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prettmum:
my Nairaland mail is not working. send me mail address.

My email is Nwababykanu@gmail.com

Szerelem2290:
Hi there,
I am just looking for some help really.
eight months ago I started talking to this Nigerian guy and at first it was just a friendship thing but then he started telling me all about how he had an arranged marriage and he was miserable. He has told a ridiculous amount of lies throughout this eight months and a few days ago he finally came clean about saving money to bring his wife over to England and that he does loves me but we can't be together?
But he said he still wants me in his life. Obviously my first thought is that he just wants someone to mess around with while he's waiting for his wife to come over here. This guy has lied to me every step of the way and me being stupid, I still fall for everything he says every time I see him.
Apparently when he went home to Nigeria recently he told his wife he had cheated on her and when he came back to England he told me he has to pay a fine now? Is this even true? I've never heard of something like that before.
Any help with this would be greatly appreciated. I just need some closure with all of this and I want to find out what is actually truth!

Hello Dear,

First and foremost, I apologize on behave of this guy for leading you on and deceiving you. I was once in your shoes. I "fell in love" with a married man once. We met in school, and became really good friends. At first, our relationship was harmless, we just talked about things, but as time went on we grew on each other. we started talking about relationship, mainly his marriage. he complained all the time about his wife, he would say things like " I really like how studious you are, my wife doesn't care about school" "My wife is uncivilized" "my wife is dirty" "she doesn't know how to care for the kid" "my wife doesn't have the heart of a mother" etc. He even told me that he plans on divorcing on her for me. But the funny thing is that every time i run into them, they are always happy. The children love their mom and they seem well cared for. Eventually I snapped out of it and realize that I'm the "side-chic" and will remain the side-chi.

Right now, I am happily engaged. I pray for forgiveness and I hope no woman ever tempers with my husband.

From what I read, it seems like YOU ARE NOT READY YET and there's nothing wrong with that. The decision to marry is a CONTRACT between TWO LIKE MINDED people. If your gut instincts is telling you to wait, then wait and let her go. The last thing you want to do is marry and have your feels hurts or your ego bruised because you don't make enough money to support your family. Many "poor" people marry all the time and live happily ever after. If you don't marry with absolute peace of mind, your marriage will be in trouble even before it starts. My two kobo.

prettmum:
@Op what about Obehie

Inbox me your contact info. Let's talk

booscy:
that would not be in aba town, you'd be looking at umuikaa and environs

I don't necessarily mean Aba town. Anywhere within/around Aba

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