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Kobojunkie:
But that's also what most high school diploma holders do.

Kobojunkie:
1. If you are applying for jobs that require specific degrees, of which there are many, then you should hold the specified degree.

2. You have a high school diploma, too, so what is holding you back?

Kobojunkie:
High school did not guarantee the Americans jobs withers. What instead did was their using their heads and the skills they already had where they could. You have advanced certificates so what is stopping you from doing the same even now?

Kobojunkie:
High school did not guarantee the Americans jobs withers. What instead did was their using their heads and the skills they already had where they could. You have advanced certificates so what is stopping you from doing the same even now?

Kobojunkie:
You think most people who end up like their parents fantasized it? Nah! They simply didn't do work to resolve the trauma from their past; by the time they realized it, they had already helped in propagating the trauma on to the next generation.

Kobojunkie:
Most of those you refer to as bad parents were themselves raised under bad parenting conditions, and never got around to correcting those traumas from their own past before becoming parents themselves.

Kobojunkie:
What do you expect when people who have no business being parents are literally conned into becoming that? Nigeria is a society where people believe that to be regarded as successful there must be marriage and children and so many follow along without questioning knowing fully well they do not have what it really takes to raise another decent human being.

YOUNGELDER1:
Just find a way to rent your own place.
When you do all this would stop.

Your brother's don see you finish.

Mosco100:
The worst is allowing little girls act and dress carelessly.

Basic:
The worst part is that most parents nowadays are ready to pick a brutal fight or give you a decades-long attitude if you call their attention to their kids' misbehaviors or other flaws that are clearly due to bad parenting.

no20022:
He’s younger. Plus he’s long gone and moved out. This stuff happened years ago and he hasn’t been violent since. I think my mom blames me for his actions because of internalized misogyny. Plus she tolerated our dad putting hands on her so she probably expects me to tolerate the same thing too. She even thinks that siblings hurting each other is normalised (I mean as kids yes but adults…no).

The thing is I think I hate my family because I’m expected to tolerate their bad behavior but if a man outside of the family did the same thing, he would be condemned.

Plus this is why I wish I started working instead of going to college. I’m stuck with useless degrees that aren’t helping me with a job search. I envy people who moved out at younger ages like 18-20 because I feel they are more mature than me.

Kobojunkie:
Is the older brother not equally there in the mama house? Why make it seem it is OK for him to be there for not for her?

blamingthedevil:
Some children don't even know how to greet in the morning because they are not probably brought up that way

CrownOfClay724:
What's all these whining about?

If I read correctly, you claim to be 32 and complaints like this ought to have ended some 15 years ago.

You're too old to be subjected to any kind of maltreatment and whatever you claim to be going through now is what you have accepted to happen to you.

The least you can do is leave them and start your own life.
They'll be the one begging for reunion if family therapy is important like that.

Baronthecelebri:
Then leave the family, and stop complaining

Sonnobax15:

Your mom is simply preparing you for the future but you're here ranting and even mistaking and misunderstanding it for hate

Kobojunkie:
You didn't tell us how old you are. Whatever advice we would give would have to depend on that.

1. Family therapy? Who suggested it, and how is it expected to go?

2. Sounds like a very toxic environment you live in there. Does your brother or father also react violently towards your mother, or is this just a you thing?

It's just me that my brother acts like that towards because I think I am an easy target, but I find it unfair that he never physically attacked my father for how he treated my mom sometimes.

3. Is your mother one of those women who complain about men being sexist?
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