolerate the issue and it all ends, you can say you were loyal and dedicated and gave it your all.

You could follow the guy(s) home from her work and eliminate them one by one.

If she is down for you then the parent thing will work itself out. You just have to prove yourself the parents that you are not a puke or that you intend on hurting their child, could take years before you can sleep sound at night.

Is she married to you? Maybe you need to revisit your faith and see if you can't make a connection on a deeper level.

Either way, regarding rings is that I feel a big expensive ring cheapens the vow. Where you buy it matters, sometimes, as buying it from a PON shop might not have the same depth as if you purchase it from a place unique for the two of you. What's important is that you wear your ring and that you want your partner to wear their's. It is a statement to all others that no other suiter should be approaching you unless they want the business end of whatever that could be. For a woman, if she picks a modest ring it really communicates that she does not need to advertise how rich her man is, that she is with him for deeper reasons. An engagement ring? Heck, my theory is people spend way too much time waiting to get married because not until married can you start working on all the different issues. mat and m@?

It is true that a man who stays with you because you are pregnant is, effectively, with you however it is possible he is with you for the child(ren). You can find love but may have to be patient, just do not forget what is important. Straight up - no games. Give all your love and let the invisible forces work it out, so yeah, you should always accommodate requests because the man is asking to be with you, presumably, because love needs its due. If you are loyal and honest about everything then someday love will find its way. Just remember that love will not be on your side as you are the one who trapped love.

I am new and do not speak as solid as the rest of your with your oo and ahhha and what-not.

If you found your fiance cheating on you after 4 years, I would ask you why you have not married before now. I suppose once a cheater, always a cheater. It would be a huge breach. Nobody can tell you what you have (value) in your patner. If they mean forever for you than work the problem from that stand-point; whether or not he is going to accept your forgiveness in a way that will sustain future loyalty. If you find that the cheating is depraved and many secrets have been kept from you over the years, then I would consider liquidating your relationship. There is something deeply disturbing about a person who feels they have God's permission to steal the love of another person, theft because they were not willing to operate at a standard that God expected - which is where the love originates. In the end, do not be afraid of being a sucker (so long as it is only for your partner) as you cannot be faulted if you tolerate the abuse and are entirely loyal yet it all ends. You will be able to say you put your 100% in, just do not get in to tit-for-tat, that is a no-no.

Not sure what the rest of the suckers have told you but with love you will never be convicted for failing to lose your commitment, regardless if most would say you were stupid. It is not a commodity to be treated like a thing you shop for at the mall.

But, that is hard advice to take.