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Hej dude, it will be hard to see past this but I urge you to. Finding someone so honest (if she wasn not pressured to) is a rarity. Good luck mate.

Mrs Chima please refrain from using the "n" word here. @ lostgirl, leave its not right to have 2 women and he has lied from the start. @ lagcity and 2 legit , props!

@baby124 nice spin you have on it . Thank u all the same. We cannot choose who we fall in love with unfortunately. This is a problem of lust!

Lol at old hag. @cameronpride , It crossed my mind seeing how cross she/he sounded. @ bowunm.... To each man, his own!

Thank you all for your contributions. Marrying another race is hard , but we weatherd the early storm well. I will apply all the constructive counsels and i am grateful to you contributors . Good and bad

Sexpils and 380 pleas relax. No need to get Ito any heated exchanges. Points noted.
You have all been very helpful. Thank you!

@mrs chima , all wise , Thank you
@ roonyboy , the above is a troll and a tosser

@2buff rep + thanks . @190 your latter post got me reall cracking thanks guys ... You understand !

Sorry it's drnoel . @ 190 I do not intend to take another partner . Thanks for your concern though !

@ drnoek , Thank u very much I think you have touched the problem rightly. Thanks a lot. Your experiences (or acquaintances ) are insightful. Big thanks .

@boobyman, my marriage has been fine, this is an attraction that's just come up lately.
@mrs Chima. I will be polite to you this time . You neither know what country I live , the years and countries I studied nor their immigration laws. Your first question was as assumtive as it is a question and you followed it up with your "thoughtless" (pardon my lack of vocabulary) dismissive sentiments.
Be reasonable , I don't think you are that naive,you are better than that.

@ms Chima.. the above post was for your "wise" mind.

As usual some "know it all" being judgemental. I studied abroad for more than 6 years and have been working over 2 years before I met my wife. Try asking before you cast blindly.
@kambo Thanks. Its just something I noticed and lately it troubled me. cheers

Infidelity is rampant in every race and culture my friend. Read my post carefully and understand what I am asking.
Cheers

I have been married for over 6 years to a foreigner and we have a lovely child together. However, whenever I am in close proximity to a Nigerian girl I find myself drawn to them. It happened last when I was at a Nigerian Independence party, A very good friend showed up with his girlfriend and their Nigerian friends and siblings. I was overwhelmed with the urge to kiss one of the girls who happened to spend quite some time with me. I am not into the front and backyard assets. Is something wrong with me? or is it a pitfall of inter racial marriage?
Thank you

P.s

I would prefer respectful, civil and mature responces. I believ in God but please lets keep this as normal as possible. Thank you.

Demej, you have to just wait and see. With the Austrian consulate you never know. I suggest you just wait as you have already enquired and got a responce. This delay might mean that they are actually taking your application seriously ( maybe lookin for a reason to refuse). I think the prospect is positive. As long as your documents and finance are ok you need not fear much. For anyone trying to apply to Austria it is important to have at least 1 year in between application and actuall study resumption time. They use the delay strategy a lot. Good luck mate

When Winona set this topic up the discussion was normal, civil and cordial with mutual regards for eachothers thoughts and opinion. Its become the Nigerian "God this, pray that, fast and so on crap" It is all (sorry but i got to say) BULL SHIT. A lot of Nigerians hide under the guile of religion. I guess that's why the country is in such a great shape as the one of the most religious countries in the world. We preach in the front but inside loads of us are Shit. I am a Nigerian, and Yes I believe there is a God and believe in God but all your practical every second God yelling is annoying. If you want to advice and discuss like a civilised human then do it. If you want to preach then I suggest you open another thread or topic. Could you leave thus pretentious Holiness in your homes, church or wherever you have.

P.s I am sue re Winona has prayed about this  so for the sake of me, leave God out of this thread or at leastkeep it at a solemn tone as some have done.

I am refering to you the so called dare god

good man otumba, well said

Definitely applying from Europe is faster, however the only help your people there can give is to provide the right documents pronto. Since you study in Cyprus you need an eu residence permit, so the same strict laws will unfortunately apply to you. Howevere it will be easier and quicker than doing it from Nigeria .

I would say no on both counts, look for schools in Sweden or elsewhere (definitely not Ukraine), It is hard to prove you earn enough money to guarantee your family meets the very high immigration demands there. Unless your relatives there are VERY financially sound, I mean middle class and above then stay clear. The laws are directed at preventing or expelling 3rd world nationals. my advise is do not attempt it, Look elsewhere.

Cheers all. Hope it pans out well for you. Take care chaircover and well meaning people. should any of you lot need help (male or female) or someone to talk to you can email me at Ulemet@yahoo.com, and dont fret I am far from Nigeria and just looking to reconnect with mell meaning people. I joined this site yesterday to meet cool fellows.

peace and love

I dint get it, to apply for studies in Turkey? or applying to study in Austria from Turkey? The later has status quo.
please expand

Well Chaircover that's a good point at that. I admit that I am seeing from my side (as a man) thus blindsided to your perspective. True there are men who would want to take advantage of her vulnerability, and if she had shared her troubles with him then you might say he has the ace in his hands. HOWEVER, no matter how things play I believe Winona holds the key and decides. True, That's why in my first post I suggested she talk with her man.
Nice girly feel to this post. Wished there were guys to weigh in and help balance the discussion/counsel.

Cheers ladies and good morning from the land of the pirates

Apologies Chaircover. Really did not mean to insult. Its a bit hard to contain feelings when you make light of the subject.
A more subtle approach would be welcome.
Peace

@Chaircover, I might sound rude when I say you have the emotional range of a toothpick. Do explain "Grabbing the bull by the horn" in this context. I do not mean to make a feud with you. It is not a crime to have a male friend as long as it is well defined and with limits. If he makes her relaxed and see things in perspective then its good for them. Who knows he might be having a similar problem as she does. Bottom line is they are adults and things will work itself out. I know this cos I have been there, have you?

Great to read Winona, as long as you know where your heart is you will find peace. Keep getting closer to your man and I hope you wont be needing any more therapys I will keep checking this thread. be good

CHAIRCOVER IT IS DEFINITELY OT AS EASY AS YOU MAKE IT SOUND:: Read between the lines and dint be so shallow with your prudent responce. I would like to know how perfect and great your life is with your pragmatic approach, hmmmmmmmm On a second thought I do not want to know. keep your Holier than thou life to yourself.

And about the guilt its always there. You can have a guy as a close friend as long as the friendship is defined and clear to both parties, no misleading or misunderstanding. Send the right vibes or risk loosing someone dear to you

Hi, I do sympathise with you. I am a married man and i think is is only fitting that only people sensitive in this matter comment. I know how downright rude and judgemental many a many Nigerians are and hypocrites. I believe its a period in your relationship with your partner that's opened a vacum i your feelings. It will pass as soon as you start to see the things that got you to say yes I do to him in the first place. The tension in your relationship is what leads you to the comfort of your male colleague and as we know, a fragile heart is a ticking bomb. I experienced this once because I am married to a foreigner and cultural differences strained our marriage, a similar scenario to yours played and I will admit that I strayed once. In the ensuing chaos we found the beginning, we Talked. I suggest you Talk to your spouse and find your fire and spark. It might take a while but its there. That's why you married him in the first place

Do your applications yourselves, go on line and read what it takes, stop paying people to do things you have total access to. Ask resonable questions and seek help if you have an obstacle, Do not be a lazy fool.
you can achieve things on your own.

Peace

I will be straight and direct to you all as I have been in this situation before and know what some of you are going through. If you have not paid any fee then terminate any intention you have to study in Austria. Its ruled by the extreme right and its immigration policies run foul of almost every standard set by the EU. If you are from a very wealthy family and have cash and time to burn then by all means proceed. The living conditions in Austria is very tough for non Caucasians, do not be deceived by all the ads you see on-line and in forums. You are most likely to spend 3-6 months to get an interview date 2-3 months waiting for a responce plus the lawyer you will pay to investigate "YOU OWN LIFE" and try to find a reason to not grant you a visa, you are paying him 120,000 of hard earned cash and if he finds you OK the bureaucrats will say you are a risk on the social system.

If you need to study abroad look elsewhere, do research read about the country before you apply to a school. Do not just jump on any bandwagon to Ukraine or what not.

Be wise

peace my people

The Asiwaju guy on most forums seems to know what he is saying, but he is not saying all. he knows it as I do

safe