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BreakingNews21:
Greetings, are you talking about a he or a she? I see confusion in your use of pronouns and still think this and the previous post are fiction for the NL gullible to waste time reading and commenting, including myself.

calm down and read the english again. you will get it. What do you mean by fiction, are people so jobless ?

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Hello,
I am writing to provide some clarifications following our earlier discussion under the mentioned headings. It has become necessary to address certain points for better understanding.

I've noticed some surprising comments, and I believe it might be attributed to cultural differences. I want to emphasize that I opened this account upon the request of a Nigerian friend who encouraged me to share my story.

My primary concern is the timing of the information about the occasion for which my spouse has been making preparations. The issue is not about mistrusting my brother; rather, it's about my spouse not sharing this information earlier.

The wedding she is attending is that of her old classmate's younger sister, a man whose name has been rarely mentioned in the ten years of our marriage. My surprise stems from the sudden revelation of her involvement in this event just a few days before the ceremony, despite the extensive preparations leading up to it. Like I said, I think she only mention the guy’s name just once when the guy had an accident. She just mentioned the accident and that was all.

Moreover, when she was even telling me of embarking on the journey, she just only said that she was attending a friend’s wedding without further details or explanation. She was merely informing me about it, because she already made all the arrangement to attend the wedding and has been discussing the issue with this same class mates for over 4 months without ever mentioning it to me, just only to inform me days to the occasion.

I hope these clarifications shed light on the specific points of concern. I appreciate your time.

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
The wedding might be the main reason she travelled to Kenya, not just for visitation.

If this person were really close enough to necessitate her risking the distance, they should have officially invited her to the wedding months ago.

Her calling to inform you is simply to obtain legitimacy and silence her inner voice, as the sly nature of women demands.

Asking your brother to tag along also buttresses the legitimacy need.
As for those asking you to trust your brother, I know a man who continually bl33p3d his brother's wife and three daughters all the time they quartered him in their house.
It's been a harrowing realisation for me, I wouldn't even trust my wife with her own brothers, nor anyone else.

Either the wedding is a hoax and she's simply reconnecting with an ex, or the wedding is a cover for her to meet with an ex, or your brother is has been eating from the same dish with you, I wouldn't know.

You sound like a simp, otherwise you should have asked basic questions like whose wedding she so desperately wants to attend and why its so important to her.

I don't understand how you could cut your wife loose to visit another country entirely for such length of time as if you never expect that bodi go one day scratch her.

I assume she's going there to cheat, that's if she's not already been doing that for the time she's already spent.

If you tell her not to attend, then let her return to the States immediately.

Otherwise, allow her to go and monitor her exhaustively once she comes back.

You should have installed spy apps on her devices long before now.
With that, you could relax with every move sge makes knowing it'll be easily to ultimately track her movements and interactions.

You paid to have this woman exclusively to yourself, don't let nobody born of a woman insecure-shame you for suspecting moves that might rubbish your marriage vows.

Believe me, I have seen adultery enough not to confer absolute trust on anyone.

If you ever suspect brother, investigate.

I duff my hat

Mindlog:
She has been in kenya for about 10 days, three days ago, she called me and said she will be attending her friend's marriage ceremonial, which is taking place 600km away ......Is the wedding holding in Kenya?

we live in the states

Kobojunkie:
Op, what exactly is it that you are afraid of? Let's start from there?

it is strange, very unlike her, she never attend events , here i literally drag her, but she ever attend social gatherings

NB, I OPENED THIS ACCOUNT FOR THIS

Hello my friends, I need you different view and please I need your in put about my wife.
We live in the states. she is in kenya for a three weeks visit with the 2 kids. She has been in kenya for about 10 days, three days ago, she called me and said she will be attending her friend's marriage ceremonial, which is taking place 600km away she did not say if the person is a male or female ( I did not ask because I was just kind of not wanting to be drawn into the discussion), she said she may not be able to come back same day, because event is starting late that she will like my brother to come with her, because she does not want to go alone. This is the first time I am hearing about this occassion, she never mentioned it before and I do not know the friend she is talking about. (or at least I am sure, because I do not really know most of friends, and she is not the friend keeping type)
I just told her that I am not ready for the discussion yet.
Please guys what are your take, I do not feel like telling her to go ( well, she may still go without my consent )
Please it may sound stupid, I just need your genuine advice